I've already taken some steps. Spoken to my son which was/ is honestly the biggest one. I'm also quitting a side job I've taken that was just helping pay off some debts.
Hey- this is tough! I’ve been in a similar situation when I was around your age. Ultimately we broke up and are both better for it now. You can’t fix someone’s mental health if they’re not willing to put an effort in. It sounds like you’ve had many conversations, but ultimately both of your values are not aligning and that is now coming to light. If you know your values and his are now showing (not a bad thing, they’re just different), it will not change down the line. You can help someone cope if they’re willing to accept help, but if he is rooted in returning and you’re committed to staying, this will continue to come up.
I would call this emotional cheating. He’s flirting with the idea of someone else.
Just tell them this year it's a small party of yours so… sorry.
I've already taken some steps. Spoken to my son which was/ is honestly the biggest one. I'm also quitting a side job I've taken that was just helping pay off some debts.
Hey- this is tough! I’ve been in a similar situation when I was around your age. Ultimately we broke up and are both better for it now. You can’t fix someone’s mental health if they’re not willing to put an effort in. It sounds like you’ve had many conversations, but ultimately both of your values are not aligning and that is now coming to light. If you know your values and his are now showing (not a bad thing, they’re just different), it will not change down the line. You can help someone cope if they’re willing to accept help, but if he is rooted in returning and you’re committed to staying, this will continue to come up.