I don't think this is a thing that's going to go away. It almost would be better for you to tell him before the out dude does and explain things and then offer to work through counseling or marriage therapy. The longer the lie the bigger it's gonna hurt. Honestly is always the best policy. Probably not what you want to hear but definitely think, it's only going to take the other dude going to the cops and explaining things and then a paternity test from a court for things to come out.
i had the exact same story going on, i spent the entire YEAR literally begging her to stop hanging out and taking him (she also cheated on me with him multiple times). and the funniest part of all of it that she never understood what’s wrong with her hanging out with him, she called me toxic and controlling for gently asking her to stop talking to him. i was begging her so much to simply care about my emotions lol. eventually, i stopped. one year later i absolutely gave up on trying to make her realize that what she’s doing is hurting me.
if your gf does the same thing as mine did, then all i can advice you is breaking up with her. the only fact that she cheated on you with him already speaks for itself. on my experience, there is no such relationship that can be healthy, loving and trustworthy after someone cheated on their partner.
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I think you're right. It is very strange that literally every single time we're out he goes off with someone else. Thank you, that's a really helpful take!
There’s a damn good reason your family don’t like.. I don’t know him and even I’m not liking him and his behaviour-he’s acting like a toddler in the midst of a temper tantrum. You really want to deal with this for the rest of your life???? This is not how relationships should be…
It was very wrong for your mom to say 'she will never be her daughter.' That made this a do-or-die situation for the other mom. She had an opportunity to be the adult in the room and de-escalate an emotional situation, but she chose to say probably the worst thing you could in the situation, which blew it up. The only solution is to get your mom to apologize for saying such a hurtful thing.
I think most guys would agree that every day would be great, it seems pretty selfish though to demand it like that as if his well being is dependent on the daily chore of doing it.
Playing the “well other girls never made me ask” card seems very manipulative and sorta groomer-ish given your age difference. His behavior is not normal. Your enjoyment matters too.
A healthy sexual relationship is when both partners are on the same page with both the what and the when. If you're not on the same page as him, at best maybe you two don't have the right sexual compatibility and this is just the first of other underlying issues, at worst he's the stereotypical guy that dates too young and takes advantage of someone that doesn't know what sort of red flags to look for.
For real, why would the friend let the fiancé keep the notebooks? Or alternatively, how would the fiancé steal three thick notebooks without the friend noticing?
That'llbeyerproblem
Wait! Just, just ouch! I couldn’t just scroll by that one.
I don't think this is a thing that's going to go away. It almost would be better for you to tell him before the out dude does and explain things and then offer to work through counseling or marriage therapy. The longer the lie the bigger it's gonna hurt. Honestly is always the best policy. Probably not what you want to hear but definitely think, it's only going to take the other dude going to the cops and explaining things and then a paternity test from a court for things to come out.
i had the exact same story going on, i spent the entire YEAR literally begging her to stop hanging out and taking him (she also cheated on me with him multiple times). and the funniest part of all of it that she never understood what’s wrong with her hanging out with him, she called me toxic and controlling for gently asking her to stop talking to him. i was begging her so much to simply care about my emotions lol. eventually, i stopped. one year later i absolutely gave up on trying to make her realize that what she’s doing is hurting me.
if your gf does the same thing as mine did, then all i can advice you is breaking up with her. the only fact that she cheated on you with him already speaks for itself. on my experience, there is no such relationship that can be healthy, loving and trustworthy after someone cheated on their partner.
Typical answer from Reddit from someone who doesn’t know me.
She’s too focussed on the wedding & not enough on the marriage.
Am i being petty by being mad at this?
depends on how cute they are. BTS cute or get you pregnant with a look cute
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You have 4 kids and you are out there donating sperm? ?
LMAO, this story ?
I think you're right. It is very strange that literally every single time we're out he goes off with someone else. Thank you, that's a really helpful take!
The point is that he's putting the burden of making sure he KEEPS his word on you and not on himself
There’s a damn good reason your family don’t like.. I don’t know him and even I’m not liking him and his behaviour-he’s acting like a toddler in the midst of a temper tantrum. You really want to deal with this for the rest of your life???? This is not how relationships should be…
Tell her she can use DuoLingo, solo. Lol
Well that escalated quickly.
It was very wrong for your mom to say 'she will never be her daughter.' That made this a do-or-die situation for the other mom. She had an opportunity to be the adult in the room and de-escalate an emotional situation, but she chose to say probably the worst thing you could in the situation, which blew it up. The only solution is to get your mom to apologize for saying such a hurtful thing.
I think most guys would agree that every day would be great, it seems pretty selfish though to demand it like that as if his well being is dependent on the daily chore of doing it.
Playing the “well other girls never made me ask” card seems very manipulative and sorta groomer-ish given your age difference. His behavior is not normal. Your enjoyment matters too.
A healthy sexual relationship is when both partners are on the same page with both the what and the when. If you're not on the same page as him, at best maybe you two don't have the right sexual compatibility and this is just the first of other underlying issues, at worst he's the stereotypical guy that dates too young and takes advantage of someone that doesn't know what sort of red flags to look for.
I didn't ask her but she's kinna a hippy..
For real, why would the friend let the fiancé keep the notebooks? Or alternatively, how would the fiancé steal three thick notebooks without the friend noticing?
Rarely do I see a situation live that I think has such a easy answer but this is one of those.
No one should be with a guy like him. I would have to lower my bar so freakin far to except a person with those characteristics.
I would be livid. Your husband is the poster child for red flags. On top of that he is a liar. A narcissist and a highly cringey weirdo.
You could spin around in a mall with your eyes closed and pick anyone at random that would be a better kind of person.
Dump him and never look back would be my advice.