Either you cut Katie out of your life permanently or you divorce Sarah. That's it, that's what you do. Because right now you're carrying on an emotional affair and judging by the way you have nothing good to say about your wife while praising the other woman, it's only a matter of time before it becomes a physical affair. So pick one and stick with it. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
You very clearly want to pursue Katie so go on, pull the trigger and divorce Sarah. Set your wife free to find a man who won't cheat on her. Then you and your perfect Katie can be together. Right?
DO. NOT. MARRY. HIM. In fact leave last week. Sooner
Either you cut Katie out of your life permanently or you divorce Sarah. That's it, that's what you do. Because right now you're carrying on an emotional affair and judging by the way you have nothing good to say about your wife while praising the other woman, it's only a matter of time before it becomes a physical affair. So pick one and stick with it. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
You very clearly want to pursue Katie so go on, pull the trigger and divorce Sarah. Set your wife free to find a man who won't cheat on her. Then you and your perfect Katie can be together. Right?