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Date: October 20, 2022
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Therapist>reddit for this much material.
Agree. It’s weird that she made this grand disclosure to him and set up a lot of tension. She should have played it cool and let things happen or not.
Honestly I’ll say don’t over think it since you don’t suspect anything and she’s not complaining. Assumption is bad sometimes because that you assume might not be the case. But if she wants more than what you have then that’s just something you both have to communicate about and see if you can to and understanding and agree to whatever it is that you agree to.
Size really doesn't matter. Get a kama sutra book and you'll blow her mind more than any ex.
He just gave you the glaring red flag you were watching for. What will you do with it?
Get a paternity test if it’s that important to you. As to the brother, hubby needs to have a conversation with him….he shuts up, gets over it it gets out of your life. Thankfully you have your husbands support but what if you had an affair, you and hubs got over it and you guys decided you were ok. How would that be any if their business?? These people need to mind their own damned business
He should only have had to ask once! Not multiple times! Why would you be blurting out sexual stuff about your previous partners? No one likes thinking about there current s/o having sex with other people, he is not stupid he knows that all the things you do that he likes you learned and honed the skill with someone else(or many in some cases) it is par for the course why would he want a blow by blow of the stuff you like receiving or giving and from the people who presumably were the teachers or best exponents why else would the be so memorable. It is like an attack on his inexperience and a reminder that he has a long way to go! It is nude to fix because you are oblivious and probably appear uncaring like the stuff you said was facts what is the issue. The lack of real empathy it is not hard to sit down and say I am truly sorry take full responsibility and be remorseful. You blame your adhd and anything else for your awful behaviour. You need to rebuild the trust. Be less oblivious, more present show him how much you care more hugs, cuddles more affection make him feel loved. In terms of the confidence damage research together something you have never done before and make it your special thing that you can learn and perfect together it can be anything but make both of yours only!
Updateme!
To him you're a child, so your time doesn't matter to him. This is rude and I would question why he can't find someone his own age to date. You can do better.
The problem is that he lied not what he lied about. Here's your problem, you issued an ultimatum so either you keep your vow and break up or he just learned that if he says he's super sorry you'll decide to forgive him. That is not the precedent you want to set but you already know what you want to do because you made excuses for him in the post and waxed on about how great he is.
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So let me get this straight. You are in a relationship and she went and got a new male friend who she now hangs out with and you are still with her. Is your name door matt by any chance.
Grow a pair and tell her him or you, you can guess who she will pick or she will scream about how you don't trust her and how insecure you are, which means she is cheating on you.
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Be honest. First, she’ll figure it out. Second, she’ll appreciate the opportunity to be your first.
It's not relationship perspetive that you need by financial one. However, might as well. Ask for help whoever you can, starting with your family. If your gf is feeling guilty try to ask her for money as well. Meanwhile look for a job and then move to the city you have found it and forget about your at this point ex girlfriend.
Sucker!
Heck, even the TV show Paternity Court has done pre-natal DNA tests to determine who knocked up a pregnant woman.
Goosebumps plus weak knees plus gasping. Same happens to me when I'm in a good mood for sex.
Either she gets very very aroused and excited, or you are stimulating the vagus nerve.
Either way it's nothing dangerous per se. Just make sure she never actually falls.
Leave.
There is never any reason to use physical violence.
What exactly is she doing?
I’m guessing a College student in a Masters program (left Liberal) and boyfriends blue collar family (right conservative) may have incompatible political viewpoints. If differing political ideologies are a stumbling block for you you have a problem. It is possible to respect other opinions and have a relationship though. Up to you.
It doesn't sound like she feels the same connection you do, or at least that she isn't particularly motivated to put in the effort to build a relationship with you.
A relationship with her will not last if you're the only one making an effort to initiate contact. It will only lead to frustration and resentment.
That's fair. Honestly he didn't appreciate what you did which was very nice of you. Good luck.
She's lying to you bro, you called it as is, half truths and lies. More is going to come out and you won't like what you hear, I'd say it's rational to take a step back and re-assess your relationship. But one I beg of you is don't fall for sweet nothings in your ear.
Still think you need a DNA test
Ask for a test immediately
Thank you
I mean… Who would go through all this trouble to accuse her of something she isn't doing? This shit happens in movies ..I find it nude to believe.
So the second counsellor you were talking about is exactly what I was getting at. That counselor started to see through him so he found “reasons” for not going back. I guarantee this will happen every time you find a professional who catches on to him.
