I have considered it. I try to keep him separate from my mental health problems as I never want to put that pressure on someone to help with my well-being. I worry that if I split up with him I will feel even worse and like I’ve made a horrible mistake
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We had broken up for a month. We have a daughter together who is 2. We dated around 5 years.
We were talking about getting back together. He told me he had slept with his ex wife. It crushed me and I told him that now we aren’t ever getting back together and I’m done. It has been a turbulent relationship from the start.
He told me he was going to show me how much he regrets it and that he loves me. I knew what he was saying so I called the police to go to where he was. He has overdosed.
His ex wife told me how she was at the hospital but couldn’t get info because I’m the emergency contact. In my hurt I was rude. I then apologized. But she told me how he talked poorly of me and her family hates me.
I’m involved with her family because I’m her two children’s step parental figure. Or was.
I’m so hurt and I’m so angry. I also lost an important Family member on the 14th.
My biggest question is, once he wakes up (if he does. Doctors said he should but brain damage is unknown yet) how do I continue to be kind and gentle but also let him know I can’t be with him anymore and I want to move on. Permanently. I’m so scared he will do it again. I’m riddled with guilt because I was furious with him right before he did it and I wasn’t being exactly kind.
100% you need marriage counselling.
At a guess, if you don't, you won't last.
If he refuses, well, what does that say about his commitment to you and your relationship?
Realistically you probably aren't the 6th either. She probably just listed guys she was more serious with and skipped hook ups, ONS, etc.
Yes, you're being unreasonable. Time to move on and focus your energy on something else.
I have considered it. I try to keep him separate from my mental health problems as I never want to put that pressure on someone to help with my well-being. I worry that if I split up with him I will feel even worse and like I’ve made a horrible mistake
He sounds like an insecure man baby. He needs to learn to get past his insecurities, maybe suggest therapy or something to him.
Women are not rehabilitation centers for damaged men.
Dump him. These attitudes don’t change.
Stop. You are not apologizing for her at this point, you’re doing it to make yourself feel better. That isn’t kind. It’s manipulative.
Move on. Work on your confidence. The next relationship will go better if you let this go.
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We had broken up for a month. We have a daughter together who is 2. We dated around 5 years.
We were talking about getting back together. He told me he had slept with his ex wife. It crushed me and I told him that now we aren’t ever getting back together and I’m done. It has been a turbulent relationship from the start.
He told me he was going to show me how much he regrets it and that he loves me. I knew what he was saying so I called the police to go to where he was. He has overdosed.
His ex wife told me how she was at the hospital but couldn’t get info because I’m the emergency contact. In my hurt I was rude. I then apologized. But she told me how he talked poorly of me and her family hates me.
I’m involved with her family because I’m her two children’s step parental figure. Or was.
I’m so hurt and I’m so angry. I also lost an important Family member on the 14th.
My biggest question is, once he wakes up (if he does. Doctors said he should but brain damage is unknown yet) how do I continue to be kind and gentle but also let him know I can’t be with him anymore and I want to move on. Permanently. I’m so scared he will do it again. I’m riddled with guilt because I was furious with him right before he did it and I wasn’t being exactly kind.