My wife of 9 yr came out to me last night that something in her living has always been missing or away from and has admitted to their self she is a lesbian plus our relationship needs to end. We have a couple small children (6 and 3) and I was beyond devastated.
The previous few months I noticed she has been doing more things on her own (compared to formerly always wanted us to go places do things together) and just seemed colder towards me personally. when I let her know I felt like she has been pushing me away relatively, she announced that that she gets been lieing to herself forever and came to this realization. I love her very much and had planned everything within my life around “us”.
It’s all so refreshing for me (I have collected this has been in her thoughts for a while) so I simply don’t know what to do. I realize our marriage/relationship can never end up being what it was before. I think I would be interested in seeing if we can have some new various kind of marriage, but like i said when this was dropped upon me it was that we needed end. Is it worth asking/pushing for couples counseling? Or am I just grasping designed for something that can not happen. The idea of not seeing the kids every night/morning crushes me…. Plus honestly not having my bestfriend (wife) to talk to console within is hitting hot now…. I mean she is the person I might lean on and well. Probably some stranger on the internet possess sage advice… idk.
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