If you do want to save your relationship I can provide lots of resources on bettering this work load dynamic. They exist but I think at this point you've decided it's her job and you don't care.
You are not asking too much BUT he is unwilling to change. You want a more engaged BF. That’s very reasonable. This guy is just not the right fit for you. He’s content with how things are. You’re the one unsatisfied. (I think him liking other posts but never yours is questionable.)
One of the BIGGEST mistakes women make when dating is to try and change their partner. If you’re dating the right person it shouldn’t be this naked. You have to break up yourself. Don’t play this game I gave him a chance to break up. It makes you look weak. A good partner will make you feel confident in your relationship.
Also can we just point out that she was drunk, Hugh on ecstasy and the brother decided to hook up with her. Dude, you just don't have sex with anyone intoxicated and/ or on drugs. You just don't. You make out but then you stop because that person is in on frame of mind to consent probably. Which sort of validated OPs description of his brother as a garbage human.
Just talk to her again and try to get the main reason why she's upset. Just ask her, it won't hurt to ask. Hope everything works out though. I guess I'm just built differently. A guy watching porn isn't a big deal to me, but some people have issues with it. Maybe your girl does to but it just never came up in conversation
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If you do want to save your relationship I can provide lots of resources on bettering this work load dynamic. They exist but I think at this point you've decided it's her job and you don't care.
Ma’am if your boyfriend is going out regularly on all night coke binges then his relationship with another woman isn’t the problem, he is.
When I told my wife your post she said “id leave me too”. I think that sums it up.
You are not asking too much BUT he is unwilling to change. You want a more engaged BF. That’s very reasonable. This guy is just not the right fit for you. He’s content with how things are. You’re the one unsatisfied. (I think him liking other posts but never yours is questionable.)
One of the BIGGEST mistakes women make when dating is to try and change their partner. If you’re dating the right person it shouldn’t be this naked. You have to break up yourself. Don’t play this game I gave him a chance to break up. It makes you look weak. A good partner will make you feel confident in your relationship.
Also can we just point out that she was drunk, Hugh on ecstasy and the brother decided to hook up with her. Dude, you just don't have sex with anyone intoxicated and/ or on drugs. You just don't. You make out but then you stop because that person is in on frame of mind to consent probably. Which sort of validated OPs description of his brother as a garbage human.
Just talk to her again and try to get the main reason why she's upset. Just ask her, it won't hurt to ask. Hope everything works out though. I guess I'm just built differently. A guy watching porn isn't a big deal to me, but some people have issues with it. Maybe your girl does to but it just never came up in conversation