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You can get one. Your DNA will still show up so long as you are related to the child. Inwould suggest getting one from her now. They use blood to identify it in pregnant women. You can confirm that it is infact your grand child
I'm aware people react differently but how do people mentally mature? By realizing there is a way to improve on these situation. OP is not asking for a free operation, he's just stumped with the lack of concern.
A normal reaction would be: “I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to react to this. But sorry that happened to you.” and not being condescending and making fun of how he walks now. You're asking him to suck it up. Do you believe he has the right to be upset that he isn't getting the support he deserve?
Your 23 so grow up, you can't complain or be mad when someone you are not in a relationship with see other people.
This is a bad negative personality trait but you can always I'm over yourself and unreasonable jealousiess are common and if you want to you can get over it.
Only idiots get jealous of this. No joke, Iâve invested hundreds in vibrators for my wife, and she has more orgasms, making her hornier, and we see more action together as a result.
Your mother has turned you away on a holiday break because youâre struggling in school and youâre depressed. Iâm sorry, but your mother is horrible. Youâre at an age where life is very very hot. If you were my daughter we would spend the break talking about everything going on and I would do everything in my power to help you feel confident when you return.
You also likely havenât spent enough time away from your parents yet to realize that some of the things they do are not normal or healthy. Stay in therapy, take care of you. Please DM me if you need to talk.
My friend, she is using you as a second option so if she has no man to turn to she can fall back on you so she doesnt have to be alone, if she slept with a man days after the break up I guarantee she was entertaining the other man while you guys were dating. Trust me, I had a similar situation with my ex baby daddy, I tried to make things work for 6 years, he only stayed friends and only talked to me so he'd have a piece of meat to call upon when no one else was available to warm his bed.
It will take time but you will heal from this, I promise you. You will find someone worth your time, love and affection.
Well, what have you done to start overcoming your ED? Yâall have been dating for 8 months, so while her 3-strike rule seems harsh, itâs not coming out of nowhere. 8 months is a looong time for an adult relationship.
Her phrasing sucks but likely sheâs at the end of her rope if you havenât been taking steps to address the issue.
It's only going to get worse. You have been together your entire adulthood. The feeling of having missed out on casual dating and other things will get stronger in a few years.
I do not say, that he will necessarily cheat on you. Not everyone does. With that said it might be the responsible thing to wait a couple more years and if your relation survives and you will still want to commit to each other yoy can do it then.
The biggest and most important difference is the intent behind it. The intent behind control is, of course, control and the intent behind a boundary is to protect the boundary setter and help maintain healthy relationships with ourselves and others.
Age has no bearing for someone with a mental disorder – heâs a narcissist or possibly BPD. She should definitely and immediately stop talking to him.
You probably need to reevaluate your relationship with him.
As for the strain, you already know why, the difference in time that you are going to be gone makes no difference in his mind, you are still going to be gone, and while you are gone he doesnât know if you are not cheating, and he doesnât know if you will return.
He sounds like he has a lot of issues to work through, and to be honest, it doesnât seem fair that you need to put your life on hold for him while he does, especially as it doesnât seem like he has done anything to address his problems before now.
If you do decide to end the relationship, then before you get into another one is the best time to go traveling, as sorry but you will find it difficult to find anyone who will be 100% comfortable with their partner traveling for 3 months or more by themselves, not saying you wonât find someone who will support you in your travels, but they are unlikely to be 100% comfortable with it, and itâs better to not have that potential issue crop up again for you.
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I get what you're saying but it wouldn't be moving home for me. I've lived here my entire life but have flown down go visit many times. I was raised by my grandparents near Toronto and when they retired and moved home, I stayed here. I don't have a relationship with my mother due to abuse and my dad and the rest of the family I'm close to live out there too. I just thought explaining that in my post would be too much to read lol
You want these to stop, no matter what you do it is unlikely they will.
Instead you can change how you see it as just a message, he doesn't keep doing it and putting on pressure, he doesn't get anyone else to pressure you either. So you really could just keep one email channel open, put a message saying “thank you for your email”. And just keep ignoring it.
