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Last night I looked though his phone and looked at the messages, I feel bad about doing it but the way he acted made me feel weird. I looked through all of the messages and they text a lot. Every day, multiple times a day. The thing that’s weird to me though is that none of the messages are inappropriate at all. They aren’t exchanging pictures or talking about anything overtly inappropriate or romantic whatsoever.
I’ll ask again. Why is it “weird to you” that the messages are not inappropriate at all.
I’ll say it again. You went through his phone, all of the messages, and not a single thing on either side was inappropriate or romantic whatsoever. Those are your words.
And that, to you, is “weird.”
This is a damn witch hunt on your part. It’s “weird” to you that none of the messages were inappropriate because that’s what you wanted to find.
Healthy people would not directly type out that it is “weird” to NOT find inappropriate messages on their husband’s phone. You need therapy. Immediately.
Yeah there's no excuse for his behavior. But how long have you been dating for and how long did you know each other before you began dating?
Your response seems reasonable but here I am trying to be a little selfish im saving my connection with my years long crush… I know if its going to end than I wont be able to save it too… But still being optimistic I will try my best… (No I am not running from the truth :()
Jeez mate that's some insecure behavior on here part. You want to spend the rest of your life being controlled like this?
By apologizing for something quite normal you are just giving the green light for this to get worse. Let her be insecure alone and find someone that isn't obsessed with every fart you made on social media.
I’m sorry you feel heartbroken.
As an Asian woman I know some have men fetishized me. But I also know that some men have changed their porn viewing to include more Asian women when we were together. I’m also guilty of looking for men in porn who look like my partner…
When you say your husband is your best friend and a great listener- that is such a green flag. You have hired help as well, another green flag. He knows how much he can provide and also isn’t jealous or controlling to prevent you from getting additional help.
At the same time, I don’t want to discount your intuition. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to think and decide what comes next.
Never ?. You on-line in a different universe.
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She was willing to take to the grave that she is best friends with a man she had sexual history with. That's the biggest issue. She wasn't going to tell OP upfront till it got brought up in tipsy conversation between friends. So that's issue number one.
Secondly, OP says he doesn't have any issues with her sexual history as it is in her past. But anyone looking to engage in a serious relationship, should have some common sense and think for a second about how ridiculous it sounds to be best friends with another man that you have sexual history with.
If they were just casually dating, it doesn't matter. But it does seem they both want something serious. She needs to cut this friend if that's the case. Or decide to breakup and cease dating seriously till she gets some senses.
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probably, I would not see myself doing something like this in social media but probably telling it to my friends to like “lets see if we can have a great 2nd date or even become something”.
Dont take it wrong but nowadays having a relationship is more of girl's sided than man's sided, we ain't used to being treated great or having great times in dates or even getting further than the first date because we on-line in a world were the male is expected to make most of the moves and be perfect (not saying this is womens fault btw dont take it wrong)
Might just be a case of someone lonely (prob without lots of friends) who hasn't had a good date in a while and just needed to share it with someone.
Its like telling your problems to randos live!, sometimes you just need someone to talk or tell smth and well you simply dont have it.
I would not ditch the guy so fast, I would get to know him better first
He's making some impressively shitty choices all around but ngl the Tesla stocks are the worst from a purely rational standpoint.
When we are younger it hard to admit that a developing outside relationship is causing the main relationship to fail. In part because one enjoys the excitement of the new relationship and in part because no one wants to admit they are destroying their relationship. As a result they make it sound like they are losing feelings or falling out of love naturally. The reality is relationships need to be taking care off everyday. When that focus goes elsewhere it creates a distance. The problem is that distance doesn't necessarily mean feelings are being lost. They are simply being ignored. Then all of a sudden boom they are back, only you've ruined the relationship, mostly by making the ex out to be the bad guy.
In my opinion you absolutely cheated, not only that it was this second relationship that likely ruined your first.
Now you won't admit this, not yet, but eventually you will. When that happens please leave your ex alone.
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This is why you don't wait till sex to have marriage, nothing short of intense therapy will maybe change this, you should probably just get comfortable with the way things unless you want a divorce
Just curious if you had a mask on when you opened the door to talk to him and test him for covid? Because the 6ft rule is a bunch of crap. My husband got covid and quarantined in our bedroom and no one else got it and I would have never made him leave, God forbid if he were someplace else and needed me and I wasn't there to help him. Also 3 months and you are still recovering from a c-section and parents are still with you? I am also wondering who goes and buys food and other things and exposes themselves to getting it and then bringing it back to you? Like I said just wondering
You are not being over dramatic. Don't meet with him tomorrow, cut them both out of your life and start fresh. Anyone who would do that to you isn't a friend.