A psychiatrist is more focused on individual disorders, usually, which is the medication matter you’re referring to. Psychiatrists often have very little idea of talk therapy or working with a dynamic between two people. It’s also not typical for psychiatrists to do joint therapy so it sounds to me as though they are essentially his sessions and you’re just providing input. Of course in that instance the psychiatrist will be focused on him. I’m concerned with what you said in another comment about him having the session first and that psychiatrist effectively discussing his session with you, not being interested in just hearing your point of view, and advocating for him. That either means this is about him OR the psychiatrist is not conducting these sessions properly. I do not think it is a good idea to present any recordings you have in front of him because it gives too much scope for him to mount a defence.
As for the first one, he sounds terrible. If he actually used the word “crazy”, wasn’t taking you seriously, made you feel ganged up on, and didn’t recognize how fragile you were, then he shouldn’t be practicing. He sounds good on paper but you can be unlucky.
I’m familiar with the type of character you are talking about and I’ve no doubt he charms the professionals, has an answer for everything, and takes advantage of the fact that you’re distressed and all over the place to manipulate things in his favour both by appearing reasonable and also by making you appear unreasonable. Narcissistic characters are good at manipulating even therapists and will run away from any therapist who starts to see through them. These elements alone are enough to ring alarm bells and confirm your suspicions about him.
Therapy is a huge problem with people like this. They thrive on manipulating people and getting validation while making the other party look bad, so this is literally just an opportunity for another catch and audience for them. They’ll never be honest or genuine. It’s just a game they have to win.
I believe you with absolutely everything you have said because I’ve seen this type of person in action.
What you need is your own therapist that he doesn’t know about. This person will take you seriously and focus on your issues here, help you become stronger and more able to advocate for yourself, and also give you some insight into the sort of person you’re dealing with.
He must think you were born yesterday. He's engaging in repeat behaviour.
Yeah, if he's just got engaged he's not going to talk to the person he just slept with.
Yeah, I'm not gonna go in heart first. This time around, I'm gonna be a little more careful.
I'm a romantic at heart. I told my ex when we broke up that I thought I was living a fairy tale. But I was wrong. He was living a thriller movie and I was the bad guy.
So meeting this new guy in an almost fairy tale way is making me nervous. Coz that didn't end well before for me.
So you like getting cheated on? Have some dignity
I went to one of those “anything but clothes” parties in college with a duct tape dress. It was mostly a solid garment, but there were a few small areas that the sticky side met my skin. What a bitch.
As soon as I read “slowly peeled the tape off my eyes” and it wasn’t followed with “and it ripped off my eyebrows” I knew this was fake.
As someone who is going through the same thing as your husband, I sympathize with both of you, but relate to him.
I would be lying if I haven’t thought the same as your husband, sometimes love isn’t enough. I choose to support my wife, but it takes a toll. She is unable to work, money is tight, I can’t live! my life the way I pictured it, and she is incapable of financially supporting me/us, and because of her mental health, she can’t emotionally support me. A lot of the relationship is on me.
My only advice is the same I give my wife. Focus on you, to better yourself, day in and day out. Don’t worry about him, if you try to it can put your mental health in decline. Just try your best, get all the help you can, and hope that one day you can be there to support your husband and be equals in the relationship once again.
If your wife was as great as you say she was, she would be so grateful that you found someone that would treat your kids the way she did! As parents, we should all hope for that in the event that the worst happens. Encourage your gf to carry on your wife's traditions with the kids. That can help keep her memory alive.
You should have told him before you married him, wonder why you're only thinking of telling him now that it would be much harder to leave you…
Sex is emotional to you. Not to him. He could jerk off to the hottest woman alive, but he loves YOU. I reckon it must be hard to understand when you tie sex and feelings so much, but as a guy that is non monogamous i gotta say, my partner is in another whole level. I’d cut my dick off if i had to choose between it and the love of my life. If you asked he’d probably stop, but that would just make him sad that he lost something that made him happy. Hows things in bed? Do you do de sexy stuff often?
First, I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find healing.
For you fiancé, could you possibly reach out to a trusted friend of his or family member and ask to help reach him in his grief and get him some help. He sounds like he is blinded by his grief for your loss and he does not know how to process or deal with it and is taking out on you. Someone outside of you could possibly be able to reach him. Or the alternative is that you need to leave and get help for yourself. This may allow him to see what he is doing to you. My heart breaks for you. You are dealing with so much right now. Sending you a big hug and hope that you find the healing for the both of you.
