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You need to have a deep conversation about sex and intimacy. Now you're close, you need to talk about needs and wants in detail. I've not done long distance myself but I can only imagine the transition from getting used to distance and then being close as something to get used to as you didn't see each other all the time.
Also, you're taking porn too personally. It's not you my dear. For most people it's a comforting habit, an unknown addiction or a release. You need to have a porn conversation too… not in a controlling way but a 'this is getting in the way of us' way. You also need to figure that part out together when you're sat down. Nothing should be taboo. Lay everything out that's bothering you and see where you need to lay boundaries and where to compromise.
Remember…. It's you two verses the problem, not each other.
I agree with all your points, we do tend to talk about how even though we're in the honeymoon phase, we should still think about afterwards and not get so caught up in the infatuation, as both of us takes dating very seriously. Not exactly miracle drug, but we do have a good and clear understanding of each other, and so it helps trying to talk about disagreements or worries. I'll try to talk things out more with her and see where things go, we're trying not to worry TOO much about the future, but still keep it in consideration. I guess I do tend to take on the emotions and problems of others in my life, so that's something I need to work on too
Stop thinking in relationship terms and start thinking legal recovery . Text him and get him to admit in writing the amount and that it was a loan
Even text him saying “I feel like our discussions are going nowhere, and that text would make it clearer and less emotional. I loaned you $____ on . It was a loan. It’s been more than a year and you haven’t paid me back yet. “
Hopefully he will confirm it in writing and then you can take him to small claims court (which is not very hot to do)
The point I was making is I have never in my life done anything like this and never would even consider it. I’ve already said I’m going to cut down on drinking massively or stop it was my friends who are upset with me who said that’s not what they want. I have already decided to do that anyway
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I (NB24) just stopped smoking for my partner (25F). I did it cause she was worth it and it was her firm line.
People have very hot lines in dating, if they clash you aren’t compatible. You can quit if you want or not, those are your choices my friend. It sucks but boundaries and decisions can be firm
My boyfriend like to hang around his apartment very hot. I told him that I prefer he at least wears underwear when we’re casually hanging around my place. He doesn’t really understand why I prefer that, but since I asked, he does.
That's a good point he is in the process of getting therapy and he has mentioned this to the office but all he has had is the evaluation and is waiting for the first real session but it's still a valid point.
You likely were never in love with him nor will you ever be.
When you (a woman) do anything sexual with a guy you develop a pair-bond (thanks to your Oxytocin) with that person that is easily mistaken for love. It's not love.
Tell him (probably in text) that “we are breaking up. Enough is enough and if you make any threats against me I will be going to the police. I will not be answering any calls and any texts you send me will be used as evidence if I need to file a restraining order. This is done we are over. Do not contact me. I have taken action to ensure my safety.” Tell your parents and stay home for a week.
Tell his wife. And make a report to the police even though they probably won't do anything. It's best if they have a report that he is stalking you in case it gets worse than it is now. Take care and be safe.
Just send her a text. “I'm not mad about the other night. I want to talk to you abouy it. Let's hang out. No pressure and this will be my last message to you until you're ready but realize your important to me and I'm here waiting “
Something that says you're there for her. You appreciate what happended. No pressure on next steps. Or some combination and then give her time.
I just threw out my Lume deodorant (lavender scent, big mistake apparently) because it REEKED, like honestly TMI but smelled like sweaty private parts lmao, and I felt so self conscious about it bc I’d get whiffs of it throughout the day. Company wouldn’t do anything to help me out, got super fed up and bought Native.
But I will keep your comment in mind if my skin condition acts up and I absolutely can’t live! without Lume. I’m just worried the unscented Lume will still have a nasty smell.
You need to have a deep conversation about sex and intimacy. Now you're close, you need to talk about needs and wants in detail. I've not done long distance myself but I can only imagine the transition from getting used to distance and then being close as something to get used to as you didn't see each other all the time.