The conversation you had with him is eerily similar to one I had with my ex, except the word he used was “obligated.” If he doesn’t love you now, more time isn’t going to change that. It’s only going to make him feel more obligated. Oh, and I also got the whole, “no we don’t have to break up.” Because he had joined three different dating sites, and if he didn’t have a better prospect that weekend, he had me to fall back on.. Just break up with him, and save yourself the heartbreak.
I do think my MIL would be horrified if she knew which she doesn't. SIL I have no idea, but I know my MIL would fully be on my side. I am not dramatic and would never make it into some huge issue, but maybe distancing ourselves is the best solution.
They believe I consider myself catholic, but they do know I do not attend a church. This is a really complicated topic in my family due to the long gap of not practicing religion at all so between my parents and siblings, we all just avoid the subject. However, that rule apparently does not apply to wedding ceremonies. I have never specifically told them I reject the religious affiliation because doing that essentially forces them to acknowledge they failed to raise their child Catholic which makes them defensive and upset.
So they know I’m not a true Catholic but they don’t know to what extent.
both! i mentioned it around other people but jokingly – at first i didn’t think about it too seriously, and then i thought that maybe he lost it and feels bad or something so i kept on mostly joking.
i’ll talk with him alone for sure, i have another thing to talk to him about anyways, so why not do both!
and lastly, he doesn’t really act like he doesn’t know what i’m talking about. he does acknowledge it, but jokes about it or just changes the topic to the id card for example. or to some drawing he just made, etc.
You are overreacting and shouldn’t snoop. This sounds innocent on his part. I still have all my old pics up on fb from my ex husband. Even though it’s different now at one point those were good times. I don’t regret my past- it made me who I am today & I like me. Why should he have to delete his memories? He’s with you now so why are you so jealous? Have more self confidence.
Just go nuclear and cut his balls. Reply
“Why would YOU want to bring in other people? Lately you're not even being enough for me.”
You talked about fantasies and she told you and now you are upset….fantasies are just fantasies…just leave it at that. Unless she meets Brad Pitt then tell her to give me a call…I would like that fantasy too…lmaooo
It seems like you never really sat down and forced your parents to tell you WHY they are treating your boyfriend this way. With all due respect, I think it’s a little immature of you, at 35, to be so clueless about all of this. You have spent 15 years basically leaving your boyfriend behind when you went to go spend time with your family? Wth were you thinking for those 15 years? Only now that your sister’s boyfriend is included have you finally woken up to the fact that he’s been excluded???? YIIIIIIIKES.
And all that to say – this is a YOU problem. You have not been a good partner to him by allowing him to be excluded for 15 years without much thought. This is YOUR family and you just went along with him getting poor treatment. There is just so much that bothers me about your post, but mostly that you don’t seem to realize how much you’ve done wrong. If you’re really committed to change, you need to get to the bottom of your parents feelings and then NEVER attend an event he isn’t invited to again. You’re either in a partnership, or you’re not. Will you continue to allow your boyfriend to be treated like the unwanted outsider?
You HELPED him?
Jesus Christ, do people just not have standards?
Good luck
If you didn’t care about the intelligence it wouldn’t be causing problems
Yes, also OP she's manipulating you. I wouldn't be surprised if she will try to sleep with you then play the pregnancy card. Hopefully she's not that unhinged but secure all possible blind spots.
Reach out to places or organizations that can approach her to treat or even admit herself if she's truly suffering from severe mental illness.
Update: I apologized and he said i hear you man but I should of apologized earlier and then proceeded to lock the door on me.
I can’t unfortunately
Just block him, I felt exhausted reading your post.
Let someone else be his punching bag
So, I hope you both have done some work to resolve your SA trauma.
The second is I hope you guys talked about you wanting intimacy during intercourse.
Third, the idea that he can justify his release in prn and yet doesn't like you getting yours emotionally in asmr videos is odd. But I am gonna assume it's something Internal going on with him because it technically didn't make sense. He knew the context with his prn usage but not your asmr usage?
You both are supplementing what you will with these extra resources indirectly with these external resources than agreeing and apparently this dynamic is unequal.
So you're at an impasse. I suggest an talk and explanation what what you two are lacking and to see if you both can meet each other's needs; even if a little bit.
