I M30 am breaking up with my SO F27 of 7 years.

I tried.

I tried so hard to give them the love they needed, be the person they needed but nothing has helped with their depression.

They can't talk about our future without getting overwhelmed. Hell, they can't talk about what to have for dinner without being overwhelmed, and they want to plan a wedding? Yeah, I'm ending this before I suffer another 7 years.

They have become more and more emotionally abusive and I'm sick of it. You don't come home after a hot day and take it out on the one person that loves and supports you. I understand coming home once and a while in a bad mood but it's becoming almost everyday now.

The sex is close to non-existent and when we do have sex it's piss poor and unenthusiastic on her end. If meh was a sex life it would be my life.

I've tried to have conversations with them about improving their lives but they usually throw up their defenses and say "this is who I am"

I'm not only about to break her heart but my family's heart. They all love her so much and love how sweet and kind she is but they don't know what happens behind closed doors.

I wish things didn't have to be this way but I don't want a partner like this for the rest of my life. So I'm ending it as easily as I can today.

I'm not going to fight her on anything she wants to have besides the dog. She has expressed her view of "our" dog being my dog clearly time and time again so I don't see it being an issue. I'm going to liquidate all our assets and split it down the middle.

I hope it all goes smoothly but she's also somewhat suicidal I'm just hoping she doesn't pull the "I'll kill myself" card but if she does try to I'll just know I'm still making the right choice.