0 views
Press right there to start video or
Room for live! sex video chat babyariane
Model from: us
Languages: en,es
Birth Date: 1996-08-29
Body Type: bodyTypeCurvy
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
Hair color: hairColorBlonde
Eyes color: eyeColorHazel
Subculture: subcultureGlamour
Date: October 16, 2022
Oh dude it's that guy! I remember reading that post and thinking it wasn't gonna work out. Now this?
Yeah. Either this isn't real or OP needs to get out and then go see a doctor.
I don't usually cum from blowjobs either but not cumming from sex is pretty sus. I don't wanna call OP gay but…..
My neighbor and his wife went through something similar after they had their first child. Turned out to be a hormone imbalance. Funny enough, he’s an investor in an integrative medicine practice that mostly does hormone replacement therapy. Got that situation reversed right quick.
I (38m) completely lost my sex drive over the course of a highly emotionally abusive 10 year relationship. After being released, got my testosterone levels tested and I was solidly in the average range of most women, way way below the average range for most men. Started T replacement therapy myself and it has been life changing. It was a wild ride to figure out the right dose though as I am a fast metabolizer. Had some major panic attacks when my testoterone and estrogen levels flipped with weekly shots, now I take very frequent smaller doses which works great.
I never knew how much of an affect hormones have on our well-being, wish I’d learned much earlier in life.
Sounds like she is not over him. Keep her as a fwb maybe
So, I’ve been working since 1992 and have saved zero dollars. I have been a spender my whole life and live paycheck-to-paycheck despite earning degrees and making a good salary. I literally can’t be bothered about finances and budgeting and I make terrible decisions. I know this is to my detriment, and something has to give. I feel like I need a service to pay my bills and give me an allowance, which I would spend ALL of, every single time.
I say all of that to say this: your man is not going to improve on his own. He is reinforcing terrible habits and will find “extra” money wherever he can, whether that’s borrowing money from you or his mother or a friend, and he most likely won’t pay it back. If the two of you have joint finances, he will spend them. The only solution here is that you control everything, which I know from experience will not feel like much of a partnership for you. You guys will constantly be working against each other, because you have very different goals.
Get out of this now before you end up dealing with something equal to what his ex is going through.
After you leave him, but before you even think of dating again, you need a mental health intervention. None of this is normal and the fact that you were justifying his bs before he told you the whole story is really concerning. Everything about this guy is a red flag and you just excepted it. Healthy, functioning adults do not not behave this way or surround themselves with “people” like him.You will continue putting yourself in dangerous relationships if you don't get help. You are an abusive partner's wet dream.
I'm okay, really. Funny tidbit is that for my whole life I've had Greeks ask me if I was Greek and I always said not that I know of. Turns out I'm like REALLY Greek and Italian. lol My mom was Polish. 🙂
For a long time I was worried about the rejection, which is why my husband reached out for me. Realising he was just a coward and he took the easy way out for my whole life, and nothing was going to change that, helped. I've had therapy over my abandonment and isolation issues, too. If he had just been open about it from the start (his wife knows about me), then it wouldn't be such a huge thing all these years later. But apparently nobody else knows, especially once his father died, his mother hated my existence. Nothing I can do about that, and I'm not invested, or mean, enough, to ruin his and his family's life. His kids didn't make the choices that led here. There's a good chance my kids are the only grandkids he will ever have though, so his loss.
No it’s not and again I’m just giving theories and info and it isn’t relevant to her post and I never said you couldn’t ask the question just that her reasons are not relevant at this moment.
No. Don’t allow your partner to speak to you like that. Not even jokingly.
Isolating you and telling you what you can and cannot do is abusive.
My man.
Her family's right. Good luck.
u/Whatsa_usernam3, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Point out those stupid non points and reason them why. Stupid fatass.