Keep in mind that you are in control of responding back, so he gets nothing in return for his messages. I wouldn't even block them, just regard them as an annoyance that you have to be reminded he exists a couple of times a year.
You could create an email account that would just route the emails into a black hole, pretty much the same as now. Block everything else but leave one channel he can send to and think that you are receiving them.
You can die from a ruptured appendix. If your boyfriend hadn't been so selfish, you could have gotten to the hospital in time. Removing an appendix before it bursts itâs much safer and has a far better outcome. Because you werenât able to get to the hospital in time, your recovery time is far longer and your risk of complications greater, all thanks to your selfish asshole of a boyfriend.
Stop trying to befriend your exes and go meet new people. Itâs pretty clear sheâs not interested in seeing you again and was too nice to explicitly say it until now
These aren't unreasonable rules at all, however the fact that you feel the need to make them at all is a huge red flag for your relationship. You shouldn't have to tell your partner not to snoop through your stuff, or to respect the house, or to respect your personal space and privacy. The fact that you feel the need to make him agree to these very basic, common-sense practices suggests to me that he hasn't been very respectful toward you in the past, which in turn suggests that he won't in the future. I don't think you guys should move in together.
Same. The friend saying “If you need me to be the bad guy, then I'm the bad guy” really says a lot about him. He knew it was an AH move but he didn't have bad motives behind it. The friend knows OP and his gf better than we do and I think he knew it would work out.
Exactly!!!! The ex did not bother raising her kids, she only had them on holidays⌠who was cooking for them, take care of them day in day out⌠THE YOUNG WIFE whom OP is bashing OIP is a prick
I knew a couple who were together for EIGHT YEARS, lived together for five, owned a house for three, and was still surprised when she left because he wouldn't commit. I feel like buying a house is a way larger commitment than getting married, but I guess not to some people.
Thanks so much for you concern! Your opinion is really valid, and I promise to be very careful moving forward. The reason we have moved ahead so fast is because I have actually known him for years and years, so we sort of skipped the getting to know each other phase. He's well known to my sibling, who lives nearby, and is mutual friends with all my friends. (Which certainly wasn't true of the ex, and his open dislike of my friends was another ignored red flag.) We bought a property together after discussing at length our life goals and boundaries beforehand. It was also my idea, and his family and mine were very involved in the whole process. I'm never really alone, and have a huge supportive community that seems to be giving this relationship and property glowing reviews. I see a therapist every week for the previous trauma I've suffered, and I'm very communicative with her about what happens in this relationship. So far she seems really cool with how this is progressing. He is very aware of my need to be in healing, seeing a therapist, taking depression medications, etc. He actually has been a true godsend through all this. He is extremely gentle with me, and has given me no reason (for real this time!) not to trust him. However, I understand (now more than ever) that trust is earned, not inherent. Your advice is still solid, as well as the other poster who mentioned it. Honestly I'm just touched that anybody cares about what I went through. Thank you! I promise I am being well looked after, and am very safe. If that ever changes I know I've learned my lesson about walking away in a timely manner. I really have no desire to ignore r/reltionship_advice again when you all gave me such solid advice last time. Everyone here is still so supportive and honest. Thanks to you, and to everyone!
Your wife wanted to open the relationship up. Now sheâs jealous of you and what you are doing in the open relationship.
If you love your wife, and want a relationship with her, then tell your wife that you will stop, but she also has to stop. As it isnât fair that she gets to see other people and you donât.
If you donât mind one way or the other, then tell her she opened the relationship up, and unless she stops having relationships with other people, that you will continue to fuck anyone you want.
If you realise that your wife is a predator, and a hypocrite, then divorce.
In any case, remorse won't change anything, and which explanation could make a difference? In cases like this it's very easy to see that the way to go is the way out.
He went on about how he was simply doing research because weâve talked about having threesomes. Mind you our talk never consisted of recruiting escorts, as we both clearly discussed it would have to be someone we know and trust. And no escort is gonna wanna take the time to get to know us. Like Iâm more mad that he is so convinced in this and clearly thinks Iâm an idiot.
There is not need for you to feel guilty because you haven't done anything wrong. This is entirely a situation of her own making.
