Help! I think my husband (35M) is embarrassed to be seen with me (32F), am I looking too much into this?

As the title says, I think my husband might be embarrassed to be seen with me. For better understanding we have been together for over 10 years and have kids together. I just recently gave birth in February. Over the course of a year or so, our relationship has drastically, drastically changed and I think this might be the worst yet. Back in 2022, he had to travel for training for his job, he started going out every single day with his coworkers, he’d lie and say no females were there but I knew there were based on his coworkers posts. The going out part wasn’t an issue to me, it was the fact that he was going out to bars and clubs, I had spent a better part of the relationship begging him to take me to a bar or club, I just wanted to experience these types of settings once, he’d tell me no bc that wasn’t him, he didn’t like those kinds of places, so we never went. Things took a sudden change when in the midst of a fight I received screenshots from someone showing me my husband’s Hinge account, he was looking for women in the area he had traveled to, I didn’t know how to feel and before I could leave, I ended up getting pregnant. Still, even after getting caught and all these problems, he didn’t change, he doesn’t take me out, he doesn’t invite me anywhere, I’m just the mother of his kids who takes care of them 24/7. We are never seen together, we hadn’t been around family at all until Easter, boy was that day one of the worst days of my life. Trying to get ready to go to his family’s party, we got into an extremely huge fight, we showed up extremely late and he ignored me the whole time. Instead, he talked to his brother’s wife more than he talked to me, sat in the living room with them while I was stuck with our kids, everyone left and that’s when he came to find me so we could leave. A few weeks later his boss had a bbq at her house and invited everyone, he stayed there until about 1:00 AM (he had been there since 5:00 PM). I didn’t think much of it, didn’t even have a problem until he came home extremely drunk talking about how all his coworkers took their spouses and that they were all cool and easy to get along with. Why didn’t he ask me to join? Why didn’t he try to invite me? I don’t understand. We don’t go on dates, we don’t go anywhere. It’s just me and the kids. Mother’s Day came, his family had another party, it was themed and we all had our outfits ready to go, but even on Mother’s Day, he couldn’t be nice to me. He busted my lip, he didn’t try to help me with the kids, he just laid in bed all day. No gifts, no flowers, nothing but a busted lip. He flat out said we weren’t going to the party. I ended up having to drop my oldest with his aunt so they could go and enjoy the party. I ended up staying home, it was such a miserable day. I couldn’t believe it, not even bc it was Mother’s Day could he be nice to me. I don’t understand why he doesn’t take me anywhere, does it seem like he’s embarrassed to be seen with me? Am I looking in too deep?

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