I think the real issue here is that this man grew up without any damn manners. You shouldn’t have to tell him not to attempt at sex when you’re obviously in a poor place emotionally but you will have to if you want to keep the relationship strong.
I also know that men I’ve dated think that sex is a good stress reliever and that he may have been just trying to take your mind off things.
What you need to do is communicate and when y’all get on the same level, I think you’ll both be okay.
This just happened to my guy friend. His ex gf was a controlling, psycho, abusive nightmare which I saw with my own eyes. He finally broke up with her and then she convinced everyone we both knew he had been cheating with me. Never happened and never would but nice to know that's what she thought of us the whole time, yanno? Good riddance.
When I told him to go jerk off in the bathroom, it was me trying to find him a solution because I was having problems with my libido and stress so I was trying to give him a solution. I said it one time and figured if he did do that, it would be maybe once a night but not for an hour. Every single morning he watches it and goes on masturbation chat rooms for an hour, sometimes it makes him late for work. I’m uncomfortable with that amount I’m also uncomfortable with the lying, I want to have an open and honest relationship. I don’t want him to feel solitary in this problem. I have told him chatrooms are 100% not okay to me and he’s still using them.
I didn’t put it in the perspective you did, it may be my problem, I might think I’m okay with more than I’m actually okay with and I need to think about that some more. Thank you
Living apart would be going backwards. For me it would end the relationship. Neither one of you are wrong though. But it sounds like you have different needs in terms of affection and security. To be honest it sounds like this will be a difficult relationship to maintain and will require a lot of effort. Both of you should consider if it’s something you are willing to make it work.
I think the real issue here is that this man grew up without any damn manners. You shouldn’t have to tell him not to attempt at sex when you’re obviously in a poor place emotionally but you will have to if you want to keep the relationship strong.
I also know that men I’ve dated think that sex is a good stress reliever and that he may have been just trying to take your mind off things.
What you need to do is communicate and when y’all get on the same level, I think you’ll both be okay.
This whole situation is gross
This just happened to my guy friend. His ex gf was a controlling, psycho, abusive nightmare which I saw with my own eyes. He finally broke up with her and then she convinced everyone we both knew he had been cheating with me. Never happened and never would but nice to know that's what she thought of us the whole time, yanno? Good riddance.
You go find a new fwb. If you interfere with his life, you lose him anyways. Time to go.
When I told him to go jerk off in the bathroom, it was me trying to find him a solution because I was having problems with my libido and stress so I was trying to give him a solution. I said it one time and figured if he did do that, it would be maybe once a night but not for an hour. Every single morning he watches it and goes on masturbation chat rooms for an hour, sometimes it makes him late for work. I’m uncomfortable with that amount I’m also uncomfortable with the lying, I want to have an open and honest relationship. I don’t want him to feel solitary in this problem. I have told him chatrooms are 100% not okay to me and he’s still using them.
I didn’t put it in the perspective you did, it may be my problem, I might think I’m okay with more than I’m actually okay with and I need to think about that some more. Thank you
Living apart would be going backwards. For me it would end the relationship. Neither one of you are wrong though. But it sounds like you have different needs in terms of affection and security. To be honest it sounds like this will be a difficult relationship to maintain and will require a lot of effort. Both of you should consider if it’s something you are willing to make it work.
Does he think that you pee out of the vagina? A UTI isn't indicative of your vaginal cleanliness