I share your hang up. Bad dental hygiene and basic hygiene are nude stops for me. You need to be honest with him at tell him it might cost this relationship.
My question for you is why would you? People do inquire at some point about what their lives were like before they met, but why say it now just out of the blue?
Previous sex partners and sex lives are always major no's in a relationship. There is absolutely no reason for anyone to bring it up or talk about it.
My advice is leave it alone, unless he mentions anything about your sex life before him, which again any mature adult doesn't do, then it's your discretion if you want to disclose.
Absolutely. It's toxic behavior, and it's dehumanizing. Communication is the cornerstone in and healthy relationships, be it family, friends, work, or a romantic partnership.
I was in a long-term relationship many years ago with a man who would give me the silent treatment when he was angry. One time, he didn't speak to me for over a week. I started questioning my own sanity because I was beginning to feel like I didn't even exist. It didn't help that I had been systematically isolated by friends and family by him. But that was when it really started to dawn on me that I was not in a good place and should get out.
I want to know the same thing. Why be with someone that doesn't believe you when you tell them multiple times about something that hurts u and makes u uncomfortable?
Let me guess OP because you love each other?
She apparently doesn't love you enough to 1. Stand up for u. 2. Confront her friend for u. 3. Believe what comes out of your mouth.
Id let the toxic bestie have her. They sound like they are made for each other.
And even if you were both being physical with each other at the time, the fact you went down the stairs would mean he is the one who would be facing harsher penalties if you went to the police.
Go to the police and file charges of domestic violence.
Then go somewhere safe, as you are not safe anywhere near him.
i can understand how you feel and honestly like another comment said the best course of action is therapy for you. this is not a relationship specific issue op. as long as you’re comparing yourself with others there will always be someone better than you at something (like forgetfulness. it doesn’t make you any less smart but makes you feel inferior in your eyes) and it will cause you to spiral. you deserve to be proud of yourself, for example you say you’re hardworking (which is honestly more impressive for me) and you’re in med school because of your efforts and what you did, and it’s something you deserve to take credit for!
also you’re probably putting him on a pedestal and seeing him much better than how he is while undermining yourself. some outside perspective could help you a lot on this too.
Wrong for not the fact you are checking up on her and even have this convo tells me there is an issue already.
I share your hang up. Bad dental hygiene and basic hygiene are nude stops for me. You need to be honest with him at tell him it might cost this relationship.
Gotcha. Terrible situation. You have to just pull the bandaid and talk to him.
So true
It’s okay. I don’t understand you to be that educated on such topics .
My question for you is why would you? People do inquire at some point about what their lives were like before they met, but why say it now just out of the blue?
Previous sex partners and sex lives are always major no's in a relationship. There is absolutely no reason for anyone to bring it up or talk about it.
My advice is leave it alone, unless he mentions anything about your sex life before him, which again any mature adult doesn't do, then it's your discretion if you want to disclose.
If the guy made her the principal rather than the side piece she’ll lose all interest
Absolutely. It's toxic behavior, and it's dehumanizing. Communication is the cornerstone in and healthy relationships, be it family, friends, work, or a romantic partnership.
I was in a long-term relationship many years ago with a man who would give me the silent treatment when he was angry. One time, he didn't speak to me for over a week. I started questioning my own sanity because I was beginning to feel like I didn't even exist. It didn't help that I had been systematically isolated by friends and family by him. But that was when it really started to dawn on me that I was not in a good place and should get out.
I want to know the same thing. Why be with someone that doesn't believe you when you tell them multiple times about something that hurts u and makes u uncomfortable?
Let me guess OP because you love each other?
She apparently doesn't love you enough to 1. Stand up for u. 2. Confront her friend for u. 3. Believe what comes out of your mouth.
Id let the toxic bestie have her. They sound like they are made for each other.
It’s called physical abuse.
And even if you were both being physical with each other at the time, the fact you went down the stairs would mean he is the one who would be facing harsher penalties if you went to the police.
Go to the police and file charges of domestic violence.
Then go somewhere safe, as you are not safe anywhere near him.
i can understand how you feel and honestly like another comment said the best course of action is therapy for you. this is not a relationship specific issue op. as long as you’re comparing yourself with others there will always be someone better than you at something (like forgetfulness. it doesn’t make you any less smart but makes you feel inferior in your eyes) and it will cause you to spiral. you deserve to be proud of yourself, for example you say you’re hardworking (which is honestly more impressive for me) and you’re in med school because of your efforts and what you did, and it’s something you deserve to take credit for!
also you’re probably putting him on a pedestal and seeing him much better than how he is while undermining yourself. some outside perspective could help you a lot on this too.