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Tease my body, get me wet! [Multi Goal]
Date: October 8, 2022
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My advice is “no,” period. Do NOT put your girlfriend's name on your house. People sometimes hesitate to put their SPOUSES on the title to their homes, and your girlfriend of about a year wants to be on yours?? That's insane and asking for a legal nightmare later. You would basically be telling the bank that the house belongs to both of you equally.
As for what to tell her, tell her “no.” Complete sentence. Don't worry about what doubts this may give her about you, you should be having serious doubts about her. The best case scenario for her essentially demanding something this ludicrous is that she's not very smart, doesn't understand what “putting her name on it” entails, and is just making weird demands about things she doesn't understand and questioning the relationship when you don't play along. That's the best case scenario. Worst case is she wants half your damn house, and given how hard she's pushing for this that seems far more likely.
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I (23f) have know my fiancé (24m) for two years and a lot has happened. Like I had oral sex with a past friend of mine while we weren’t officially dating. My fiancé (Matt) didn’t like that and holds it over my head even though I broke it off before he found out about it, it happened twice and we weren’t together. He thought I was looking at his friend but it was really his friend initiating the glances. Lastly, he went through my phone and found two old explicit videos of my exs in my archives.
Since those were the only videos in my archives I had completely forgotten abt them. These are the main things he couldn’t get over even though we discussed ending the relationship but he choose to “forgive” me. He then held it over my head and spoke of it everyday for over 11 months. He built up resentment against me and he didn’t take me on dates or treated me like he was interested only when sex was in the question. Meanwhile I was helping him move into his grandma’s house because she was getting dementia and her heart problems were increasing with limited her mobility. I cooked every meal and cleaned for them and partially moved in just to support him mentally. But he was still cold but I was patient until he pushed off our wedding date and I grew resentful unknowingly.
A guy from my past (Tyler) that I had lots of chemistry with texted me one day and I sadly responded. It started out catching up then bashing my fiancé and then catching feelings for Tyler like it was the old days. He is sweet and loved complimenting me and genuinely cared for me. He spoke to me with tenderness and always wanted to know about my day. I emotionally cheated on Matt. Matt found out cause he noticed I was very active on a social app and asked who I was talking to. He wrestled the phone out of my hands and was disgusted about how I talked about him and how I talked to Tyler. Matt one month later cheated on me by exchanging oral with a girl. It took a lot of effort but he forgave me and I forgave him. I convinced myself that I don’t love Tyler just the things he has said to me but I’m starting to question that. Because I compare how Matt treats me compared to Tyler.
Should I tell my fiancé or should I brush off my feelings and get married?
even OPs friends says the posts were “kinda sexual”. So you have Fred at work seeing “kinda sexual” snapchats with a dude he has never met and assumes is straight. It is not unreasonable for Fred to be turned off by this.
What’s is called when everyone disagrees with you but you still think you’re right. OP I get helping out your gf but you getting verbally and physically aggressive didn’t help in the long run, example: your probably gonna need a lawyer. Defend your significant other but don’t go to jail doing so.
This is wildly effed up behaviour on her part. She needs professional help and if she won't take it, you need to go. Seriously. This is scary shit.
If there was an expectation of exclusivity and you lied to her it IS cheating. No excuses dude, if that’s the kind of values you’ll teach your kid please split up. If the paternity test comes back positive please do pay child support.
And the fight was that he didn't want that, and forbade you from getting one?'
He won't. That is no reflection of you or your worth of being loved. It is a reflection of him.
He doesn't love you for who you are, but for who he can change you into.
“He's sentimental about tinder” ?
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No… as a person navigating a relationship after the loss of my mother and father (lost each parent several years apart), it’s a very fragile time. If the person says they aren’t ready they aren’t ready. If she said she does not want to rush into a relationship… that would be different, that would mean she’s open but wants to let it slow burn. It doesn’t sound like she wants you to wait. Waiting would be slowly working towards the development of a relationship. I would cut my losses, and talk to someone else. As a person who settled into a lukewarm situationship after a divorce… I was always more excited then him. I was always making him more of priority. In the end I got hurt badly !!! When a person has more reasons for not being with you instead of looking for reasons they can, you must not ignore that! As a person who really felt love for that guy … I found out …months later I was just a place holder for him. He was ready for a relationship just not one with me.
How many years has he been shining you on with that?
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Say what you men an men what you say. No one is telepathic.
As a woman who’s been in this situation I guarantee you that she’s not even had time to reflect on what she needs in her life to feel her best because you’ve layered on top of that the new concern that you’re unhappy with her body.
It doesn’t matter how you frame it, it’s that you keep bringing it up. And every time you do, it’s a backslide for her.
This is her journey to figure out, but your continuing to bring it up, though well intentioned, is holding her back because she’s focusing on how it’s affecting you, rather than herself.
So yes, never bring it up again. If you’re unhappy with the relationship due to her interest level in exercise and fitness being mismatched to yours, then end the relationship. But don’t keep trying to fit a square peg into a round hole – you’ll both end up unhappy.
Man up and ask her dude.
I think smoking it daily is making him unfocused for our future plans.
