You say – All my savings went into this wedding – and
our home is solely in his name –
You had a 5 years long relationship. How that was decided and structured? Was his home before you got together? Or, he suggested this arrangement? Did he use his money to pay the house while you paid for living expenses? According to your answer one could even contemplate a long and patient plan on his part to trap you to where you stand now. If this is the case I would stretch my finances a little more, even borrowing it from friends and family, and get professionals involved (financial and legal). Good luck to you and your children.
Been married 23 years and we’ve always done our own laundry. We share doing the common things like bedding and towels. But we never have arguments about not having clean clothes.
I think you should have talked to him first about changing the way you are doing it after so many years though. You did kinda blindside him with that.
You could still be friends.
Two points in this reply make me wonder.
You say – All my savings went into this wedding – and
our home is solely in his name –
You had a 5 years long relationship. How that was decided and structured? Was his home before you got together? Or, he suggested this arrangement? Did he use his money to pay the house while you paid for living expenses? According to your answer one could even contemplate a long and patient plan on his part to trap you to where you stand now. If this is the case I would stretch my finances a little more, even borrowing it from friends and family, and get professionals involved (financial and legal). Good luck to you and your children.
Been married 23 years and we’ve always done our own laundry. We share doing the common things like bedding and towels. But we never have arguments about not having clean clothes.
I think you should have talked to him first about changing the way you are doing it after so many years though. You did kinda blindside him with that.
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