I know it sounds dramatic but it feels like a light switch flip after he said it. Its been a few days now and he had a apologized but the apology was half assed and and he kind of just laughed it off for me even being offended.
I have ADHD and mild anxiety disorder, when I got pregnant I went off all medications and have being using natural self soothing techniques until I’m done breast feeding and feel ok going back to meds.
Most of that self soothing is warm baths, wearing noise cancelling headphones playing classical music or neo soul and wearing the baby in his kanga when I’m doing yoga, weight lifting or going on walks, so nothing that could genuinely endanger him.
But a couple of days ago he came home from work while I was still on the clock and in a meeting. I knew I wouldnt have to talk in this meeting so I made sure I was muted and when our baby started crying I held him while he cried and let him cry it out since he had been fed, burped, bathed, and entertained already. Plus he’s 4 months, there will be times he just cries but there is no extra need I can meet.
He walked in on me wearing the noise cancelling headphones with him crying in my arms and took him away, BARELY out of view of my webcam which startled me and then said I was a “shitty mom” and “who does that to an innocent boy” and called me a radical feminist for letting our son cry?
We have a culture difference so I told him this is how all the children in our family are taught, its not harmful when not done too often.
He called his mother who told him the same thing and only then did he apologize to me, but it was a “Well come on you know I dont realllllly think you’re a bad mom” but if you didnt why would you say that? Now he’s acting like I’m the bad person for holding him accountable for what he said and did.
Am I looking too much into it? Is this a normal sort of thing to say when you’re concerned?
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