My boyfriend (30M) of six years cheated on me (31F) at the start of the year. I have broken up with him but my family are trying to pressure me into going to relationship counselling to work through things.

I (31F) found out at the start of the year that my boyfriend (30M) of six years was cheating on me with one of his work colleagues. I was devastated but immediately ended the relationship and moved out of the house we shared together. When we were together my family loved him and really welcomed him into the family immediately. They know he cheated on me but are still in contact with him, my dad regularly plays golf with him still, despite knowing how much he’s hurt me. They’ve been pressuring me into going to relationship counselling with him for the past few months and think we should work through our issues. I told them that cheating is a non negotiable to me and not something I am willing to ‘work through’ with him.

I’ve already got a lot to work through with trying to move on from the loss of a relationship and that betrayal, and it is making it even more difficult feeling like I’m losing my family too due to their lack of support and understanding. It’s like their choosing him over their own daughter. I don’t know how to handle things without cutting them off.