Sound like details of communication styles that get worked out BEFORE the marriage. I agree it can be frustrating to think your partner is quizzing you before stating what they think or need. If you two can’t creat a solution, I recommend couples counseling. Good ku k
Dude I’ve been told i look like a discord moderator since i was 15 and ugly as fuck consistently by everyone I’ve ever met for the 15 initial years. Im definitely as ugly or worse than i think i am. Im probably naive but i also know how little i matter and i like math so numbers are an easy way to understand everything.
Let them be happy, forget about it
Yeah, I’m particularly concerned with you being afraid to say no to sex with your boyfriend. You don’t owe him sex: if you don’t want it, don’t sleep with him. Let him be a petulant child about it.
Sounds like you want a “build-a-bear”. Your whole post you talk about yourself and YOUR interests and fail to mention what she’s into and instead call her “dumb” in a way. Do this poor woman a favor and walk away and find someone you can play Barbie’s with.
Cold feet dude. Just do it. You’ll be happy you did.
That’s real shit. Thanks
That’s exactly what I have to do.
Weird. It might be time to cut ties with all and develop new and healthy relationships. You’re surrounded by a lot of broken people.
ask him
She is blaming me because I refused to give her money last week. my sister was an addict, my mom and sister both struggled with substance abuse/mental health issues.
Break into his house, log onto his computer and read all of his search history. You will quickly be shocked to your senses and never want to think of him ever again.
Please explain how you can’t be racist towards caucasian people. From a history POV, stripping an entire population of their racial identity is literally fascist, and racist.
Hm…. two sides here.
She may get the feeling that you don't intend to stay in a long term relationship with her, as you didn't ask her to go house watching with you.
Also: not taking her with may have made you miss out on advantages and disadvantages of the houses you looked at, as she may have a practical approach on some things, which may later cause costs if to be corrected or adapted.
On the other side it will be your house, not hers.
Just keep in mind that sometimes your significant other may go berzerk on you if not included and not asked.
Even if you consider it to be your very own matter.
“She wants to live with me.” Boy… that sounds as if you were not that sure you actually wanted to online with her?!
If she is “not the one” you simply effed up a bit and may have sped up the natural death by “you friggin simply don't care about me… ?”
If she is the one… than you really should consider including her a bit more to smooth things out. Even if she doesn't pay.
For a college professor, you are pretty dumb.
The only one being ridiculous in this situation is you.
Feels like a little trickle truth is happening here…
He sounds like a psychopath in all honesty. Your parents don’t seem like they will do anything about him after the things they allowed in your childhood. I’d still make it bluntly clear to them that you dislike being around him and get a friendly visit from an officer like someone else suggested. If this causes him to act in any abusive way towards you call the police on him again and they will take action on this OP. This isn’t like when you were kids and he could just get away with it for being a kid and your parents being dismissive.
I would end the relationship before I’d risk my reputation at work.
So my vote is don’t tell him. End things. Date someone you don’t work with
Make a list of why you broke up, and things you disliked about him, to help you make a mental distance between you two.
I mean he deserves to know before things get serious. The longer she waits to tell him the worst it’s gonna be
being her biological dad wont stop a creep from being a creep to her too. not just her friends.
Have him train for a spartan race. It’s running plus obstacle course… much more fun to do
Have him train for a spartan race. It’s running plus obstacle course… much more fun to do
I agree, I just didn't think I had enough information to advise OP on how to navigate the coparenting negotiation. Sometimes when you're stuck with someone you have to pick your battles, and I don't know if the ex needs some time to cool down before this can be approached constructively or what.
We are not talking about some random person here. We are talking about a girl accidently showing a guy she had dated period blood. Imo if the guy cared he wouldn't think it's a huge, gross deal he saw period blood. If your gf accidently got period blood on your sheets while having sex would you tell her its gross?? I hope not!
Thank you, will go to my family's place this weekend.
I mean.. abuse can do that to you
she filed pro se. she is not using an attorney
I think that's exactly how I feel. I will never be able to forget what happened no matter how hard I try to. Thank you for putting my feelings into words
Her a tions put him in that position because she refused to be pressured
What's the effing deal with all these posts that are like “my wife / girlfriend / partner has a friend who hits on them, and now they're going on vacation, wut doo me doo bout it?”
Like really? REALLY?
I guess because she’s hasn’t text me or anything in the last 2 years i feel i am trying to hold onto something that’s isn’t there anymore which kinda stings
I don't wanna keep leaving if I keep going back, as it is very stressful to break up and get back together again. I almost feel stuck here, like he is somehow keeping me here mentaly. It's hard to explain. I am defenetly not trying to blame anyone and that's also why I didn't go in detail. But maybe it is just that I don't know how to survive by myself.
Girth, I feel, is not talked about enough for how much I've heard women talk about it. If he's got that girth certificate, that's also very helpful to mention!
I can relate. In my late teens and early 20's I was a competitive powerlifter and strongman.
The ridiculous diet was awesome for a guy like me that has a bad relationship with food.
Eventually I completely exited lifting or any kind of sport, but kept eating insane amounts of food. Eventually that tapered off but I still eat too much, I'm working on it. But I can tell you that at 40+ it is much harder to break those bad eating habits, lose weight and start exercising again.
Use me as an example. You were reading live about a former strength athlete that left working out and kept eating, now at 42 is struggling to get his diet right, get back into working out, and losing weight. The guy online is warning all young people to get on it while your still in your 20's.