She is upset about how the relationship ended with this guy but she really should be healing and not bringing it up at every party or social interaction. She is playing the victim now when she didn't get unequivocally supported (despite being objectively wrong), and has been for a long time and bad mouthing some dude for it too.
You might want to take a look at her overall behaviour and see if this is a pattern.
She was asked explicitly for what she nitpicks, so she only described things she nitpicks. That doesn't mean “everything he does” – we have a very small sample of things here (and only the descriptions of the bad).
If it's her stuff getting ruined, including her sleep (she said he's playing on his phone in bed next to her), she is not out of bounds asking him (respectfully of course) to consider different approaches (like if he wants to game on his phone, to take it to another room – apparently he just doesn't want to).
A partnership is consideration of both sides, and it sounds like he's not considering a lot of how what he does affects her (/her things).
People have to establish consent prior to sexual encounters. Sounds like that was the start of the process, to him. Whether it means you were used or not is subjective and up to you. To me, it sounds like a person wanted to hookup and took a shot, then left when he was declined. If there is some part of this I've overlooked which would make this a weird/creepy encounter, that's on me and I'm sorry.
Well didnât exactly know thatâs the thing. He grew up in an environment where âIf thereâs no meaning to it then itâs not importantâ. So he flirted as a joke with others but after telling him he seemed surprised it wasnât normal. Even noting âDidnât know it was a common rule.â
As for being disrespected, Iâve gotten so used to being cheated on by my past relationships I didnât even feel much. But I guess me being insecure about it could label me as being disrespected..
Still, use condoms some stds donât show up on test until symptoms are showing. Date him first see if the relationship is serious then do raw sex. Not many people want to date people with stds
“I don't want a husband who is ok with sharing me.”
That is very different than saying you want a husband who is interested in monogamy.
You want a possessive, controlling husband who would categorically not be okay with you exercising sexual agency if sex with other people were what you wanted. You want an abusive relationship – you need psychotherapy.
Hi Poly woman here! Everyone who slammed on you is totally out of pocket!! Your feelings are completely valid and fair. It isnât for everyone and that is absolutely ok đ
Im glad you stood your ground and made sure you didnât sway just to please someone else!
Geez. Your dick is not growing and I think itâs a little wild that she is jumping to âdick surgeryâ and pointing at you being the problem instead of considering that the changes are on her end.. which is the more realistic scenario. Everyoneâs already given you the advice so Iâll just resound it.. ask her to check in with her gyno
I once went out for an entire day with a male friend because he was helping me pick something up when my husband wasnât available. I bought him a nice lunch while we were on our day long road trip as a thank you.
We somehow managed not to rip each otherâs clothes off because we are friends and in committed relationships with other people. We had some laughs, chatted a lot, collected what we needed to and came home again.
Op definitely tried telling him he was going to be a dad. Itâs his fault he failed to keep up with it. He did t want anything to do with her. Because he thought she cheated. Op I would definitely send a message letting his mom know what actually went down. But I would also have sit down with your husband and kids and talk about the truth. Itâs only fair and right. Itâs so gut wrenching to find out that life isnât true at all and your parents arenât your parents,but are your parents. Be the better person. Itâs also important for health reasons just in case they need some type of major surgery.
My man. After she breaks up with you is not the time to confess your feelings. That she “still wants to be friends” is clearly not going to work for you, so I think if you have something competent and mature to say regarding how you messed up, say that to her and tell her you still want to be with her, but that if y'all aren't getting back together it's best you don't see or talk to each other anymore. This may be tougher in the short term but you will move on more easily
You talk about your unfulfilled dreams and desire for a big life etc. Thatâs whatâs called âfuture thinking.â Example, I will be happy in the future if only ____ I get a job, or married etc.
As they say, the guaranteed recipe for unhappiness, is future thinking. You canât be happy in the future, you can only be happy now. A baby will force you to focus on your current life.
The key to happiness is to have a happy day today. If you string enough happy days together you have a happy life.
I have the same attitude as this guy and probably have better sex than 95% of people on Reddit haha. Itâs not about having a bad sex life or being boring, itâs about having basic human respect for someone youâre likely to end up in a relationship with. IMO saying that people who are strictly monogamous have bad sex is a projection of people who are promiscuous but still dissatisfied.
