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Date: November 4, 2022
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Thats my choice and people can have boundaries??? And there’s people out there that will respect that i dont know why your acting like there isn’t because I’ve dated people before that has
This would be the perfect time for him to get you a gift to show you he can “do better”.
But it’s the only problem we have and I don’t want to just call it quits if I could I would like advice so that we could fix this between us because my ways have failed.
Married my college sweetheart. All of our pivotal moments and stories were tied together. When we divorced I realized what I was mourning the most wasn’t him but myself. For as outgoing and confident as I was, I realized so many choices I made in terms of us and not me. This included interests, hobbies, friends.
It’s not even that he was controlling or said no. It’s just that it was easy to fall into the couple and lose the self. I think this happens a lot in younger long term relationships.
It was a bit weird to reintroduce myself to myself in my late 20s. I’ve since remarried and it’s a complete different dynamic. My husband and I love each other dearly but we both have our own passions and hobbies. It doesn’t create a distance it just makes us fall in love with the other even more.
It’s possible he didn’t have time to respond accordingly and you panicked before he could think of a good response
You are the side chick. She’s his main.
I mean she still loves you, she's your wife she just wasn't attracted to you due to your outer experience, but she loved the person you were in the inside. Why don't you try make an effort.
Try dress up as a woman, get some silicone boobs etc… and surprise her, one of my friends girls is a lesbian so he always dresses up like a girl during sex. He acts cis gender normally but durinh sex he plays like a butch trans female gender role, they've been together for a decade. His girl loves it, she gets to have sex with a woman with a dick.
She loves you, if she's worth it this is the only way to save your marriage. I mean you're just changing your outer appearance to be more pleasing during sex and acting in a different gender role
When anti choice men get what they want. Girl block, lawyer up, enforce a no contact. Sucks to be him
I wish, my mom hates my beard sooo much ?
you’re too old for him now. men who are into 19 year olds never change
Honestly this really hits home. I know deep down that this is something I can’t just let go. It’s just so hot to stop past behavior. I hate conflict and would rather apologize than endure it. But maybe this is a good exercise for the new year…? It’s so absurd that it shouldn’t be difficult to stick to my guns.
Thanks for this, I think I just need some encouragement. I so easily feel like Im the one overreacting and end up apologizing for something that made me feel bad at first
This!!
Since I don't see it mentioned anywhere, I'm hijacking the top comment. This kind of question comes up semi-frequently on r/BDSMadvice, and the answer is always the same: in a BDSM dynamic, you can withdraw consent at any time, even if you have consented before. Coercion is not consent. Nagging until you give in is not consent. Any partner that coerces you or doesn't respect your withdrawal of consent is a partner you should not have a BDSM dynamic with.
So, OP, please see that this isn't a healthy BDSM dynamic, this is a sexually abusive dynamic.
Yeah I came here to say the same. This is how they work make you feel safe and then they take your passport and you are stuck in Bulgaria. Tell her with love that she needs to becareful and smarten up 🙂
And he knows where OP lives because he took her home. Yikes! That's why I arrive separately and have my own ride.
She hasn't been lying about her income. You are going off the base guaranteed pay. Overtime is extra and not always guaranteed. It is something she can't count on to always have. This honestly sounds so damn nitpicky and greedy of you. Though, your salaries are similar enough you should be doing 50/50. But squabbling about money to this extent isn't a good sign for the future of your relationship.
Leave this friendship, you did nothing wrong
The youngest possible age i would accept for a compromise like this would be 14 ( the age when kids start having a say in custody in my country ) .
I actually find that line of thought very realistic . People set long term goals for their lives and they work for them . For the vast majority of people , moving abroad ( in any case other than a job opportunity ) would not fit with these same long term goals .
As for the last part , its like marrying someone that doesn't want kids without accepting it but only hoping they will change their mind . Doesn't work in most cases , and even in the ones that does , it creates resentment . Never base the survival of your long term relationship on the possibility that your partner will change their mind on something they are diametrically opposed . It's not a recipe for success .
As for him being unnecessarily rigid , i don't see it that way . We don't know the circumstances of his life . We don't know his skills or his education . Let me ask this . Would you relocate in a different country if it meant that your education will not really be accepted as credible and your career would go to a spot worse than the day you started ? Right now , i have a pretty good career that supports me and my family . I could possibly get the same career in an English speaking country ( but i would end up with probably something close to entry level ) . If i had to move to a non english speaking language , i would only be suited to work a minimum wage , menial labor job , since i wouldn't even know the language . It would have been pretty much a disaster that would practically erase all the work i did , both to earn my degree and to get where i am in my field . All you have to do to understand how much of a hit a career would take is to go and ask immigrants from the former Soviet Union .
Overall , in situations like this , I'd rather break up amicably before i get too invested in the relationship . They are not compatible and it's better to end it now than to end it when more entanglements exist ( shared property , kids etc ) .
You have been together 8 YEARS and you work full time and you can't/won't cover 3 months rent for her?!?
And the amount needed = 1 months salary for you?
I get that it is a lot but geez… you have been together a long time.
Her parents asked a favor and I would think you consider them like family by now. It is a one time issue and she is about to graduate. It will affect her final exams. Seems like it will benefit you in the long run. If you plan on being together as partners it makes sense. If not, then why are you with her? Are you at her apartment much? Rent free? I'm guessing you have sex there, and not at your parents house?
