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Thanks for your advice! Some of the things I mentioned were less significant than the real stuff but I just felt I needed to give some more context as to how my opinion is treated. I'm just worried that if I do everything she asks without giving my opinion, that she'll expect it to always be that way in the future
I was given a massage certificate for Christmas this last year, and I've only been 2 other times in my life, and I dozed off a little while I was on my back and she was working in my legs. When I came back to, I had a slight moment, literally the shake of my head, of a ptsd reaction where I felt I was being molested and didn't know where I was. Of course, she wasn't doing anything wrong, it was my body's reaction to a certain stimuli. I've just gotten out of an abusive relationship and have a history of assault, so it makes sense.
Strange behaviour from your wife….. but not enough to end your marriage. Wait to see if there is anymore, and if there is, leave. The fact that you are asking us shows you are not sure yourself, wait and be sure.
So, tell him you know about the other ladies and you don’t want him bringing just anyone around the kids. I understand why you want him to know you know. I would also, maybe it’s a pride thing… I dunno.
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Thanks for your advice! Some of the things I mentioned were less significant than the real stuff but I just felt I needed to give some more context as to how my opinion is treated. I'm just worried that if I do everything she asks without giving my opinion, that she'll expect it to always be that way in the future
I do too.
I was given a massage certificate for Christmas this last year, and I've only been 2 other times in my life, and I dozed off a little while I was on my back and she was working in my legs. When I came back to, I had a slight moment, literally the shake of my head, of a ptsd reaction where I felt I was being molested and didn't know where I was. Of course, she wasn't doing anything wrong, it was my body's reaction to a certain stimuli. I've just gotten out of an abusive relationship and have a history of assault, so it makes sense.
Bodies get touched, bodies react.
Source: am woman, also am a cheated on woman
Strange behaviour from your wife….. but not enough to end your marriage. Wait to see if there is anymore, and if there is, leave. The fact that you are asking us shows you are not sure yourself, wait and be sure.
This really sounds pretty horrible, and like she is too self-centered to become a good mom.
So, tell him you know about the other ladies and you don’t want him bringing just anyone around the kids. I understand why you want him to know you know. I would also, maybe it’s a pride thing… I dunno.