No I'm 100% sure it was an accident haha. I trust him enough for that. If he was uncomfortable by my gender identity, we would have an active conversation about that. I appreciate the input, though!
You can get one. Your DNA will still show up so long as you are related to the child. Inwould suggest getting one from her now. They use blood to identify it in pregnant women. You can confirm that it is infact your grand child
sorry, đ
I'm aware people react differently but how do people mentally mature? By realizing there is a way to improve on these situation. OP is not asking for a free operation, he's just stumped with the lack of concern.
A normal reaction would be: “I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to react to this. But sorry that happened to you.” and not being condescending and making fun of how he walks now. You're asking him to suck it up. Do you believe he has the right to be upset that he isn't getting the support he deserve?
Your 23 so grow up, you can't complain or be mad when someone you are not in a relationship with see other people.
This is a bad negative personality trait but you can always I'm over yourself and unreasonable jealousiess are common and if you want to you can get over it.
Ditch the Weeb and fuck his brother as a parting shot.
Break up then she'll find someone else who's not an elitist snob
That's not how it works lol.
You're young and fun right now, it will only get worse after you get married. You stress about everything, sex life dies. You'll both gain weight.
It doesn't get better after marriage.
Only idiots get jealous of this. No joke, Iâve invested hundreds in vibrators for my wife, and she has more orgasms, making her hornier, and we see more action together as a result.
This made me feel a lot better. Thank you.
I would love to know a woman that was interested in sex like that. I haven't been given permission to see a woman very hot in 10 years.
Echoing a lot of other comments. It sucks, but you need to move out. Five months in your situation will do nothing for your mental health.
Your mother has turned you away on a holiday break because youâre struggling in school and youâre depressed. Iâm sorry, but your mother is horrible. Youâre at an age where life is very very hot. If you were my daughter we would spend the break talking about everything going on and I would do everything in my power to help you feel confident when you return.
You also likely havenât spent enough time away from your parents yet to realize that some of the things they do are not normal or healthy. Stay in therapy, take care of you. Please DM me if you need to talk.
Just be yourself – she wouldn't be with you if she didn't want to be.
My friend, she is using you as a second option so if she has no man to turn to she can fall back on you so she doesnt have to be alone, if she slept with a man days after the break up I guarantee she was entertaining the other man while you guys were dating. Trust me, I had a similar situation with my ex baby daddy, I tried to make things work for 6 years, he only stayed friends and only talked to me so he'd have a piece of meat to call upon when no one else was available to warm his bed.
It will take time but you will heal from this, I promise you. You will find someone worth your time, love and affection.
Well, what have you done to start overcoming your ED? Yâall have been dating for 8 months, so while her 3-strike rule seems harsh, itâs not coming out of nowhere. 8 months is a looong time for an adult relationship.
Her phrasing sucks but likely sheâs at the end of her rope if you havenât been taking steps to address the issue.
You are pathetic.
It's only going to get worse. You have been together your entire adulthood. The feeling of having missed out on casual dating and other things will get stronger in a few years.
I do not say, that he will necessarily cheat on you. Not everyone does. With that said it might be the responsible thing to wait a couple more years and if your relation survives and you will still want to commit to each other yoy can do it then.
He sounds like an immature jerk. I think you can do better.
You didnât know divorce existed before your mommy told you so at 30?
It really can. If anything can be a boundary.
How do I get him âback in the doorâ like there has to be something to show him itâs all in his head
Do you really think that anyone has the time to track you? Why would they? And how would they do that?
The biggest and most important difference is the intent behind it. The intent behind control is, of course, control and the intent behind a boundary is to protect the boundary setter and help maintain healthy relationships with ourselves and others.
Hahaha yeah, it got pretty bad though. No meds was a bad choice.
I could speculate, but you should probably tell him everything you've said in your post. That's the only way to know for sure.
Yes, it sounds like it was intentional. And it could be for any number of reasons
Fertility issues not really a problem, but birth defects and mental issues in the children hikes up just like women.
Either way tho I hope the situation resolves itself for you OP
Age has no bearing for someone with a mental disorder – heâs a narcissist or possibly BPD. She should definitely and immediately stop talking to him.
