That's a pretty selfish take though, don't you think? You're advocating for keeping this side of her secret up until dude is in love with her enough to move in together? Doesn't that seem unfair to the guy to cultivate emotions as well as steal away his time on the pretence that it's “ok” so long as it's just casual?
Casual relationships are as much a “life” resource heavy burden as long term committed relationships. Those minutes he spends with her under false pretenses are minutes he could be spending with someone who aligns with his world view. Dude should be granted the courtesy of and honest and open discussion before she wasted his time, not after
Well… Do you have a crush on her?
If so, this is a green light.
Brains aren't fully developed till 25. He was a horny teenager. Let it go.
That's a pretty selfish take though, don't you think? You're advocating for keeping this side of her secret up until dude is in love with her enough to move in together? Doesn't that seem unfair to the guy to cultivate emotions as well as steal away his time on the pretence that it's “ok” so long as it's just casual?
Casual relationships are as much a “life” resource heavy burden as long term committed relationships. Those minutes he spends with her under false pretenses are minutes he could be spending with someone who aligns with his world view. Dude should be granted the courtesy of and honest and open discussion before she wasted his time, not after