It is my first time reaching out. Besides telling our parents to let my brother know happy birthday/merry Christmas
Don't you understand how your brother would feel? You didn't really give an actual crap for years….and now the first time you bother reaching out directly is to invite him to the wedding of the two people who stabbed him in the back…. great.
If you wanted to rekindle your relationship with him, you should have reached out a lot earlier,without your fiancée being involved.
I was thinking of going to my parents and having them tell him I respect whatever choice he makes but It would mean a lot to me if he attends
No matter what reddit says, you're going to do this anyway.
Start with something like “I want to be vulnerable with you and need to share something with you. It’s a lot to take in, but I really trust you and need to share some things.”
Then give the background stuff
Finish with something like “you’re the first person I’ve wanted to or felt safe enough with to to be intimate with. Please be gentle, I’m timid and new at this. Please don’t confuse ptsd from the sa for willingness “
She is my line manager.
OP, just nope. This woman is in a completely different life stage, has a different timeline, there's a maturity and life experience gap.
If you were 26 and she was 33…. no issues, but at this point, just nope. You working under her clearly doesn't make anything easier.
It is my first time reaching out. Besides telling our parents to let my brother know happy birthday/merry Christmas
Don't you understand how your brother would feel? You didn't really give an actual crap for years….and now the first time you bother reaching out directly is to invite him to the wedding of the two people who stabbed him in the back…. great.
If you wanted to rekindle your relationship with him, you should have reached out a lot earlier,without your fiancée being involved.
I was thinking of going to my parents and having them tell him I respect whatever choice he makes but It would mean a lot to me if he attends
No matter what reddit says, you're going to do this anyway.
Start with something like “I want to be vulnerable with you and need to share something with you. It’s a lot to take in, but I really trust you and need to share some things.”
Then give the background stuff
Finish with something like “you’re the first person I’ve wanted to or felt safe enough with to to be intimate with. Please be gentle, I’m timid and new at this. Please don’t confuse ptsd from the sa for willingness “