Don't blame me for thinking it. My parents taught me that motto
Have some respect for yourself and dump his cheating ass
u/JuggerNaut_9818, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
I would leave her alone for now
Also she's acting immature
Don't fall for her tricks
1 get a DNA test, as the dad you have the right to find our, a normal pregnancy women wouldn't block the father of her baby
2 don't sign anything
This includes getting her a loan, signing a house or paying rent for her It will screw u over for years
3 if ur in the US do NOT have your name on the birth certificate as that traps so many men and if it turns out that rhe baby isn't yours… u accept parental right and in some states you could face jail time if u don't pay child support
4 done EVER give her cash
If she needs something, get it for buy never give her cash… u end up as her personal cash cow
5 don't marry her
Dispite what some people think…..marrying the mother of your future child rare goes well now a days
6 have all commutation through text
If she's the petty kind be wary hence text communication, one day it could save your ass
7 if the kid is you're open a trust fund for your kid and don't tell her about it, especially if she's in financial trouble
8 you can physically buy a range of baby products from dummies, tapppies amd loafs I mean loads of baby wipes
9 ask her to send you amazon wish list and see what to can do
10 save money
Again she might be petty snd easily jealous… especially if you get a new GF and stops letting you see the kid… with the money you saved you can lawyer up more easily also if there's a health emergency you can cover the cost with less hardship on yourself
I'm a 32 female and so many people give alot of men crap for not sticking around and I applaud you for wanting to provide
Chose your partners more carefully, use protection and expect at least 18 years of drama
If you can reach out to her parents that you want to support her they might kick her up the ass
Both of you need therapy or something to improve your relationship as being on terrible terms isn't good or heathly
Dump him
Walk away. Why keep pursuing someone that doesn't put in any effort
Yes, don't chase it anymore more. Leave the ball in her court
Walk away bro.
Her family knows she will never find a good man with this behavior. They do not have your best interest ar heart. Your family and friends does. If she was Even close to a Nice person at least some of your friends or family would advocate for a «second» chance, when noone is doing it you know they dont like her at all, and for good reason.
I would not be surprised if this was some kind of test to see what she would Get away with. It is not anxiety or a reflex. It is shitty violent behavior. Any close to normal person would be extremely sorry for this if it was Even remotely an accident, and would litteraly drop everything to make good on their actions.
This could easily Get you arrested, beaten up or worse. Your gut is right, run and do not look back.
Walk away bro.
Her family knows she will never find a good man with this behavior. They do not have your best interest ar heart. Your family and friends does. If she was Even close to a Nice person at least some of your friends or family would advocate for a «second» chance, when noone is doing it you know they dont like her at all, and for good reason.
I would not be surprised if this was some kind of test to see what she would Get away with. It is not anxiety or a reflex. It is shitty violent behavior. Any close to normal person would be extremely sorry for this if it was Even remotely an accident, and would litteraly drop everything to make good on their actions.
This could easily Get you arrested, beaten up or worse. Your gut is right, run and do not look back.
Hello /u/ifukupeveryday,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
So, he is more over weight than you and is bitching to you about yours>
Ummm, no nope not happening ever.
Tell him to F off!
Then you’re not. He seems to agree that it isn’t your concern if he can’t be bothered to reach out with consistency — no one is that busy.
Regardless this arrangement shouldn’t be triggering unpleasant feelings like that so maybe he’s not the right match for you.
Don’t tell her you want her to be your mom. She’s not old enough to be your mother and she is happy being like a big sister. Enjoy your relationship without putting unnecessary labels on it. Being friends is enough. You’re lucky to have her so don’t ruin it by making her uncomfortable.
Legal advice is what you need. Sounds like elder abuse.
Aw nooooo lol, no they do not. But they have a living room they just loooove to spend time together in. They’ll sit there all day and smoke and watch tv or watch each other play video games. So actually kinda yeah. Realistically the way things are, I could not do this long term. I want to bring these things up to him and give him a chance to prioritize me but after that, im not wasting any of my time.
Yeah, that's my fear 🙁
Yeah I don’t think she wants to have sex with him. Ive been on that side of things before in a slightly different scenario (I never dated/slept with my girl best friend) so I get it. I just feel sometimes they are actually a couple the way she talks about him. If she is single and not interested in dating people then cool but It feels based on what she is saying I’m keeping him around if we don’t work out. Idk.
His “satisfaction” is his responsibility. Your satisfaction is yours.
It's not your responsibility to be available 24/7. If you have such a high sex drive you ALWAYS want to give blow jobs, have you communicated this to him? Does he know you feel this way?
Honestly, can you give any good reason to stay with such a horrible person? Everything around this relationship sounds awful and toxic, why would you want to stay. Yeah, everyone here is going to tell you to break up, if you are just in need of reassurance that that's the right thing to do, well, it is absolutely the right thing to do. Best of luck in the future, hope the next person in your life is way better than this dude.
