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Sorry I'm a little confused, if he isn't looking for a relationship and you are then yes it would be awkward but it's better to know that than to keep a fwb situation going if either of you have feelings for the other. I don't think you should skirt around it or be dishonest if you have feelings, he should know. If that makes you undesirable to him then it's probably time for you to move on
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Why did you even contact your ex? The excuse of “I just wanted to see if she was alive” is dumb. Your gf has a right to be suspicious of this especially considering that she saw the messages to her. Why did you feel the need to reminisce with your ex? Very unnecessary. What exactly did you say in these messages?
Just break up with her. I’d bet there’s at least some hidden resentment there, and why waste your time with someone who might just one day end it for no reason other than they want to see what else is out there. Cuz at the end of the day nothing you do will make her change that line of thinking
I've seen people who have what I would call a “weed addiction”. But they smoke an ounce or more a week. It's usually more of a mental thing than a physical addiction. If she is like me, she is probably just taking a hit here and there to make the day a little nicer. Your girlfriend is just a stoner, nothing to worry about. Cannabis isn't like drinking or harder drugs, and a lot of menial labor jobs can absolutely be done “a little” high, as long as you are not messing up constantly or operating machinery.
I do feel that smoking should be done after my work is finished. But that's just because it gives me a bit of a panic attack sometimes if I have to worry about getting shit done. But I also don't work as a server. If I had one back when I did that job, I would probably be hitting it at work too.
On the other hand, it's way too easy with the vape pens to be high 24/7, so I feel like people should take a nice break every once in a while to get their head straight.
Your friend is a taker and you're a giver. I don't think you need to cut her off entirely. Just don't be as responsive and don't allow her to go on for hours about some guy problem. Maybe ghost her a little. Pick back up again when you feel like talking to her – which might never happen.
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Sorry I'm a little confused, if he isn't looking for a relationship and you are then yes it would be awkward but it's better to know that than to keep a fwb situation going if either of you have feelings for the other. I don't think you should skirt around it or be dishonest if you have feelings, he should know. If that makes you undesirable to him then it's probably time for you to move on
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Unfortunately I agree. Maybe I'm just overcommitting myself. Thanks!
She’s done with the situation. Move on.
Why did you even contact your ex? The excuse of “I just wanted to see if she was alive” is dumb. Your gf has a right to be suspicious of this especially considering that she saw the messages to her. Why did you feel the need to reminisce with your ex? Very unnecessary. What exactly did you say in these messages?
I tried to get her to stay firm but she gives in after being bitten
I don't really think there is a problem here unless you make it one.
Dump her. You were an adorable baby!
Just break up with her. I’d bet there’s at least some hidden resentment there, and why waste your time with someone who might just one day end it for no reason other than they want to see what else is out there. Cuz at the end of the day nothing you do will make her change that line of thinking
Good luck – just tell her
I've seen people who have what I would call a “weed addiction”. But they smoke an ounce or more a week. It's usually more of a mental thing than a physical addiction. If she is like me, she is probably just taking a hit here and there to make the day a little nicer. Your girlfriend is just a stoner, nothing to worry about. Cannabis isn't like drinking or harder drugs, and a lot of menial labor jobs can absolutely be done “a little” high, as long as you are not messing up constantly or operating machinery.
I do feel that smoking should be done after my work is finished. But that's just because it gives me a bit of a panic attack sometimes if I have to worry about getting shit done. But I also don't work as a server. If I had one back when I did that job, I would probably be hitting it at work too.
On the other hand, it's way too easy with the vape pens to be high 24/7, so I feel like people should take a nice break every once in a while to get their head straight.
I have let her go finally… It hurts tho, alotttyt
Or not a dude.
Your friend is a taker and you're a giver. I don't think you need to cut her off entirely. Just don't be as responsive and don't allow her to go on for hours about some guy problem. Maybe ghost her a little. Pick back up again when you feel like talking to her – which might never happen.
After all, that's what she did to you.
Breakup he matched and messaged someone
Don't move in with someone you don't trust. Although he doesn't seem to have given you reason to not trust him.
He even admitted a while back that they both liked each other around the time we met, but he than decided to get together with me.
He choose you.
That in itself wouldn't bother me if he would tell me about it but I always find out from insta stories or when I ask who he is going with
He isn't trying to hide anything.
They spend 2 h alone at the gym a couple of times each week and he doens't tell me about it unless I ask.
I doubt the gym is empty and he probably doesn't mention it because it's not important.
Work on your insecurities and trust issues before you move in with anyone.
He even proposed to the girl when she turned 20