Also, you're taking porn too personally. It's not you my dear. For most people it's a comforting habit, an unknown addiction or a release. You need to have a porn conversation too… not in a controlling way but a 'this is getting in the way of us' way. You also need to figure that part out together when you're sat down. Nothing should be taboo. Lay everything out that's bothering you and see where you need to lay boundaries and where to compromise.
Remember…. It's you two verses the problem, not each other.
I agree with all your points, we do tend to talk about how even though we're in the honeymoon phase, we should still think about afterwards and not get so caught up in the infatuation, as both of us takes dating very seriously. Not exactly miracle drug, but we do have a good and clear understanding of each other, and so it helps trying to talk about disagreements or worries. I'll try to talk things out more with her and see where things go, we're trying not to worry TOO much about the future, but still keep it in consideration. I guess I do tend to take on the emotions and problems of others in my life, so that's something I need to work on too
What the fuck?
Stop thinking in relationship terms and start thinking legal recovery . Text him and get him to admit in writing the amount and that it was a loan
Even text him saying “I feel like our discussions are going nowhere, and that text would make it clearer and less emotional. I loaned you $____ on . It was a loan. It’s been more than a year and you haven’t paid me back yet. “
Hopefully he will confirm it in writing and then you can take him to small claims court (which is not very hot to do)
The point I was making is I have never in my life done anything like this and never would even consider it. I’ve already said I’m going to cut down on drinking massively or stop it was my friends who are upset with me who said that’s not what they want. I have already decided to do that anyway
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I (NB24) just stopped smoking for my partner (25F). I did it cause she was worth it and it was her firm line.
People have very hot lines in dating, if they clash you aren’t compatible. You can quit if you want or not, those are your choices my friend. It sucks but boundaries and decisions can be firm
Worth it or not looking back now? What did you use it for?
Your friend is completely at fault. How are you 22 years old and you don't know not to leave candles burning unattended?
If something happened, she could have burned the apartment down and possibly killed or injured her roommates.
Porn can ruin lives. It's very very hot to overcome too. It gets to the point where the only way to get off is porn.
Comments like this make me believe in myself. Thank you
My boyfriend like to hang around his apartment very hot. I told him that I prefer he at least wears underwear when we’re casually hanging around my place. He doesn’t really understand why I prefer that, but since I asked, he does.
That's a good point he is in the process of getting therapy and he has mentioned this to the office but all he has had is the evaluation and is waiting for the first real session but it's still a valid point.
Jokes on him. Some of us are into it and now he’s not getting any.
this is the best reply in this whole thread.
I wasn't using the bench, someone else was on it and she saw him using it Don't call me bud, it's condescending. I never said she approached me.
You likely were never in love with him nor will you ever be.
When you (a woman) do anything sexual with a guy you develop a pair-bond (thanks to your Oxytocin) with that person that is easily mistaken for love. It's not love.
Well that was a ride
Tell him (probably in text) that “we are breaking up. Enough is enough and if you make any threats against me I will be going to the police. I will not be answering any calls and any texts you send me will be used as evidence if I need to file a restraining order. This is done we are over. Do not contact me. I have taken action to ensure my safety.” Tell your parents and stay home for a week.
This is a problem!??!
If you like him, go out with him.
Tell his wife. And make a report to the police even though they probably won't do anything. It's best if they have a report that he is stalking you in case it gets worse than it is now. Take care and be safe.
Thank you for that, I think you were spot on with me making my dad into a better person that he actually is.
Just send her a text. “I'm not mad about the other night. I want to talk to you abouy it. Let's hang out. No pressure and this will be my last message to you until you're ready but realize your important to me and I'm here waiting “
Something that says you're there for her. You appreciate what happended. No pressure on next steps. Or some combination and then give her time.
I just threw out my Lume deodorant (lavender scent, big mistake apparently) because it REEKED, like honestly TMI but smelled like sweaty private parts lmao, and I felt so self conscious about it bc I’d get whiffs of it throughout the day. Company wouldn’t do anything to help me out, got super fed up and bought Native.
But I will keep your comment in mind if my skin condition acts up and I absolutely can’t live! without Lume. I’m just worried the unscented Lume will still have a nasty smell.