Time to go. Your soon to be ex is an ass
That's well said. I hope I don't trip over my words if I do go that route. Thank you.
I have lived in my house for almost 15 years. I have never told my age to a single neighbor.
Well the end of the relationship is near once the words”Open relationship” gets brought up 99% of the time cheating,jealousy, or falling in love with someone else is about to happen
still find it weird lol
Condoms are effective at keeping goblins away if you use them properly, just like any other birth control.
If you don't want one, do not feel pressured in to getting one, if this leaves you at cross roads you may have to choose leaving her over the sovereignty of your body.
I'm sure you wouldn't force her to do anything she wasn't comfortable with.
You’re being such a psycho and actively ignoring parts of the story. He is cool with open, I am not. I don’t even want to fuck other ppl. I just want to get over my dude if we MUST break up (which I don’t wanna do)
But saying you can't even look at them and treating them differently because of weight gain is.
At the end of the day, you’re obviously two consenting adults. But the assumption would be that you’re in different life stages which makes it problematic. What’s the deal?
Awww that is so sweet…it's perfect…give it to him on valentine's
NOT TAMLINNNNNN???????
Woah woah woah. Your edit. You are NOT a bad mom. What the heck. No. Yes her dad is kinda shitty, but you’re doing everything you can to provide for that little girl and are giving her a loving, caring home. Try not to beat yourself up about who her dad is. There are many ways he could be worse. It’s okay. You’re doing your best and your best is enough for her.
I can’t even get black out drunk, my IBS makes me throw it up??
You move past it in your own truck without him.
Thank you so much! I didn’t know how to start
Is it worth questioning the relationship over this. God yes.
He's acting in a punishing way for SEVEN MONTHS bc he doesn't like something you're doing? That is nonsense and strikes me as narcissistic behavior. If you stay with him, it will only get worse.
There are always lessons to be learned. At least you didn't marry yours like I did. However, I don't consider my marriage and subsequent divorce a complete failure. It was a lesson. The lesson I learned is to know my worth. I learned what I do and don't want in a relationship. What kind of behavior I'm willing to accept or not. And it's been 10 years since I left my wife and I have finally found the woman of my dreams. Patience. You'll find her.
How is your home life? Is your wife a SAHM? What's your work life balance? How involved are you with parenting and managing the household?
Generally the best way to help your wife's libido is by easing some of the emotional and physical burdens of being a parent. With less of her time and energy spent on caring for others, she can focus on caring for herself and her body. This is not a guarantee of course but it is a good starting point.
If you get rejected and you persist, it's only going to create problems. The kind of problems that involve HR. Also, asking someone “to be your valentine” is a cute thing young people do, not really for people in their 30's. Yeah some people that age probably still say that still, but they are the exception, not the rule.
People in their 30's and up generally prefer the more direct approach. Don't ask her to be your valentine or if she'd be willing to go on some ambiguous date. Just ask her if she'd like to go get dinner or even a coffee after work.
They also don't usually go for guys who get nervous and chicken out in the middle of asking. That was cute back in high school, but it just looks immature by your 30's.
I'm sorry this happened, but most guys usually get rejected. Any normal guy will be rejected several times before they get a girl on a date, so that's not just you. So don't obsess over a girl for 8 months before asking, because she's likely to say no. If you like a girl, just stop and chat with her a few times. If she's friendly back, just ask her out. If she says no, look for the next one. Eventually one will say yes. Good luck
Dude, if she will be seeing other people. Block her and work on your issue.
It’s very hot to like someone when you’re not yourself when you’re around them. So the important question might not be how to like them but why aren’t you being yourself?
Funnily enough, if you are “tighter”, it's because it's not doing it for you.
I don't know why you're calling this guy your “friend.” He's not your friend.
To be fair she’s an adult. He needs to speak to her calmly to find out what’s going on. If it’s before the legal age the she’d definitely Need some thought of therapy but not if it’s between two consenting adults
“My bf is a serial killer who eats babies and tortures grandmas, should I try to make this work or should I end it?”
I swear there's a variation of this posted hourly on the sub. How can you possibly type all that out and not have your answer by then?
