Please help me make sense of this circumstance.
Gf of 3 years was away for 3 months recently because of her job and she made some close friends there. Two of these close friends were a poly few and my gf had been very interested in their lifestyle, ok cool. She was telling me about them almost everytime we talked and finally she asked if I had been ok if she continued a date with the guy? I responded that I cant quit her from going on times but since we are a monogamous couple I would consider us broken up if she continues a date with anyone. The girl was a little upset but she didnt go on the date.
Eventually she started calling me insecure plus possessive for wanting monogamy and I should open my eyes a be more accepting, she even tried to get me personally to talk to the guy who also told me that being poly can really help our relationship to mature and grow and that I should try it. He also told me that I am limiting my gf' s libido by asking for monogamy. I had been beyond upset at this point so I told my gf that people should breakup because we are just making each other bad and its also clear that people want different things. And then We cut the phone.
The girl called me 5 minutes later on and apologized and said she is very sorry and she only wants me. The lady also said that she will prevent hanging out with those friends and will never bring up being poly again if I give her another chance. We discussed for almost 2 hours that evening and ultimately we decided to stay together.
The lady came back a week later as well as been a month since that and she has been true to her word but I cannot help but think, wtf happened then? How do she change her thoughts all of a sudden when for days the lady was trying to convince me personally? I honestly dont think she cheated on me personally. But I am still thinking a lot and I would like some perspective and advice a person guys.
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