**Sorry, I meant vulva not uvula! I got them mixed up
Recently, whenever I ask my boyfriend to go down on me he states he hates the way my vulva looks. Now, it’s a little longer and a bit dark so I get where he’s coming from but it’s made me a bit insecure when he tells me to get surgery for it to make it look more appealing for him. He also tells me to bleach it and make it lighter. He has a preference of what he likes but it’s the fact he tells me that he wants nothing to do with a part of my body and constantly asks me to make changes. It’s a bit disheartening to hear that he’ll only accept me if I change that part of me and I’m not really sure how to feel about it sometimes. It makes me feel ugly sometimes and makes me feel like no one’ll love that part of me. I already have low self esteem so it doesn’t really affect me when he tells me straight up because we always laugh it off as a joke but it makes me even more insecure inside. How would you confront him if you were in my position? And how would you go about it?
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