She didn’t ask “do you find me beautiful”, which could be a reasonable way to fish for compliments. “Am I the most beautiful” is very different
Block him. It doesn't matter what he tells anyone else. Anyone who believes him with his track record over you isn't someone whose opinion should matter that much. Get into therapy. Obviously, being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist can fuck you up for life and you need to get some help coping with that abuse so that you can have healthy relationships in the future. But beyond that, something made yo blow by all the warning signs to date someone with an abusive history who is nearly THREE TIMES YOUR AGE. You're gonna wanna unpack all of that.
Block him. It doesn't matter what he tells anyone else. Anyone who believes him with his track record over you isn't someone whose opinion should matter that much. Get into therapy. Obviously, being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist can fuck you up for life and you need to get some help coping with that abuse so that you can have healthy relationships in the future. But beyond that, something made yo blow by all the warning signs to date someone with an abusive history who is nearly THREE TIMES YOUR AGE. You're gonna wanna unpack all of that.
A goodbye kiss isn’t a romantic thing. It’s simply a way to say goodbye. You’re treating it as if she’s making out with people and it doesn’t seem like that’s the case.
Well it’s her fault she messed up not you, try not to feel bad. A relationship is about communication
Of course there's gaslighting, he tells her it's her fault that he did this. OP, you really need to leave, but you're going to need a plan and somewhere to hide. The level of his rage and now blaming you is what happens just before he really beats the crap out of you, for no reason whatsoever. Soon all you'll have to do is look at him 'wrong' and he'll start pummeling you.
You aren't married, you have no kids, RUN!!! Why do you stay? Do you think you can help him? He doesn't want help, he blames you and 'makes you pay' for every perceived slight. Do you need him to put you in the hospital before you accept that you are a victim of physical and emotional abuse? He's groomed you, he always leaves that little bit of hope so he can keep you there to 'help/heal him'. I'm sorry, but there is no hope.
Go ahead and get a restraining order if it makes you feel better. It's just a piece of paper that won't stop him, and the police won't get there fast enough to save you. The statistics, according to Alexa and Google is 11% of every 231 women have a restraining order in place when the male intimate kills them. About one-fifth of the female IPH (?) victims who had a restraining order were killed within 2 days of the order being issued, about one-third were killed within a month.
Don't become a statistic. This is not the life your parents were raising for. Put a plan together, make arrangements to leave while he's gone and do it. Pack the stuff you need, the rest is material and can be replaced. A few weeks after I'd had my second child I went to a relatives funeral with a black eye and bruised/cracked ribs, but he was sorry and promised it would never happen again. It didn't, he just kept the bruises where they'd be covered by clothes instead. Please don't stay, they don't change. You really are in grave danger!
OP, rather than go through the whole dinner thing why not just ask her to do a test in front of you?
I'm caught in the middle of all of this and I just have no idea what to do.
Why do YOU have to do anything? Why are you the problem solver between your girlfriend and her family?
She doesn't like therapists because she feels like they never see her side. Again, no idea wtf to do.
If what she is looking for from a therapist is validation that she is always right and everyone else is wrong then it doesn't surprise me that she “doesn't like therapists”. That's not what therapists are for. Therapists are there to help people process their emotions and understand their behaviours and choices, and to suggest tools to help people do those things in their day to day lives.
Should we find some sort of family therapy? I think she needs to be able to dissociate from her pain so she can discuss things calmly otherwise it's always going to end in screaming and crying.
I definitely think SHE should be working with a therapist on her own. (And, she is allowed to scream and cry at her therapist – she should find one who is trained to deal with people with volatile emotions who can help her learn to regulate and manage her strong emotional impulses.)
Why break up? Why can't you go with her? She's not telling you everything
at least tell him you are thinking about breaking up, because of it, if you have not yet discussed to what lenghts it is a dealbreaker to you.
Nothing you've mentioned here is an unreasonable expectation from her. You shouldn't have a girlfriend if you don't want to prioritise spending some time with her. Let her go, so she can find someone who does.
Is your husband an 8 year old boy? My teenage sons don’t require coercing to shower.
And the fact that his cleaning himself is doing YOU favor and not himself? Gross.
It takes men 5 minutes to shower. Tell him to grow up.
Yes I agree but when in a relationship the girlfriend should meet the boyfriends friends and vice versa
I take lyrica NOW! I will watch myself! Uh oh!