Further context here,
Till today we have not tried extensively to have baby and we were just about to begin trying but things went south, there were times in this duration where our parents kept asking about having baby, my mom took one step ahead and went to doctor along with my wife to find out if anything is wrong clinically although we have been telling her everything was alright, understandably by wife didn't take this well and since I don't like confrontation I let the incidence pass and then later spoke to my mom it was not a right thing to do, at that moment she didn't take me seriously, she went about talking to other family member about this, again my wife didn't take this well, one day we sat and had a conversation where my wife told my mom that there was nothing wrong clinically and we did have a pregnancy and we terminated dude to restriction to travel and we could not be with each other to enjoy the pregnancy, my dream is to always stay with my wife and look after her in this period. Again my mom didn't take this well, she might have gone around telling close family that my wife terminated the pregnancy she might have made it sound like it was her decision and not ours. Fast forward to now, Few weeks ago my wife found out that I had girlfriends before I meet her, I had not told this my self initially because I was worried how she may take this, I agree this is my fault, I had major doubts she may not take this well, which made it worst when she found out and didn't come out of me, one of the major reason why I had not told her before is because she believe in “one partner life time” and she was serious about it, considering some of the things mentally she was going through I was super scared to tell her this and put off telling about it ever since. Now that she has got to know she didn't take it well that I had not told about this before although I had hinted her before that I had girlfriends before. Between all the I know we were not emotionally well connected, I always wanted to improve out relationship I was putting all the efforts possible and I still was not upto the mark in connecting emotionally and lack of communication, but I never gave up, I was always putting effort in improving it as much as possible from my end. Now she things i'm a bad person, she says I manipulate her, and she says I don't stand up for her, there were many times I have stood up to her just not in front of her because I feel if she sees me fighting with other people she may not take it well, I feel like she will take it in a wrong way. She is a kind of person who responds rudely in her voice and delivery but she don't mean it bad, but this worries me, which I have been communicating to her all this time, I don't find her talking romantic but I can easily find her talking rude and harsh about me or other people. We had a very big fight today and she asked me to leave the country we are living and go back home because she is not able to tolerate me, I have always been sitting next to her trying to convince and calm her down. Im promising her I will be a better person and understand her sensitively, i'm willing to put all my efforts into this, she is not able to accept my mom's act and she keeps scolding me that I sound like my mom and I act like my mom and she is not able to accept that I didn't mention about the past girlfriends. At this point she is sleeping across me on the bed and i'm typing on reddit looking for advice and help for my self, how can I make her understand we have better future than our past, I don't want to give up on this marriage, help me with this reddit, let me know if I need to make anything clear in what I have told, I may have missed mentioning things which may not be on top of my mind right now. I think past is gone and we have to focus on future as long as we are involved and willing make it better, What do you think of this situation?
I think the fact that there is photographic evidence readily available to the public makes there’s something she should’ve told you about before marrying. As for her looking like she was enjoying it, most porn actors will tell you that it’s their job to look like they’re having fun, but that it isn’t really.
As for the other emotions, when in doubt, do nothing. Find a counselor that you can discuss this with and will help you work out what you’re really feeling. You can figure out what you want to do about this from there.
I think the fact that there is photographic evidence readily available to the public makes there’s something she should’ve told you about before marrying. As for her looking like she was enjoying it, most porn actors will tell you that it’s their job to look like they’re having fun, but that it isn’t really.
As for the other emotions, when in doubt, do nothing. Find a counselor that you can discuss this with and will help you work out what you’re really feeling. You can figure out what you want to do about this from there.
Because in your head youre debating whether to on-line with him rent free for 5 months or find your own place and pay for everything. And you feel like he owe you the 3 month since you let him stay with you for 3 months.
Either a) he decides to cheat, b) gets violent when you say no, c) coerces/forces you, or d) any number of other bad outcomes.
You’re going to potentially be co parenting with them. Take the high road! It feels better to be the bigger person. Karma will get them don’t you worry about that! They won’t live! happily ever after. But you can when you move forward and don’t look back!
1st mistake was keeping that video once you guys got together.
Yup
He isn’t automatically attracted to women with piercings. He told you as much. If you want the piercings, you may have to find a different husband, if he can’t adjust.
Personally, I would probably not be thrilled if my wife decided to dramatically and permanently alter her body. I can’t, and don’t want to control my wife, but she also makes sure that aesthetic choices that she makes with her body are something that I’d be excited about, or at least almost neutral about. We both have a rule that we won’t shave our heads, at least not without discussing it prior. I would probably be disturbed if my wife started gauges for example. When we married, we both had a sense that our personal aesthetics were pleasing to each other, and that while they would shift, they would not shift overly.
His comment was rude and offensive. There’s no question about that. But you getting more body piercings is driving a potential wedge of incompatibility in the relationship, regardless of whether it’s controlling or patriarchal or whatever. Since he adjusted to the Medusa piercing with time, tell him how his comment made you feel.
Did her mother see any difference in her behaviour?
Apparently you're not entitled to your own privacy when you're in a relationship/marriage anymore.
The bf and mother are just as evil imo.