I can definitely relate to writing your bf only writing when he’s down and trying to process things in his head. It sounds like he needs a private journal to air these thoughts out without feeling like you are going to read them. It might be scary for you, but your partner needs the space to air these thoughts openly through a healthy coping skill like journaling.
That being said, hearing a shitty thought your partner has about you is a terrible feeling. Especially when he’s comparing you to an ex. It’s important for you two to talk about it. Maybe it was a fleeting thought or maybe there’s something you can both do to make the relationship feel more electric and passionate without compromising the safety and stability that you bring.
What’s worth more. Your self respect or keeping a toxic relationship.
Fucking thank you.
I can definitely relate to writing your bf only writing when he’s down and trying to process things in his head. It sounds like he needs a private journal to air these thoughts out without feeling like you are going to read them. It might be scary for you, but your partner needs the space to air these thoughts openly through a healthy coping skill like journaling.
That being said, hearing a shitty thought your partner has about you is a terrible feeling. Especially when he’s comparing you to an ex. It’s important for you two to talk about it. Maybe it was a fleeting thought or maybe there’s something you can both do to make the relationship feel more electric and passionate without compromising the safety and stability that you bring.