BagMan, have you been seeing most of the 18 warning signs that I described above? Do you have any questions?
Maybe talk to her and see how she feels? Unfortunately you already broke up with her then came back the next day… If it wasn't for that, maybe you two could've agreed to take a pause and maybe see other horizons?
Am I missing something? OP seems patient and concerned, but the way I interpreted it, he has yet to talk to SO?
Clearly, she doesn't want to stop vaping. To the point where she doesn't care lying to you.
I think you better break up because at this point you don't trust her.
He has repeatedly done this after you told him not to. Repeatedly. Despite your requests, despite your explanations, despite your discomfort. You have a very good reason to “assume” that's what he was going to do.
He's not mad that you assume he's going to disregard your boundaries, he's mad you called him out and he didn't get to disregard your boundaries again. If he actually was changing his behavior he should be taking accountability for why his prior behavior has made him untrustworthy, which is the opposite of what he's doing here.
The short takeaway is that he isn't forgetting you don't like it, he's doing this *because* you don't like it. Which means, at its core, he is getting pleasure or satisfaction from your discomfort.
Please do with that information what you will.
Two things really stand out to me…They did this in a situation where they could rather easily be caught. And your sister hasn't even reached out to you.
I just…Have a gut feeling that this absolutely was not the first time that something happened between them.
She understands just fine, she is just gaslighting like all cheaters.
You said it yourself op. Thank you for thinking of me and doing something to celebrate. But concerts are my least favorite things to do. Maybe next year for our birthdays I’ll get you concert tickets and for my birthday we can do something more intimate
Just send them an envoys for the tings they broke/ damaged and take them to small claims courts if they don’t pay up. As to your boyfriend, he’s a dimwhit . just let him be with the girl he wants and get all the anal he wants because she’s gonna fuck him over.. what a tool.. you deserve allot better..
I am not sympathising with him but I guess he probably is also stressed out. Of course Op is way much more stressed out.
I think op and he needs to take a step back and ask for more help from friends and family. Having a child is stressful (and that's why CF people usually live longer). He needs to put on his big boy pants and step up.
Yeah, when you’ve been together for 6 months and your partner hasn’t been sexually compatible with you for months of that, why even continue the relationship? You know you’re not compatible. Comparing 6-months dating to 25-years married is like comparing apples to oranges. Totally different scenarios here.
Don’t forget that she claims to be in love with another man and refuses to break contact with him. She would rather have this man she works with (who may have no idea she’s in love with him) in her life than recommit to her husband.
Your friend is absolutely right.
BTW, your post history seems to indicate you have been in a lot of toxic and unhealthy relationships. You really could benefit from being single and re-examine why you choose such imbalanced relationships.
Girl, I had ZERO problem getting men when I was 300+ pounds. I am 1000% serious. Getting men to date you is literally the easiest thing on earth.
NOoo!! Do not tell him. If you tell him and break up in bad terms then everyone at work will know. You want all your coworkers to know? Take that information to your grave.
Wow, you really are 19. Why don’t you stay single for a while and let yourself date and have fun. Your girlfriend would be really hurt. If she knew you had somebody else so be kind or let her go and you do whatever it is you’re gonna do for the next 10 years?
Sounds like he needs to find some sort of hourly work to help out until he finds something better.
I will take your advice. But you’re really saying that after 5 years he’s still holding on to this? I 100% have to get ahead of this before he gets petty with me.
Having to discuss every little decision about the child, including spending nights just kinda tells me there’s not that much trust on both sides for the other to make a right decision if they need to check with the other first. I shouldn’t have to check with my partner if I say no to her spending the night somewhere
Good for you!
Yep agreed.
Crushes are normal and people get them all the time. Don't beat yourself up about it and get on out there my son!
OP I saw that you called and texted him. I hope he gets back to you. Please give us an update. I wish you the best! I had my son at your age and it’s very hot but I, like you decided to have it even though I had not been ready prior.
That's right, she's been more emotional and less rational all along
Reading for the win
Unfortunately I don't drive (medical condition) so taking transit to the gym middle of my day doesn't really work. In the summer I can probably find a gym within biking distance from work but then I will need to pay for two separate gym memberships. But I'll consider seeing if I can make it work.
