she hates my friends and always says that they harass and bully her when they see her, but I just know that's not true
You sure about that? This is where you’re showing her you’re not interested in her. Also having a baby and giving up a child for adoption can be hard, if she was pressured by you or your family during either process she may have built up resentment to the point she’s lost interest in you. Or maybe she tries to tell you how she feels but you shut it down the way you do when she shared how she feels about your friends. Granted since it’s gotten so bad therapy is probably needed here and if she won’t go, then yeah, probably best to move on. Better to divorce then for either of you to waste more time in a relationship neither of you want anymore.
she hates my friends and always says that they harass and bully her when they see her, but I just know that's not true
You sure about that? This is where you’re showing her you’re not interested in her. Also having a baby and giving up a child for adoption can be hard, if she was pressured by you or your family during either process she may have built up resentment to the point she’s lost interest in you. Or maybe she tries to tell you how she feels but you shut it down the way you do when she shared how she feels about your friends. Granted since it’s gotten so bad therapy is probably needed here and if she won’t go, then yeah, probably best to move on. Better to divorce then for either of you to waste more time in a relationship neither of you want anymore.