You probably need to reevaluate your relationship with him.
As for the strain, you already know why, the difference in time that you are going to be gone makes no difference in his mind, you are still going to be gone, and while you are gone he doesnât know if you are not cheating, and he doesnât know if you will return.
He sounds like he has a lot of issues to work through, and to be honest, it doesnât seem fair that you need to put your life on hold for him while he does, especially as it doesnât seem like he has done anything to address his problems before now.
If you do decide to end the relationship, then before you get into another one is the best time to go traveling, as sorry but you will find it difficult to find anyone who will be 100% comfortable with their partner traveling for 3 months or more by themselves, not saying you wonât find someone who will support you in your travels, but they are unlikely to be 100% comfortable with it, and itâs better to not have that potential issue crop up again for you.
She uses it
I love reddit. A person makes a rational argument and still is shouted down or told “you're wrong”
Silly reddit people
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Girl, just stop. A burden? Just get over your shit.
Thank you. Been trying to come to terms with stepping away
It's over anyway man, stop thinking you can salvage this!
I get what you're saying but it wouldn't be moving home for me. I've lived here my entire life but have flown down go visit many times. I was raised by my grandparents near Toronto and when they retired and moved home, I stayed here. I don't have a relationship with my mother due to abuse and my dad and the rest of the family I'm close to live out there too. I just thought explaining that in my post would be too much to read lol
You want these to stop, no matter what you do it is unlikely they will.
Instead you can change how you see it as just a message, he doesn't keep doing it and putting on pressure, he doesn't get anyone else to pressure you either. So you really could just keep one email channel open, put a message saying “thank you for your email”. And just keep ignoring it.
Keep in mind that you are in control of responding back, so he gets nothing in return for his messages. I wouldn't even block them, just regard them as an annoyance that you have to be reminded he exists a couple of times a year.
You could create an email account that would just route the emails into a black hole, pretty much the same as now. Block everything else but leave one channel he can send to and think that you are receiving them.
Bro have you been in a relationship? ?
That's great, your role deserves to be officially recognised.
You can die from a ruptured appendix. If your boyfriend hadn't been so selfish, you could have gotten to the hospital in time. Removing an appendix before it bursts itâs much safer and has a far better outcome. Because you werenât able to get to the hospital in time, your recovery time is far longer and your risk of complications greater, all thanks to your selfish asshole of a boyfriend.
Stop trying to befriend your exes and go meet new people. Itâs pretty clear sheâs not interested in seeing you again and was too nice to explicitly say it until now
These aren't unreasonable rules at all, however the fact that you feel the need to make them at all is a huge red flag for your relationship. You shouldn't have to tell your partner not to snoop through your stuff, or to respect the house, or to respect your personal space and privacy. The fact that you feel the need to make him agree to these very basic, common-sense practices suggests to me that he hasn't been very respectful toward you in the past, which in turn suggests that he won't in the future. I don't think you guys should move in together.
Same. The friend saying “If you need me to be the bad guy, then I'm the bad guy” really says a lot about him. He knew it was an AH move but he didn't have bad motives behind it. The friend knows OP and his gf better than we do and I think he knew it would work out.
WTF do you think you would be doing with a 32 year old child that you couldn't do with them at 72?
Exactly!!!! The ex did not bother raising her kids, she only had them on holidays⌠who was cooking for them, take care of them day in day out⌠THE YOUNG WIFE whom OP is bashing OIP is a prick
I knew a couple who were together for EIGHT YEARS, lived together for five, owned a house for three, and was still surprised when she left because he wouldn't commit. I feel like buying a house is a way larger commitment than getting married, but I guess not to some people.
