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Date: October 28, 2022
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Dude I feel the same. Every partner I’ve been with says that I am too sexually needy. I hate having a high libido sometimes because I’m always judged for it. And for being a woman with a high libido, I can’t seem to find a man who can keep up ?
How do I express to him that what he did was wrong. He currently doesn’t think it was wrong because it was (sarcasm)
Don’t stop! When you’re there, you’ll know. It will feel easy!
It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed and are at a loss for what to do next. Right now, it may feel like giving up is the only option, but that is exactly what he wanted – for you to give up on yourself and your ability to move towards something better. I want to encourage you NOT to give in to these feelings of hopelessness and despair, because they don’t make anything easier or better! Instead, focus on taking small steps everyday that will help get you closer towards living a life that aligns with YOUR values. Reconnect with old friends if necessary; practice self-care; take some time off from dating if needed -all of these can help reboot your motivation while also allowing you some much needed space away from toxic relationships. From this space of confidence, clarity and strength then when the right person comes along they will stick around.
So after a year he hasn’t met your family? But you have met his.
You need to decide fairly shortly if you actually do like him and see a future with him or not, because you going to your family’s Christmas celebration alone will probably be the end of your relationship, maybe not directly then, but it will be the cause.
Simple fact is that even shy people…..
when feeling safe enough from judgements….
LOVE to talk about themselves to what they sense is an “accepting” ear.
Your challenge is not to get him to talk, but to let him know that it
is Safe and accepting enough to talk.
One lead-in you can use is self-disclosure, meaning you can start by
letting him know you are Trusting enough (see: “Assume Good Will”)
to share something with him trhat you don't usually share.
Then after you share, you can ask him what HE does to find enough comfort
to share like that.
Hopefully he will take the ball out of your hands.
Remember to ask Open-ended Questions. Good Luck.
I feel like on and off relationships never really end well
Based on OP's other comments, it sounds like dude was preying on her a bit but had a flash of conscience in the ebd.
Exactly. If he was in an accident the phone would be at the accident site. Not his friends house. Because he was at a football game most of the day, THEN went to his friends house. Didn’t answer the phone all day.
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OP you’ve posted that you never had a date and we’re a virgin when this guy approached you. You’re not in love, you’re just in love with getting attention for the first time. He’s picked up on your self esteem issues and is taking advantage of you.
I’m sorry, but being 19 and wanting to party is not a crime. If you’re over the bar scene maybe date someone your age or older who’s over it as well. Don’t make her miss out on her youth because you’re insecure.
The people concerned about cheating are weird
The people concerned a dumb 18 year old kid with a knife too big for himself is more likely a danger than a positive are on the right track
I'd go stay with family or neighbors until you felt safe at home again
You are encouraging her to commit defamation which is illegal. She can’t tell people he’s in possession of child porn when she knows he isn’t and she can’t tell people he likes little children when she has no proof to back it up.
Those are serious allegations, both of which she either knows are false or can’t prove which means so it would be very easy for him to sue her for defamation.
Serious allegations, like liking children require more than a verbal statement. Especially since the information came to light after he wouldn’t give into her demands.
Once proven false (which is easy, because one is a lie and one she doesn’t have proof of) his mother is more likely to testify on his behalf, then help her get the photos deleted.
But they’re a couple of passionate artists, silly, don’t you understand the rules of morality don’t apply :/
Have you had consultations or looked into programs for IVF to help out based on your circumstances? Maybe some kind of payment plan availability? There must be resources out there. I think Australia is pushing to make IVF free. Is it a procedure you could do abroad/ for cheaper in other countries? Would adoption down the road ever be something you consider?
If you're set on having a kid to the point of having one with him, that's your own choice and prioritization. But do yourself a favor; if you DO have a kid with him, do not stay with him for the sake of the child. Sounds to me like you'd be better off as a single parent receiving scant child support here and there than also supporting him. He is not a good person, not a good partner, and then you at least open yourself down the road to someone to fill the position of good partner/ parent.
u/Ebbie45
I do stuff like this all the time. Then I save them to my hidden album and send them to my husband from time to time. If you never receive these photos, it could be that she feels silly or insecure sending them, or they really truly are just for her. I don’t think it’s an indicator of cheating in and of itself. Are there other red flags?
When you told her to explore the area and not stay in bed all day, you were trying to fix the problem. When she told you she just wanted you to hold her, she was telling you that she was looking for understanding from you, not problem solving.
I’m getting better at asking my partner if he need solutions or just listening. I know that when he asks me what I need, I appreciate it so much because I have to stop for a second and really think about what I’m needing in that moment.
Your sleep is really important….and it sounded like she needed (again) you to hear her out. Instead, you told her the conversation had to end when you got home so you could chill and get to sleep. In the end, you got crappy sleep. My thought is, it would have gone better for you had you listened to her, comforted her, and then went to sleep.
Yes, you need to set boundaries for yourself. Of course you do. And…you need to find a way to be a good partner to her. She needs to talk, you need to listen. When there’s a big life change (moving, new job), she may need to talk more. This is normal.
Best way to approach this is that you're sorted. You've already got your 1 bed apartment and don't need anything else.
“Oh but we should move in together” “Sorry I'm already sorted”
It just needs to be that. And you're not wrong, moving in with a friend is a great way to test a friendship. Given her seemingly flaky style, fair chance it wouldn't go well.
All she needs to know is that you're sorted with what you've got. No more than that.
He does work in a field that has very high rates of domestic violence
Hmm.
It sounds like they won't be a good match, but even if you tell her she probably won't listen. All you can do is keep an eye out for signs of DV and offer her support when needed.
