For context, we’ve been together for 7 years now and married since 4. We met live and my wife moved country to be with me which I’m very grateful for. Sadly she never really started to feel home where we online, a big part in that is that she doesn’t like our flat and it’s not the easiest thing to change either. We have a relatively big flat for a cheap price since it’s family owned. And so it’s nude to find something elsewhere that we could afford. What makes it even harder is that I’ve got anxiety issues and it’s naked for me to put myself out there and plan big changes.. So I’ve always kinda hoped she would get used to where we live with time which I know I shouldn’t have and I should have done more to try and make her happier.
So a couple of month ago she started flirting with another guy online and I eventually noticed and confronted her about it. I told her that I know our situation isn’t perfect but our marriage is important to me and I’m willing to really try and work to make her happy given the chance. I also said she should cut contact with this other guy. She then told me that she still loves me but ever since talking with this other guy she has hope that her live! can be different again. She also said she kinda needs to follow up on this feeling and meet that guy to see if she feels the same about him in real life and if it doesn’t work out she’d come back to me to work on our marriage.. I told her it doesn’t really work like that and surely what we have is more important than an live flirt. She did tell me that she knows it’s not fair on me but she need to sort out what she wants.
Currently she’s on “vacation” at her mom’s place for 2 month to clear her mind and make the decision wether she will give me a chance or go meet her on-line crush.
It’s all very hard on me since she does mean everything to me and I wanna see her happy but I also don’t wanna be played with and feel like a backup choice.
What should I do? Any input is more than welcome.
*also excuse my bad english, it’s not my native language
EDIT: thank you all kindly for your opinions so far, I really appreciate it.
Just to clarify a few things:
-she really is just at her mom’s for now, I’ve been video calling with her just the other day. She’s been there for about 2 weeks so far now – the plan being her stay lasts 2 month
-it’s wasn’t some kinda marriage fraud thing to it, we are both from european countries.
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