Any sentence that starts “If you loved me….” is emotional blackmail. Fuck that immature shit. You did nothing wrong.
I bet there are other little red flags you're missing here. Is it worth trying to talk it through? Why is she so insecure? Who was whispering in her ear? Have you EVER given her a reason to feel you weren't being 100% honest or faithful?
Lmao no way this happened like you are claiming. This is not how these types of places operate. They don’t just go to town with nothing said. First you always have to pre-pay for this type of thing. It will be always be discussed before the massage even begins. These types of places are also extremely worried about sting operations and you have to bring up the topic in a very specific way, often using code words. You also typically have to offer the money that the service you requested costs in a non-direct way. For example, if a happy ending costs $120 total, you leave the $120 on the small table next to the massage table and they will notice it and then bring it up. This story reeks of bs
I feel like this relationship will become transactional.
Sorry to say but it's already transactional. This passive aggressive 'communication' from his side is terrible. Marriage counseling time. In its current form, this is not the relationship you want to be in. It needs to change.
Thank you for sharing a link, I have heard of studies showing that men do not seek custody at the same rate as women but could not find the reports themselves.
No one is saying that you're a bad husband or a monster. That said, you have blackout episodes that you can't remember. You also obviously have uncontrollable changes in behavior that are frightening your wife. While you are not trying to intentionally hurt your wife and baby, you need to accept that the possibility exists while you are having one of these episodes. Burying your head in the sand will do you absolutely no good. You said you wanted to change this. That starts with a doctor. For all you know, you can have a brain tumor that is causing these issues. It could be a metabolic issue. It could be a cardiac issue. Or it could just be stress and anxiety. You don't know. You have to address the issue before something happens that you can't undo. If that doesn't scare the crap out of you, then there's no reasoning with you. If you refuse to go see a doctor, then you have to protect your wife and child. Install a sturdy lock on the bedroom door and you can sleep in another room.
Don't let him pressure you into doing something that you're not comfortable doing.. Tell him if HE wants to go get a car then he can but you're not going to be a part of it, if he gets pissy then you know where you stand with him, he's seeing you as a wallet, someone he can coerce into signing for him since his credit is tits up.
First cold sore at 9. Got them pretty regularly for years. In the last 20 years I've had 3
He doesn’t sound quite right. Sounds pretty manipulative.
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OP works 48 hours a week and does a lot of chores around the house. Wife doesnt want to work and insists of being a sahm:
“OP should do more chores and romance hos wife. she is probably depressed and needs to e pampered”
Damn this is gonna end up like that other foot fetish post.
How do you know he loves you? Because he said so? Takes more than that. You're incompatible as a couple and this will not change. Time to move on.
Any sentence that starts “If you loved me….” is emotional blackmail. Fuck that immature shit. You did nothing wrong.
I bet there are other little red flags you're missing here. Is it worth trying to talk it through? Why is she so insecure? Who was whispering in her ear? Have you EVER given her a reason to feel you weren't being 100% honest or faithful?
Must be rough when not even teenagers will put up with your bullshit anymore. Maybe try a puppy.
Lmao no way this happened like you are claiming. This is not how these types of places operate. They don’t just go to town with nothing said. First you always have to pre-pay for this type of thing. It will be always be discussed before the massage even begins. These types of places are also extremely worried about sting operations and you have to bring up the topic in a very specific way, often using code words. You also typically have to offer the money that the service you requested costs in a non-direct way. For example, if a happy ending costs $120 total, you leave the $120 on the small table next to the massage table and they will notice it and then bring it up. This story reeks of bs
Came here to say this.
Electrician is not as labor intensive as the majority of other construction jobs.
I feel like this relationship will become transactional.
Sorry to say but it's already transactional. This passive aggressive 'communication' from his side is terrible. Marriage counseling time. In its current form, this is not the relationship you want to be in. It needs to change.
My next question would be, are you on the spectrum?
Id say a lot of people think differently, or care much more than you do.
So he does that a lot in your relationship?
Thank you for sharing a link, I have heard of studies showing that men do not seek custody at the same rate as women but could not find the reports themselves.
Leave. He can't control his substance use or temper. It will only end badly.
No one is saying that you're a bad husband or a monster. That said, you have blackout episodes that you can't remember. You also obviously have uncontrollable changes in behavior that are frightening your wife. While you are not trying to intentionally hurt your wife and baby, you need to accept that the possibility exists while you are having one of these episodes. Burying your head in the sand will do you absolutely no good. You said you wanted to change this. That starts with a doctor. For all you know, you can have a brain tumor that is causing these issues. It could be a metabolic issue. It could be a cardiac issue. Or it could just be stress and anxiety. You don't know. You have to address the issue before something happens that you can't undo. If that doesn't scare the crap out of you, then there's no reasoning with you. If you refuse to go see a doctor, then you have to protect your wife and child. Install a sturdy lock on the bedroom door and you can sleep in another room.
Don't let him pressure you into doing something that you're not comfortable doing.. Tell him if HE wants to go get a car then he can but you're not going to be a part of it, if he gets pissy then you know where you stand with him, he's seeing you as a wallet, someone he can coerce into signing for him since his credit is tits up.