Because a little bit can do a long way.
Eight, I'm bored of his shit and I only had to read about it. Life is too short to waste time on this stuff. Block and move on or you'll still be playing this stupid game in 10 years.
He's taking the 'fake it til you make it' approach to the nth level – just pretending it's their 1 year anniversary so hard that he's manifesting it into reality.
I’m with you on that one, but I get that it’s something that she wants to accomplish
I don’t mean that I think he’ll be violent towards me. I just mean I feel violated, so it makes me feel unsafe
How is not wanting to keep babying an adult a treat?
Tbh I omitting what you lied about makes the scenario seem more sketchy.
Without that context, you just need to give her space. It’s only been 3 days, which may not be a long time considering the magnitude of the lie. Not sure how often you all are communicating, but maybe just give her a day or two to herself and then shoot her a text asking how she’s doing. Then apologize again and get her a gift.
Wife needs to cut ties with the shithead friend
What happens when a clean sheet rubs against a dirty sheet…. The clean sheet gets dirty
she definitely ducked harry?
THANK YOU! Performative describes this man to a t
What shitty negging bullshit is this? Don't tolerate this. Just end things.
Sorry though.
Personally I’m not very optimistic about off an on relationships. There a reason you broke up the first time and unless that’s changed, it’s likely going to happen again. I hear you on the communication piece though, it’s tough. It might just be incompatibility. My bf and I don’t talk ever single day but we do usually call or text ever other day or every couple of days and that work well for us. I’ve also had bfs I never called but we texted daily. But the ones I struggled most with were ones who I wouldn’t hear from(even if I texted first) for days. Even currently, my bf always gets back to me within a few hours at most.
So I’m sure every 3-4 days works for some but may not be you. Tbh I’d tell him how you feel about more communication, do your best to also reach out and don’t just put it all on him, and if it still feels bad, break it off and deal with it. It won’t feel good to lose a friend but if being just friends is painful for him, it’s fair to be completely done. Very few people are able to maintain healthy friendships and boundaries with exes.
Can I ask you what those problems are?
im neurodivergent too but what you gave was not a solution, it was you putting all the responsibility on him, he wants to feel wanted which is why he wanted you to initiate
Has to be
If I had known other girls would be coming, yes I would have liked to come but he clearly expressed he wanted to spend time with only the guys so they could catch up and have some « guy talk ». That’s my issue. If he just wanted to go out without me for one night, that would have been fine too
Thanks for saying this and without shaming them. It’s something lots of people aren’t aware of, but it’s important.
This.
If he is their dad, he will likely have a legal right to see them and be in their life.
It can be scary, overwhelming, anxiety ridden.
We did stepped visitation. I made rigid rules about pick up, drop off, kept a log of any issues. He wasn’t around for years, I tried for the first year and once a year after for some time and then gave up.
Have him go through the proper channels, get the DNA test, but also maybe consider therapy for all. Your children may have a difficult time with this, with either of your roles in this.
The courts want both parents involved. They don’t like petty drama, they don’t like he said she said. They like facts. Paint yourself in the best light, look like you’re willing to coparent, but argue for stepped/slow start.
There is no fated love out there. Love is built more than anything else, initial attraction can not sustain relationship.
If you leave your bf to “explore”, in all likelyhood he won't wait for you, nor should he. What is likely to happen is him (eventually) moving, and finding someone else to commit to, and love. Just so you kniw, even if he was single, after being abandoned by you he would likely not want to know you anyway.
You want to leave him, then do it, it's perhaps in his best interest.
Why are you with someone who doesn’t support you?
I think it’s unrealistic of her wanting something so expensive while knowing you can’t afford it
Sounds like she may be off her meds plus self-medicating with adderall, liquor and who knows what else. If she can't improve her med status, you should not continue to be involved with her. Let her know that's your strict boundary. Offer to go with her to her next shrink appointment, not necessarily to sit in, but at least make sure she gets there for it. If she doesn't have one booked, it's time.
THIS you tell him!
“I haven’t had to date in years, and it all seems so strange ?”
If he is a nice guy, then he will understand.
Btw… NOT effing on a first date isn't that bad either!
Does he still talk since that night?
they're not arguing about the armpits, from her quote he indirectly stated that he feels like she doesn't value his advice and then she stubbornly defies and acts petty, she gets pregnancy points but they should both apologize
Don’t assume that, because you are holding onto this, that she is. Leave her alone.
I would