Move on!! He might be able to put his ex behind him, but he is stuck with his poor character. You need to do some soul searching if you’re even tempted to reconnect with someone you don’t even respect. Is it just about boning him or something?
We are long distance friends cause she went to NY and I to LA, so we don’t really spend much time together, i don’t know if it’s about time spent shared together being reduces
Stop that wishing talk.
She doesn’t need to. You wish she did.
You are signing up for of hear your future wife complaining about her.
I don’t understand your reasoning for waiting but okay
Which country are you from may I ask? Cause I thought me paying almost $10000 a year(including apartment) was expensive and my university is one of the most expensive in South Africa, well that was about 9 years ago I guess university is now so expensive, feels like daylight robbery
i just miss my hamster, you know ?
When you're an idiot like this you deserve what you get
You should be old enough not to fall for all the standard cheater lines but alas
Enjoy it while it lasts and maybe figure out how comfy you are with cheating
Have y'all ever considered anal? It can create a similar form of intimate connection and it may be easier for her to acclamate to it. She may even enjoy it.
Whilst we were dating in our first year
For instance, things like drugs or illegal content relating to children.
For instance, things like drugs or illegal content relating to children.
She needs to grow up. Nothing for you to do. Have you ever pointed out to her the cause and effect of taking trips and going out and being broke? Has she been raised to be like this?
So, based on the breakdown in finances YOU provided, she's absolutely paying more for you to maintain your lifestyle. The rest of this post is such a train wreck that I'm not going to bother explaining. However, as much as you don't like it, you should break up. Not for your sake though.
She's 34yo. Of course she's had inappropriate feelings with a coworker. It's common and something we learn to manage.
All your evidence or lack of suggests she managed the relationship appropriately and avoided a physical affair.
Knowledge is power. Now you know 'who' to keep an eye on.
You cried about your daughter and gf making cookies. You need therapy.
Oh hell to the NO! You were together for 7 years before you got married… why on earth did you marry this dude? You need to plan your exit strategy, like NOW. This isn't a “therapy” thing, this is a “get the hell out” thing and take care of yourself.
Thank you, there’s a lot in the article that is relevant to my case…
I’m wondering why you hesitate to tell him. “Blech I just found out (Herman’s) gonna be there. Looks like I’m gonna have to pretend I don’t want to kick him in the balls”
If you tell him you are a virgin, he might decide to make it his goal to take your virginity. Then he will be really nice to you, maybe even lie to you about how much he cares about you, until you finally give in.
If you tell him you are a virgin, you will never know if he's being nice because he's a nice person, or if he is mostly interested in tricking you into having sex with him.
It's not the clothes. It's control. Its NEVER, you hear me, N E V E R just about the clothes.
You're 19. LEAVE.
leave the man alone
Your father and his wife have literally no moral compass, and your mother who (bless her) has so little self respect that she’s constantly insisting her awful ex and his AP deserve infinite grace, are not people who’s live and decision making are worth emulating.
You have the opportunity to set real boundaries, to keep yourself and your new family emotionally safe. Do that! Don’t let guilt drag to into maintaining relationships that aren’t deserving of it.
It wasn't nice. I feel bad but not really. You can't be mad at the person you're constantly throwing pebbles at when a rock comes flying back your way.
That's the thing, she didn't want some of my time. She wanted all of it. I make room for at least one date night a week and make sure that at least one a month is fancy where we dress nice and go out. I always make time tontalk to her about her day when i'm cooking and we always eat dinner together. She took the bulk of my time. But I like my “me time”. And she didn't appreciate me taking that time or enjoying it. She just didn't have an equivalent. When i'm on my own enjoying myself she's just watching shows or browsing social media. So I got fed up. I tolerated it for a long while. But I'm over it.
They didn’t just show up yesterday. I agree, trans people have been around for years, but never to this scale and never so publicised
He can fuck all the way off. A stranger, during a first sexual encounter, tried to strangle you without any prior consent or forewarning. And now wants to cry victim cause you gave him a black eye.
I'd tell him to call the cops or leave you alone.
He sounds manipulative, at best.
He’s not mad. He knows how she was raised. He knows who he is. I remember it. She’s more scared of her God than my son is.
Do you think her family would accept you, if you did convert?
I worry about her dad's anger issues. There isn't much you can do to reason with someone like that.
What does she say when you talk to her about all of this?
