Tips on how to tell my (33f) companion (35m) that I want to have the child adopted

Apologies for just about any bad spacing, on a cellular.

I' ve written and rewritten this a few times, hopefully it' s clear and to the point.

I am 33f and my companion 35m, we have 3 amazing children from 10 to 4. We' ve been together nearly 14 many years

I found out 2 years ago I was pregnant and we both agreed it was something that we couldn' t perform for various reasons so I ended the pregnancy.

I was a SAHM designed for 8 years, getting back in to work when our most youthful started nursery, loved getting back. Finally felt like i had been a person again, not just a mother. We both decided after I finished the pregnancy that I ought to get my tubes tied, and I was on a wait list.

In Aug I discovered I was pregnant. We all used 2 types of contraceptive but it happened anyway. I discussed ending the maternity again and he was, with regard to lack of better word, vicious. Said that after I murdered our own last child he' deb hoped I' d associated with grown a heart. That he managed to forgive me for the things i did last time, yet didn' t know what he' d do if I did it again.

I' meters currently 24 weeks expectant, but I don' t want this baby. I love my children, I love our partner, I love our lifestyle. But I spent such a long time being just " a mum", I can' big t go back to it.

I had a phone call 2 days ago from the hospital to discuss an appointment for sterilisation, but certainly couldn' t. So I' m back on the wait around list for who knows just how long.

I tried to discuss ownership with him, but he refuses. Says I' mirielle not allowed to give his baby away, that I' ve done it before therefore i can do it again. We asked if he would make an effort off and be a SAHD but he said number When I kept trying to speak with him, he just got himself to bed and has refused to talk about it considering that.

I' ve spoken to his sister, (SIL), that has had previous reproductive problems and she is more than happy to take the baby on from birth, but I don' t know how to talk to the partner about it.

The OUR baby, and he is a really amazing dad, I actually can' t just state " this is happening"

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you

UPDATE: I' mirielle going to go to bed now since it is late, so I won' to be replying anymore. Thanks to your comments, you' ve all given me a lot to think about.

I will check the condoms when my partner are at work and then talk to him in the evening. I think therapy is a must for us both, at minimum.

Thank you all again