Nowhere in the post does OP say that her best friend expressly has been asking her to keep his sexuality secret. Nowhere in the post does OP say that this friend is in the closet.
I really don’t mean this in a mean way but I had to go back after reading your post to double check that this wasn’t like a 16 year old writing this post. You’re 28, you just have to find the courage to just go up and ask him out for a coffee or a drink of any kind. Just find a day that works for both of you, I saw in a comment you get off at different times but cafes stay open until late so that’s really a non issue in my eyes.
I am riddled with social anxiety as well but at some point I just had to push through it or otherwise I will just get nowhere in life. If he ends up saying “sorry I have a gf” then you just say “okay, no worries”. It doesn’t have to be some awkward interaction or awkward when you interact with him again either. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.
Nowhere in the post does OP say that her best friend expressly has been asking her to keep his sexuality secret. Nowhere in the post does OP say that this friend is in the closet.
If you're not the father why you sweatin it?
I really don’t mean this in a mean way but I had to go back after reading your post to double check that this wasn’t like a 16 year old writing this post. You’re 28, you just have to find the courage to just go up and ask him out for a coffee or a drink of any kind. Just find a day that works for both of you, I saw in a comment you get off at different times but cafes stay open until late so that’s really a non issue in my eyes.
I am riddled with social anxiety as well but at some point I just had to push through it or otherwise I will just get nowhere in life. If he ends up saying “sorry I have a gf” then you just say “okay, no worries”. It doesn’t have to be some awkward interaction or awkward when you interact with him again either. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.
This makes a lot of sense, thank you so much, sometimes a perspective from the other side is all you need 🙂
i can usually push a meltdown to home when im outside and i have SPD + AuDHD (all dxed)