How is his relationship with his own family
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My (31F) partner (30M) quite abruptly ended our 6 year relationship and said his feelings have changed. Is this salvageable?
Humans often don't understand our own emotions until after we've had time to process. But rest assured, though the end seemed abrupt, he most likely felt something wrong a while ago and didn't understand the full meaning of it until now.
People change. Sometimes that leads to people realizing they don't fit anymore.
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For background, we have lived together for 9 years…. and generally have had the most wonderful relationship……
A year ago he developed depression, which was quite unexpected and it made him question the relationship, however we got him to access therapy and went on antidepressants which pulled him out the depression.
It's pretty common to feel depression in part because one feels that the relationship does not line up in some inexplicable but vital way. It's nothing personal, sometimes things just don't work right.
If this was the case with him, it wasn't the depression that made him question the relationship, it was:
Changes in him that made the relationship not work
Which in turn flipped everything upside down for him and led to the depression.
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Once he felt better he quickly realised he wanted to stay together and I think it made our relationship stronger because the past year has been one of our best.
This kind of thing can be a tricky situation. Emotions can be hot to understand for people, especially their own.
This kind of pattern is pretty common. The whole, getting depressed, then “figuring it out,” only for the problem to come back with a vengeance after that…. It indicates that the underlying problem was both deeper and misunderstood by both of you.
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However a few weeks ago he didn't seem himself, it seemed he was feeling low again and when we discussed it he said he was and wasn't sure why, but within a couple of days was back to questioning the relationship and whether this is what he wanted. He asked for some time to 'get his head together' but said he loved me very much and wanted to try make sense of this.
Again, this all makes sense. Sometimes a relationship can be healthy but just not the right one for a person.
This can make it really difficult because one may realize on one hand that they should end it, but they would also be aware that not only is it likely the best or one of the best relationships they've had up to that point, and it's going to hurt to lose it.
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We did a couple of weeks apart, touching base every now and again – and he restarted therapy and meds which he'd stopped in October last year. Then last week I went over to touch base again and he blurted out that he wants to separate. He couldn't really explain why, he said he thinks his feelings have changed but he isn't sure why and that's all he could really give me.
Yep. Pretty tell tale signs all the way through.
I have observed this in others and also experienced it directly in a relationship of my own that imploded after a few years of being the best relationship I'd had up to that point in my life.
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I was completely shell shocked if I'm honest, and I think I still am. I feel numb and devestated and completely lost. Our friends are also extremely shocked and I've had lots of 'i never ever saw you two splitting up' which is nice but very hot to hear.
One of the hardest things about this kind of breakup is how strongly both of you will have identified yourself as part of a pair.
And now you're not probably not going to be anymore and figuring out who you are can be a b+++h.
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My question is does this feel at all salvageable?
Feel? This is perhaps an unhelpful choice of words. It may feel as if it is salvageable because it's not the kind of breakup because the relationship was unhealthy.
But is it salvageable? Probably not.
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Can you save a relationship if one person thinks their feelings have changed – or can feelings even change that abruptly when a few weeks earlier everything was perfect?!
The end of a relationship does put someone through something an awful lot like the stages of grief you feel when someone passes away.
Right now you're apparently in the denial or maybe the bargaining phase.
But let's be real here.
Their feelings did not change abruptly.
And everything was not perfect.
From the moment their depression hit and they were questioning the relationship over a year ago, the truth is they had already changed into someone for whom the relationship did not suit.
And it's no one's fault. That's perhaps the best or worst part.
If not going through another pregnancy is your hardline, you need to lay it all out and ask point blank if that’s a make or break deal for her. You’d better be truly ready for her to say it’s a dealbreaker. She might not, but be ready either way.
If she agrees it’s in the best interest of your marriage not to have another pregnancy, make it contingent on you getting a vasectomy.
Your uncle is a pedophile, simple as that
So why do you expect her to?
This didn’t happen, stop it. Stop making up stories. Stop clogging this thread with BS when there are people who actually need proper advice
You have the wrong mindset. You don’t try to make a marriage work with someone that doesn’t want you or use you for a placeholder. You move on and get the divorce. He lied, cheated, and discarded you for another. Why would you trust your life to someone like that? They broke up because they were no longer ex’s and old habits came back. So now he’s chasing you because you’re an ex and someone he’s familiar with to recharge his ego. He also doesn’t want to fork out any money. Once you are not an ex he will do it again. Get a lawyer and move on.
That's interesting, for my partners and friends it seemed like the cramps were always the worst part of getting a period. I'm a guy so, no firsthand experience here. I do want to try one of those things that simulates period cramps for a dude.
I assume you don’t have kids? So why are you staying ? You don’t need this and he won’t get better. So why are you staying? Love isn’t enough. Your life will turn into resentment and your own rage.
Why is she crying so often?
Because he's mean to her.
No that’s a cowards move. Take ownership of your shitty actions and take care of the kid you made
Im at the ER with her rn, Will update when i get more info
She did her research, cleared you in her mind and so felt comfortable proceeding with the relationship. All her silence proves is that she's a mature person who isn't some gossip. You're really trying to stir up trouble, wonder why.
Holy enabling, Batman.
You've just got the whole laundry list of diagnoses to make excuses for her, dontcha?
Shiny spine. Get one. Just because psychology has words to explain her conditions doesn't mean they get excused.
She is a mediocre and shitty human being. You have nothing with her, right? No kids? No mortgage? It would be a clean break?
The only challenge you have is breaking your enabling addiction and standing up straight.