>>There’s a lot of nuance to the way he communicates, in which he expects me to read the words within his words and vice versa to pick up on what he wants to talk about and how. He says that any ordinary person would understand him, but I just don’t get the underlying meaning and it doesn’t seem so clear to me.
Look up crazy making behavior? I am sure that I am not autistic, but someone who expected me to read his mind or use witchcraft to “read the words within his word” would drive me bonkers. From your description, he has unrealistic communication expectations, it's not that you have some type of non-neurotypical wiring?
Nope!! Certain small things can be very telling about a person's character and this is one of them. It would be enough for me to dump him and move on.
And a lot of moms worry about their postpartum bodies. Even though she’s caught up with the kids I’m sure she knows she’s not having sex like she used to, It is possible she’s not feeling as attractive. If I was OP, my main worry would be if I made her feel inadequate to other women. This is just such a vulnerable time…
Then to the streets she goes, interestingly she goes on about women's sexual freedom but like it or not the more she gets run through the less her value. Men and women are very different in that aspect as its easier for women to get sex yet men have to build themselves up to get to that level. You were right to tell her she's free to leave and pursue her foolishness.
You're never going to be able to trust anything he says.
“How will I know that if you never let me test it”
Yep break ups are rough, the key to a successful break up and getting over it, is no communication, after the meeting or sooner, stop communication and block her out from anything. You don't need to see her social media, you do not need to see the guys she gonna start dating. You need to heal, work out, and use these negative emotions to become a better you. So today feel sad, cry, stay home, eat your favorite take out, watch movies or TV she hated that you enjoyed. Tomorrow when that feeling comes back go to the gym, listen to something loud and aggressive and run, lift weights. It'll hurt for how long I can't say. But it will gradually hurt less… then when your at a point when your ready go hit up the dating scene, find someone who will love you and commit to you. It'll be okay.
No they’re not essentially anything. That’s his dad’s girlfriend and his dad’s girlfriend’s kids and grandchild. Until they get married that’s all they are.
This is not at all about you liking a dress over him. He’s gaslighting. This totally about insecurity and him wanting to have bodily control over you. This is as red a flag as flags get. He doesn’t see you as an equal but as his property. Do not let him railroad you like this. I’m not going to tell you to dump him, that’s your decision. But you need to reframe this conversation in a way that asserts yourself as an equal to him and to at you won’t be told what to do or what to wear. This is where it starts. What about when he starts telling you who you can hang out with? “Is that person more important to you than me?” Where does that line of questioning end? You are your own person and if he can’t respect that then you need to leave him be.
I need to clarify something real quick…You are 25, and dating an 18 yo who has an ex from when he was 8?
rofl, why did you marry someone like this? arranged marriege?
Why do you think that's inappropriate? I don't see spending a lot of time with a friend as a red flag, neither for me nor for my partner. To the contrary, I think it's nice to have a friendship like that. What amount of time would you see as acceptable to spend with friends, or is the issue that they are the opposite sex?
Sometimes there are hard lines.
You laid out the opposite boundary to him first. You said you weren't going to change on this. Now he's saying he doesn't accept that.
Either you two find some kind of compromise or you walk away. There isn't a third option. The two of you want contradictory things and have clearly expressed them.
My only advice is you both sit down, be calm and non-judgemental and talk about your feelings towards porn. Don't argue with each other. They to understand each other. It may be in the process of coming to understand why each of you feels the way you do that one of you softens their stance. Maybe not. Don't make it an argument. Don't try to debate each other. Sincerely make an effort to understand and see if there is any change of heart.
Otherwise, walking away is the only option. You can't both have two contradictory things.
Miss ma’am you need to leave this BUM asap.
The silent treatment is used by children. What is your goal in giving him the silent treatment? You're still having to do everything you do because if you're not talking, you're not able to talk / plead / beg for his 'help' with his own children. There is obviously a lack of respect (towards you) and communication because of the shit way he treats you. The silent treatment will never get you the partner you deserve. Tip toeing around ones partner as to not set them off does not make for a healthy relationship, no matter the troubles that one party may have.
Don't get me wrong. The last time we talked about it he wanted to me to decide without pressure I talk about my miscarriage from a previous relationship and the fact that I was so happy to be pregnant and was gonna have a baby
You go to as many interviews as you want! You'll know when to stop looking. But do your research on the companies you're shooting for~ don't fall for a too good to be true trap
Maybe to see if she really values this relationship. Not being on anyone else’s time. she never experienced living alone and wants to do it at least once.
Thank you.
You want to change the rules instead of changing yourself.
This is on him. There is nothing you can do but encourage him to seek therapy. His rationale and judgment is going to prevent him from having a meaningful connection to anyone if he can't get past the insecurity that is undoubtedly fueling this. Hoping it is not based on misogyny.
Ah no that is not remorse that is upset at her being caught and fear over possibly losing her hold over you. She boldface lied to you. I also wouldn’t doubt if more didn’t happen but that really isn’t important because regardless she is a cheater and a liar. She is a complete waste of your time and energy.
I’ve worked in crisis psych intervention for several years. It was my job to assess and decide if someone be involuntary committed and taken to a hospital/held against their will and then to organize making that happen with law enforcement, family members, etc….it was not an easy thing to do logistically and legally, often even if they very obviously did need it.
Assuming this took place in America, there’s one of three things going on here: 1. The post is lying and this didn’t happen 2. The post is leaving out massive chunks of information about what dangerous behavior the wife was doing to cause this. And I mean it had to be incredibly dangerous. 3. You guys have a massive lawsuit against the people responsible on your hands.