I (21F) have a friend Kayla (22F). Kayla is extremely socially awkward and sensitive. She always wants to hang around me and my boyfriend because we are her only friends. Kin (24M) is very social and super sweet to everyone and people have asked me if it ever weirds me out how much Kayla wants to hang around him but I trust him and her 100%. We all went on a trip during my paid vacation and it was supposed to be just me and Kin but Kayla wanted to go with me before so I agreed to let her come to and my boyfriend didn’t mind. It was quite a drive where we were going and Kin does not stop for anything except if it is an emergency bathroom break.
I brought chips and salsa but didn’t think to bring lunch on the way. Kin said that he was hungry and Kayla told him she knew I wasn’t going to come prepared and made lunch for herself and him. I was kind of taken aback but I didn’t say anything. Kin said the food was really good and started feeding me. We were both telling her she’s professional level good at cooking and she was just quiet. I knew something was wrong because she always blushes at any compliments.
I turn around and she’s crying in the backseat. I tell Kin to stop the car and he’s looking as confused as me. She told me she’s just carsick so I go back with her and I’m just rubbing her back as we get there. When we are alone she had a talk with me and told me I show off with Kin any chance I get and she’s lonely and it feels like I’m rubbing that in her face. She says that I don’t make enough time for her anymore which isn’t even true.
Kin said she was killing the mood and is upset I invited her, on the other hand Kayla is upset because she feels she’s not wanted.
I feel like I’m at a loss. What can I do to make both of them happy?
Edit: I have read all of your replies, thank you for the suggestions and perspective. I sent Kayla a message to have a talk with her and wrote down some boundaries. From now on I will work on separately spending time with her.
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