My grandma lets the farmer keep his sheep on her field. I live! with her as her carer. Basically he's been coming round to say hi to me the last few months. He's brought a few chocolate bars for me and he brought some wildflower seeds for me to plant too. I gave him beer in return lol. I thought this was entirely innocent until a couple weeks ago, he told me something pretty personal about a loss of a family member. I thought "Wow, I didn't think we were close enough to talk about stuff like this." It sort of segwaed onto some of my family issues, and he said "aw I didn't mean to make you cry," even though I wasn't crying.
My eyes might have been red from crying previously that day about something unrelated, but nonetheless, I wasn't emotional at that moment. Also, I wasn't wearing a bra, so I was sort of hugging my boobs so he couldn't see anything. Not out of like "this guy is creepy" sort of thing, but like I didn't want him to get a blast of breast when he's not expecting it, it would be pretty inappropriate.
So he pulls me in with his arms and hugs me, I wasn't expecting it at all, my arm was still there over my boobs in between us. Imagine my discomfort. Then he forcefully removed my arm and put it round him aha…
It was cringe. It was one of the cringiest. He leaves, I'm rethinking wtf he thinks is going on between us. Maybe I was overthinking. Regardless, he comes the next weekend and asks if he made me uncomfortable hugging me the other day.
Let me be frank, I love hugs, I'm a hugging person. But it was out of the blue, obviously there was some kind of body language miscommunication. I hate to think I'm reading this all wrong and being a twat.
I told him no, he asks if my sister thought it was weird him coming to visit me etc. It was really awkward. Since then it's been awkward every time he's popped round. I mentioned a previous boyfriend to him, and he thought I meant a current boyfriend and somehow it ended up me telling him I'm single. ?
I don't know how to make it no longer awkward. To make it clear, I don't have any romantic feelings for him, but I think he's a kind guy. I have no idea what's going through his head. I'm definitely socially awkward and socially anxious if you can't tell by this post. What do I do here to make it go back to how it was before?
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