I actually (25 M) went out with some friends last night. About 5 months ago I found out there my girlfriend of a couple years was cheating on me, and last night I felt like finally moving past that will. There are two single females in my group of friends, yet one that I felt like I used to be forming a connection with. I made some moves, yet she didn' t appear receptive. No big deal.
Whenever we were done we just had one designated driver and about 7 of us piled into a car. The other solitary friend (23 F) lives up a few floors in her apartment, so I provided to walk her up to the girl place since she has been pretty drunk (though I had been probably more drunk). When we got to the stairs she was like, " okay, I' m going to need some help up the stairs, " and my drunk brain I was like, she wants myself to pick her up and carry her. (DUMB CONCEPT WHILE DRUNK, I KNOW) So I threw her more than my shoulder and transported her up the stairs. Through then it was on like Donkey Kong. Sparing you some details, I put her down and she lunged at me. She requests me to stay the night.
It' s important to note that I' m not one meant for casual hookups. I want a significant relationship eventually. I' m not a prude. I' lmost all have sex on a first date or whatever, but only if it' s with someone I want to get serious along with.
So I said to the girl something along the lines of if we' re going to do this, after that I' d like to consider you out on a date. The lady, while kissing my neck, said, " what are you going to make a girlfriend from me? " I was like, not right this second, but I' d prefer to get to know you better one-on-one and see if we' g both like to take it generally there. She enthusiastically said indeed, and I texted my friends plus told them she was going to let me crash at her place.
This morning We wake up, we' re every goo goo with each other. We' re supposed to get lunch with the same group of buddies today, and we have some other stuff we' re planning on entering into. I joke about blowing them off and just carrying out our date today, and he or she says we don' to even have to leave your bed at all, as she hops on top of me. We have sexual intercourse again.
Afterwards even though her tune changes completely. She says that she' s not actually looking for something serious, but also she' s seeing someone else, even though she' s not severe with him, they' re at a point where he wouldn' t be cool with her having sex with somebody else. I' m furious at this time, asking why she would try this to someone she calls a friend, and she said that my ex (who I out dated for 2 years, the one who cheated on me) said I was a good lay with a large, well you know. We are fucking furious at this point. It hurt so much when the lady dropped the first bomb upon me, but then to bring our ex into it. I was absolutely devastated. I am still emaciated.
I walked out. Called a ride back to my place, and as I' m sitting in the backseat of a fucking strangers car she' s texting me asking me not to say everything to our friends, because she doesn' t want it to get back to this guy, and she doesn' t want our close friends knowing that we hooked up. She' s telling me, " Nice guys don' capital t kiss and tell. " " Show me some regard, please. "
I just don' t feel like carrying out anything. I can' capital t even muster up a response to her, because I feel so defeated. I feel used. I' ve been there on her through thick and slim. I considered her a detailed friend, and now I don' t know… if this was obviously a Tinder hook up, I' g just move on, but it is a friend I trusted plus confided in.
Edit: I actually told my close guy friend the situation. He doesn' t know the guy, plus neither does his spouse. He said he' ersus going to make sure all of our close friends are there for me, and stated he' s willing to burn bridges with anyone who isn' t. He' s likely to leave it up to me to inform them though. We' lso are supposed to have lunch with the friends here in a couple hrs. He said that him great wife are going to call the girl and tell her not to come. Maybe you don' t need a large group of friends. Just a couple good ones are all you require: )
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