Update: My (37f) husband (37m) is angry I need surgery

Hi all. So it's been quite a ride since my first post and it hasn't even been that long! (Link to first post https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/14q61xz/my_37f_husband_37m_is_angry_i_need_surgery/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1 ). First of all thank you to everyone who commented, I…