Me and my boyfriend have been living together for over a year now. I am confident the move was what ruined my sex drive. I was the one doing most of the chores and I started looking at my boyfriend like he was my son. This changed and now I’m happy with how the chores are split, although he still fucks up basic adult stuff regularly.
Besides he did some stupid shit when we moved in together like touching my nipples whenever I’d walk around shirtless. It was uncomfortable and creepy af. To this day I don’t like him touching my nipples. He was also asking about sex so many times I got tired of declining.
Before the move I was really into sex with him and had a lot of pleasure from it. We used toys and had a lot of fun.
Nowadays I agree to sex about once a week, during which I come about once every 2-3 months. I have to force myself to moan all the time, otherwise I think he thinks I’m not into it and he goes soft. I also give him some blowjobs. I even stopped enjoying him eating me out, I prefer masturbating.
The only times I get some desire is when we’re on vacation. It’s still not the same feeling I get when passing a nude dude.
It’s been going on for a couple of months and I didn’t have the heart to tell him, because I honestly have no idea what to do about it. I think I the initial situation after the move permanently removed any attraction I had for him and nothing can bring it back. I still consider him very handsome, there’s just no desire. I’m really happy with him and I love him, but I don’t think it’s fair to lie to him that he has a girlfriend who’s into him when she’s not.
What can I do about it? Therapy? Or is it a lost cause?
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