We’ve been married for 6 years and have 2 children together. Last year our business went under and it was a huge strain on our relationship and also on my mental health. This year in February, I signed myself into the hospital for depression. In March, I had a breakdown, but didn’t want to go to the hospital, so he signed me in as a 302 (non voluntary harmful to self or others) and then proceeded to get a PFA and included the children. I had no support in the hospital and had nowhere to go when I got out. Luckily my brother and SIL took me in. They have kids too and knew that I was not a threat to my own or theirs. While we were waiting for the PFA hearing, my husband had his friend (20f) come “help him with the kids”. I was upset at just the thought, but was ready to get over it until the hearing happened and it was decided unfounded and I was allowed full access to my home and my children immediately. I stayed at a friends house for a few days after making sure to spend time with my kids, but I wasn’t ready to talk to my husband because I felt like he just threw me away when I needed him most. When I finally did come home, I found her clothes in my laundry and asked him about it. It turns out she stayed there with them for 3 days. Then I found her hair in my bed and he admitted that she slept in the bed. He insisted he slept on the couch. He also took her and my kids out to dinner and on a shopping spree at the toy store (we have been trying not to spend money lately since the business went under). I feel like he made a great memory for the kids with her as a fill-in. Now I can’t get past the feeling that something happened between them even tho he insists nothing did. Am I wrong for thinking this? How do I get past it if I feel like he’s not being honest with me?
TLDR: my husband committed me to the psych ward and played family with the 20 year old babysitter instead of helping me through my crisis. He denies anything sexual happened, but she slept in my bed while she was in my home and I was in the hospital.
I just want to add that he did this while we were having an argument because he wasn’t where he said he was going that evening. Yes I was yelling and telling him I would divorce him, but I wasn’t a danger to myself or anyone else in that moment. I think he used my previous self admission to the hospital against me in this situation, so everyone believed him at first.
2nd addition…I am not trying to vilify him or paint him in a bad light. I don’t need validation from Reddit, I just wanted to get it out of my head and then the post blew up. If anyone has any questions about any other details, I would answer honestly.
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