Thanks so much for you concern! Your opinion is really valid, and I promise to be very careful moving forward. The reason we have moved ahead so fast is because I have actually known him for years and years, so we sort of skipped the getting to know each other phase. He's well known to my sibling, who lives nearby, and is mutual friends with all my friends. (Which certainly wasn't true of the ex, and his open dislike of my friends was another ignored red flag.) We bought a property together after discussing at length our life goals and boundaries beforehand. It was also my idea, and his family and mine were very involved in the whole process. I'm never really alone, and have a huge supportive community that seems to be giving this relationship and property glowing reviews. I see a therapist every week for the previous trauma I've suffered, and I'm very communicative with her about what happens in this relationship. So far she seems really cool with how this is progressing. He is very aware of my need to be in healing, seeing a therapist, taking depression medications, etc. He actually has been a true godsend through all this. He is extremely gentle with me, and has given me no reason (for real this time!) not to trust him. However, I understand (now more than ever) that trust is earned, not inherent. Your advice is still solid, as well as the other poster who mentioned it. Honestly I'm just touched that anybody cares about what I went through. Thank you! I promise I am being well looked after, and am very safe. If that ever changes I know I've learned my lesson about walking away in a timely manner. I really have no desire to ignore r/reltionship_advice again when you all gave me such solid advice last time. Everyone here is still so supportive and honest. Thanks to you, and to everyone!
Your wife wanted to open the relationship up. Now sheâs jealous of you and what you are doing in the open relationship.
If you love your wife, and want a relationship with her, then tell your wife that you will stop, but she also has to stop. As it isnât fair that she gets to see other people and you donât.
If you donât mind one way or the other, then tell her she opened the relationship up, and unless she stops having relationships with other people, that you will continue to fuck anyone you want.
If you realise that your wife is a predator, and a hypocrite, then divorce.
If it's cheating to you, you need to let him go. There are men outside who are willing to stop watching porn for the one they love.
Is he even trying to regain your trust? I doubt so.
You have good reasons to not like porn and you also have good reasons to date a man who won't look at porn.
In any case, remorse won't change anything, and which explanation could make a difference? In cases like this it's very easy to see that the way to go is the way out.
He went on about how he was simply doing research because weâve talked about having threesomes. Mind you our talk never consisted of recruiting escorts, as we both clearly discussed it would have to be someone we know and trust. And no escort is gonna wanna take the time to get to know us. Like Iâm more mad that he is so convinced in this and clearly thinks Iâm an idiot.
Well, on the plus side, if you stay with him when he's cheating on you like this, you'll get a gig as a clown.
How is two people in their 20s with a 6 year gap comparable to 2 people with a 9 year gap, one mid-30s and the other mid-20s?
There is not need for you to feel guilty because you haven't done anything wrong. This is entirely a situation of her own making.
She is upset about how the relationship ended with this guy but she really should be healing and not bringing it up at every party or social interaction. She is playing the victim now when she didn't get unequivocally supported (despite being objectively wrong), and has been for a long time and bad mouthing some dude for it too.
You might want to take a look at her overall behaviour and see if this is a pattern.
how can you be so sure she is
She was asked explicitly for what she nitpicks, so she only described things she nitpicks. That doesn't mean “everything he does” – we have a very small sample of things here (and only the descriptions of the bad).
If it's her stuff getting ruined, including her sleep (she said he's playing on his phone in bed next to her), she is not out of bounds asking him (respectfully of course) to consider different approaches (like if he wants to game on his phone, to take it to another room – apparently he just doesn't want to).
A partnership is consideration of both sides, and it sounds like he's not considering a lot of how what he does affects her (/her things).
People have to establish consent prior to sexual encounters. Sounds like that was the start of the process, to him. Whether it means you were used or not is subjective and up to you. To me, it sounds like a person wanted to hookup and took a shot, then left when he was declined. If there is some part of this I've overlooked which would make this a weird/creepy encounter, that's on me and I'm sorry.
Yes – rip the bandaid off
Walk away, bro. Just walk away, and never look back.
No man deserves to have to deal with that.
That actually sounds super helpful, checking them out now
Ok so it wasn't what you each expected. It time yiu will laugh about it looking back. Just build a bridge and move on . Congratulations by the way.
“She already sent him pics” Nahhh I wouldnt let that one pass. Def something weird going on
If she wants a roommate, she can find a roommate. Charge them rent. Youâre her partner, you split the cost of living.
