I came here to say the age gap is the problem, but the truth is the very short time you spent dating and culture crash is the real culprit here.
Expectation and reality, especially regarding pregnancy and child rearing, are two very different things. It doesn’t matter if she planned to have 3 kids, she is allowed to change her mind now that she’s doing it. And I am sorry to say but her opinion trumps yours when it comes to not having the kids because she’ll grow, deliver, breastfeed and take care of the majority of baby’s needs.
Also, she’s very young. Sounds like she didn’t think it through and now the reality is hitting her.
Also I feel like you and her have a gap in understanding (again not surprising given how fast you married). I am going to ignore the issues with your mom for now. The baby at the restaurant – you thought it was cute, she didn’t. She shushed that baby because she came to the restaurant to get away from a crying baby and there was another one there. She just wanted the baby to be quiet and have a moment of peace.
And this right here:
she’s said I can be more of a help and she can remember how to be nice
She’s literally telling you she’s stressed out and that’s why she’s lashing out. I suppose your parents have been helping but that only goes so far. And I understand you both work similar hours but she gave birth 4 months ago and I suppose is lactating. I can’t imagine it’s easy.
It may come across as unfair to you but honestly this is the time for you to be patient. Yes you’re going through a lot but so is your wife. There are a lot of books and helpful tips out there for parenting, the first year of the child’s life is said to be the hardest for the parents.
No it’s cryptic. Absolutely the right word.
r/legaladvice. She cant give up a child for Adoption without consulting the father (at least where I live). Good luck.
There will a time the only thing you will be texting back and forth is “Do you need something from the store?” anyway. Don’t worry about it.
as if she's leaving. she didn't go when he actually did message the other woman.
I came here to say the age gap is the problem, but the truth is the very short time you spent dating and culture crash is the real culprit here.
Expectation and reality, especially regarding pregnancy and child rearing, are two very different things. It doesn’t matter if she planned to have 3 kids, she is allowed to change her mind now that she’s doing it. And I am sorry to say but her opinion trumps yours when it comes to not having the kids because she’ll grow, deliver, breastfeed and take care of the majority of baby’s needs.
Also, she’s very young. Sounds like she didn’t think it through and now the reality is hitting her.
Also I feel like you and her have a gap in understanding (again not surprising given how fast you married). I am going to ignore the issues with your mom for now. The baby at the restaurant – you thought it was cute, she didn’t. She shushed that baby because she came to the restaurant to get away from a crying baby and there was another one there. She just wanted the baby to be quiet and have a moment of peace.
And this right here:
she’s said I can be more of a help and she can remember how to be nice
She’s literally telling you she’s stressed out and that’s why she’s lashing out. I suppose your parents have been helping but that only goes so far. And I understand you both work similar hours but she gave birth 4 months ago and I suppose is lactating. I can’t imagine it’s easy.
It may come across as unfair to you but honestly this is the time for you to be patient. Yes you’re going through a lot but so is your wife. There are a lot of books and helpful tips out there for parenting, the first year of the child’s life is said to be the hardest for the parents.
?? this comment is an edit. The initial comment was different and less than half the length.