Does she know that her mother confronted you like that? If so, how does she feel about it?
Yeah, well he wants to have sex again.
Is your friend a dog nutter? Far too many people think bad behavior from dogs is funny. And many hate cats. Either way, the video sounds sick. You behaved fine, your friend has issues.
If she were your age would you be interested in her romantically?
How about: You are a good friend, but I am not interested in a romance with you.
If she's attractive, you can tell her, but I wouldn't.
Yea but shes a hurt person and is “trying her hardest” but idk how it can be very hot o give yourself to someone like me especially considering her past
You don’t know if she’s married still. You need to just ask her.
Far inferior to pocket sand, though!
She needs to control her temper. This is a problem she started, not you. Also you've had back surgery! That's messed up. She can't be this rowdy and complain you aren't taking care of her, especially when you aren't in a position to. She needs to fix that herself. She really is throwing a tantrum for nothing and I feel it might be common for her since you mention it.
Go to school 2 hours away. Come back at weekends to see your parents and bf.
I forgave him multiple times because I thought he would change. He said he’ll change. I think He is trying. I’ve never been like this any of my previous relationships. I would’ve walked away if this had happened to me in my other relationships. But idk I can’t just walk away from him. I keep wanting to try and fix things
I don’t know what bipolar looks like from the outside but she’s very consistent in terms of her moods , she doesn’t switch up or change her moods at all really
He knew there was a child who passed at your hospital and he still refused to drive? For fucks sake, he should have brought you dinner and some wine!! Why are you still with him? He seems very selfish.
He’s obviously not the one if you want kids and he doesn’t. Or won’t even give you a straight answer. You’re waiting for him to say yes. Sad.
As far as I know, Larry David can be a rude asshole but is not violent or agressive.
She is not your girlfriend. And she's not interested in that with you.
You either accept the friendship. Or move on.
I wish you luck. You need it.
Are you more angry she didn't tell you or more angry that she won't do certain things with you in the bedroom that she did in the videos?
I feel you'd be fine if she was just as adventurous in the bedroom, but she's not and you are majorly salty about it.
Yeah… I do after he goes down on me.
…..
You were not together.
His storming off was his problem in not being able to accept that your relationship ended, and getting jealous.
As you were not in a relationship, why did you even care if he was talking to you or not?
How is it giving you the silent treatment when you are not in a relationship anymore?
The moment you broke up, the requirement for you both to talk and interact with each other stoped. If you were both stupid enough to keep spending time together after breaking up then that’s on you (and him) but neither of you get to complain about the other’s behaviour. (Unless it’s threatening or concerning for your safety)
Nothing you describe sounds controlling or manipulative on your part, but if you want to know if you are or not, then evaluate the decisions you made, the comments and actions you made over the last few months, especially over this issue, and see if any of them were deliberately designed to try to change his response to favour you. Then see if those decisions, comments, actions were necessary how they were made.
Him on the other hand, quite a lot of what you describe is controlling and manipulative (possibly not consciously especially if he had just started therapy, but that’s a very slim possibility)
Maybe he should consider going to graduate school. That will help reset his career. Depending on is major, grad school can be paid with tuition waived.
Thank you!
We are working things out! I'm very hopeful that we will find something that we will both be happy with.
Sounds like you aren't ready to be in a relationship. Meeting the people important to whomever you are dating is a very natural and progressive part of dating. If you aren't interested or ready then it could be time to break up.
You're welcome! I wish you and your child the best.
This is what started to happen in the past month. I’m not a moron, I would have left a long time ago if things had always been like this.
There’s a reason it’s a bad idea to move in together so fast. You’ve found it. Makes it harder to get out when you realize it’s not a good fit.
If you want to give it a shot you need to use your words and actually communicate to her how you feel and what you want. You’re not a passenger in this relationship but you’re acting like one.
If you’re just done then make your exit plan to move out.
She sounds pretty desperate for marriage and kids. I wouldn’t be having sex with someone who was that pushy if I were a man not ready for kids.
Hes not her patient though
you need to decide if you want to stay in this relationship or leave. But therapy is needed for you to work on why you pick this type of person. It sound like you are putting to much energy into your relationship and expecting a return from someone who can't give the same level back.
A spouse “withholding affection” isn't an excuse for trying to cheat. It isn't on you OP.