Only seen her twice⌠I mean once is to much
Thatâs abuse plain and simple
Wasn't there a guy all over the Internet who bragged about doing this?? I think he was in Romania or something. Wonder what happened to him…
Well didnât exactly know thatâs the thing. He grew up in an environment where âIf thereâs no meaning to it then itâs not importantâ. So he flirted as a joke with others but after telling him he seemed surprised it wasnât normal. Even noting âDidnât know it was a common rule.â
As for being disrespected, Iâve gotten so used to being cheated on by my past relationships I didnât even feel much. But I guess me being insecure about it could label me as being disrespected..
Still, use condoms some stds donât show up on test until symptoms are showing. Date him first see if the relationship is serious then do raw sex. Not many people want to date people with stds
Well apparently nobody else likes her, soooo there's not really a bar at all…
“I don't want a husband who is ok with sharing me.”
That is very different than saying you want a husband who is interested in monogamy.
You want a possessive, controlling husband who would categorically not be okay with you exercising sexual agency if sex with other people were what you wanted. You want an abusive relationship – you need psychotherapy.
Your exercise in creative writing needs work.
Hi Poly woman here! Everyone who slammed on you is totally out of pocket!! Your feelings are completely valid and fair. It isnât for everyone and that is absolutely ok đ
Im glad you stood your ground and made sure you didnât sway just to please someone else!
Proud of you for knowing what it is you want!!!
Geez. Your dick is not growing and I think itâs a little wild that she is jumping to âdick surgeryâ and pointing at you being the problem instead of considering that the changes are on her end.. which is the more realistic scenario. Everyoneâs already given you the advice so Iâll just resound it.. ask her to check in with her gyno
I once went out for an entire day with a male friend because he was helping me pick something up when my husband wasnât available. I bought him a nice lunch while we were on our day long road trip as a thank you.
We somehow managed not to rip each otherâs clothes off because we are friends and in committed relationships with other people. We had some laughs, chatted a lot, collected what we needed to and came home again.
This is completely normal behaviour.
Username says otherwise
Op definitely tried telling him he was going to be a dad. Itâs his fault he failed to keep up with it. He did t want anything to do with her. Because he thought she cheated. Op I would definitely send a message letting his mom know what actually went down. But I would also have sit down with your husband and kids and talk about the truth. Itâs only fair and right. Itâs so gut wrenching to find out that life isnât true at all and your parents arenât your parents,but are your parents. Be the better person. Itâs also important for health reasons just in case they need some type of major surgery.
“The game's more fun when there's a goalie in the net”
So cringe.
Uh, they were broken up at the time, so none of those points matter.
OP wasn't his girlfriend when he fucked her, so that is all irrelevant.
Holy shit yeah that creeped me out.
My man. After she breaks up with you is not the time to confess your feelings. That she “still wants to be friends” is clearly not going to work for you, so I think if you have something competent and mature to say regarding how you messed up, say that to her and tell her you still want to be with her, but that if y'all aren't getting back together it's best you don't see or talk to each other anymore. This may be tougher in the short term but you will move on more easily
You talk about your unfulfilled dreams and desire for a big life etc. Thatâs whatâs called âfuture thinking.â Example, I will be happy in the future if only ____ I get a job, or married etc.
As they say, the guaranteed recipe for unhappiness, is future thinking. You canât be happy in the future, you can only be happy now. A baby will force you to focus on your current life.
The key to happiness is to have a happy day today. If you string enough happy days together you have a happy life.
I have the same attitude as this guy and probably have better sex than 95% of people on Reddit haha. Itâs not about having a bad sex life or being boring, itâs about having basic human respect for someone youâre likely to end up in a relationship with. IMO saying that people who are strictly monogamous have bad sex is a projection of people who are promiscuous but still dissatisfied.
She continually plans things and invites herself over though
Listen to yourself, sweetheart. Youâre their girl too, and we all want you to run.
No I'm 100% sure it was an accident haha. I trust him enough for that. If he was uncomfortable by my gender identity, we would have an active conversation about that. I appreciate the input, though!
You are the last on a long line of monkey branches.
I learnt that from this post! The more you know ?
it eventually lead us to making out for a good 10 mins TWICE.
Does he like me?
LOL
I got a warning. I used an emoji instead of using the word âdickâ⌠I was trying to be civil.