It's okay for other people to disagree with those boundaries.
It's not okay to agree to those boundaries and then go behind your partner's back.
There's so much porn out there. So much.
You chose the type that bothers your partner (ex?). And then wanted to lie about it. Wow.
What's to save here?
She has her boundaries. It sounds that the boundary in question is quite legit. It's not an unreasonable request, it seems. I don't see any mention of her “prohibiting” porn as per se – that, while still a boundary, would've been a bit bizarre.
You don't respect those boundaries. You chose to.
She chose to leave your lying ass.
Come on, deal with it and find someone with less boundaries. Or someone you can respect a bit more.
I kind of figured, it’s just nude for me because my boyfriend and I really want to move forward with things like get married and have kids and I would like my mom to be apart of it but with the way she’s acting it’s starting to feel like it won’t be that way… my oldest brother doesn’t even talk to her anymore, he cut her off about 9 years ago. I’m really trying to prevent that type of situation.
These responses for the most part are pretty on point. I agree with the truth trickling part and asking to see his phone to gage his reaction. Also, I’m so sorry your going through this. If you were my sister or friend I’d hug you and plead with you to leave him.
It's okay for people to have boundaries.
It's okay for other people to disagree with those boundaries.
It's not okay to agree to those boundaries and then go behind your partner's back.
There's so much porn out there. So much.
You chose the type that bothers your partner (ex?). And then wanted to lie about it. Wow.
What's to save here?
She has her boundaries. It sounds that the boundary in question is quite legit. It's not an unreasonable request, it seems. I don't see any mention of her “prohibiting” porn as per se – that, while still a boundary, would've been a bit bizarre.
You don't respect those boundaries. You chose to.
She chose to leave your lying ass.
Come on, deal with it and find someone with less boundaries. Or someone you can respect a bit more.
I kind of figured, it’s just nude for me because my boyfriend and I really want to move forward with things like get married and have kids and I would like my mom to be apart of it but with the way she’s acting it’s starting to feel like it won’t be that way… my oldest brother doesn’t even talk to her anymore, he cut her off about 9 years ago. I’m really trying to prevent that type of situation.
Dump him now. This won't get better. He's testing you to see how far you'll let him go, not to mention the risk of pregnancy. Run!
Thank you.
Tell him you cannot afford it If you are such good friends, he will understand. An Uber would be cheaper and they will help with the suitcase.
Exactly. That’s her best friend for a reason…you are who you hang with.
These responses for the most part are pretty on point. I agree with the truth trickling part and asking to see his phone to gage his reaction. Also, I’m so sorry your going through this. If you were my sister or friend I’d hug you and plead with you to leave him.