I32m have been married to my wife31f for 7 years, together for 12. We have 3 beautiful children together ages 6, 5 and 3. We met our senior year of highschool, and were close friends for about a year before we started dating. She knew my sister before she knew me and she worked with my older brother at the time. I met her last.
My brother and I aren’t on speaking terms and haven’t been for a year or so now. He’s an alcoholic now with very little respect towards anyone. We saw each other a few days ago because we celebrated for Easter with our parents on an earlier date. My brother actually showed up surprisingly, but he was very intoxicated. We got into a very heated argument which involved us screaming and saying rude things. Then he shouted “that’s why I f*cked your wife.” He ended up leaving and my wife confessed to me that before she met me, she got super drunk at a party and tried ecstasy for the first time and they hooked up, but it was only once. She was very apologetic and even started to cry. Her reasoning for not telling me was in the beginning she though it was unnecessary because she didn’t expect us to become so serious, and then she decided it was better to keep a secret because she loved me so much.
I’m so hurt and disgusted and I have no idea what to even do at this point. I don’t think I even have a valid reason to feel this way. They hooked up before I met her, she didn’t cheat on me. I just have been working as much as I can to not think about it. I celebrated Easter today with my kids and her and it just kept popping up in my mind ruining my day. I’m just looking for advice to help me get past this. I love my wife so dearly. She’s the light of my life. I just don’t know how to get rid of this unnecessary betrayal feeling and rage.
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