We met up to talk. He started by saying that if I'm here to make him apologise, then I can forget it. I went in with an open mind to be able to have a mature talk but he was aggressive so I just told him I'm here to break up without beating around the bush. He didn't expect that and said that I'm being dramatic and making a big deal out of something so simple and that I can't compromise and do something he loves for him. (I did. A lot.)
Instead of arguing I just said: "you're right, I can't do that for you and if you find me dramatic when I'm being honest about something I don't like doing, then you can find someone else who will be more than willing to give you what you want and more." I waited, no response, so I was prepared to leave. He stopped me and told me that he was sorry he lied in the beginning when he said he was fine not doing oral because he thought I would get around it soon.
I expected this much. I told him that I caved into giving a bj once but he threw that opportunity away when he decided to face fuck me and not be cooperative at all so that I can feel comfortable as well. He also decided to ignore my signals to stop because I couldn't breathe, so how could he expect a bj when he made my experience so terrible? He apologised again and said he thought that it would've been his only ever chance in a long time so he wanted to "make the most of it". After this conversation, I felt as though all my hesitation washed away.
He asked me to sit down and we can start over and try "baby steps" but I refused. This time I was repulsed by him as a whole. He said I was being too rash and couldn't believe I'm throwing away our whole relationship because of a blowjob. At that moment, all I could think about is how do you still think that's the issue? Instead of wasting my breath repeating what I said just a day earlier, I told him we aren't compatible and left.
TLDR; broke up with him
I noticed a lot of people came up with their own assumptions on my last post; ask me if you have a question and I'll try my best to reply to you as long as you're being respectful.
Edit: Apparently he found my post. His friend saw it and asked if it was me. He texted me saying he can't believe reddit is the reason I broke up with him ??♀️ I didn't block him yet as I'll drop off the rest of his stuff with my friend at his place tomorrow.
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