We have been together for nearly 12 years now and am always thought we had an extremely special relationship. I never thought we would have to deal with cheating but here we are.
So I lately came to find out that my partner cheated on me twice when we were long distance doing our masters, more than ten years ago. She hooked up using this guy who was in her class. And never told me everything. We did our experts, then moved to the same town and got engaged and eventually got married. I thought of us since fairy tale couple (yes I realize it was naive).
How did I find out after 10 years? My wife had a falling out with her best friend and she messaged me to tell me exactly what my wife had done. My wife didnt deny but she actually is adamant it was just two drunken hookups and when she realized what she had done she was extremely ashamed and cut the guy off from her living and severely curtailed her drinking too. The drinking thing is true, she really rarely drinks for the past ten years. But thats not really the idea anymore.
Ever since I found out I am very conflicted, part of me wants to end this but other part says it was more than 10 years ago and we both were youthful and stupid. On top of that nearly all my friends and family say that I should give her one more chance as this wounderful woman has been an amazing partner to get so long. My wife has been extremely distraught since I found out and she is willing to do everything to earn back my believe in, no matter how long it takes. I might really like some advise on how to deal with this. Especially from unlucky people who might have been in my circumstance.
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