Uh.. it's cool if that's something you do not think is appropriate in your relationships. That's your choice. But stop acting like you know the objective truth about how everyone should lead their lives.
I'm autistic and am in chronic pain. I have a very considerate friend who I talk to often and meet weekly, who will ask me how I'm feeling or if I've been sleeping well because he knows not to invite me anywhere on a “bad day”. He's almost twice my age, and no, we're not having an affair, emotional or otherwise.
My boyfriend videocalled his best friend every day for almost a month while she was going through a really rough time and was suicidal. Making sure she ate and slept was just part of it.
And we are both perfectly ok with that. It is not abnormal for friends to care about each other's well-being. What's really inappropriate here IMO is that OP has never heard of Jackie before, hasn't met her, isn't part of any of these conversations and says her partner got defensive about it. That's the difference – I was in the background in most of those calls my partner had with his friend and occasionally also helped by cooking meals to bring over. My partner knows my friend and sometimes reads along when we text. It's the hiding that makes this sus, not the content per se.
Uh.. it's cool if that's something you do not think is appropriate in your relationships. That's your choice. But stop acting like you know the objective truth about how everyone should lead their lives.
I'm autistic and am in chronic pain. I have a very considerate friend who I talk to often and meet weekly, who will ask me how I'm feeling or if I've been sleeping well because he knows not to invite me anywhere on a “bad day”. He's almost twice my age, and no, we're not having an affair, emotional or otherwise.
My boyfriend videocalled his best friend every day for almost a month while she was going through a really rough time and was suicidal. Making sure she ate and slept was just part of it.
And we are both perfectly ok with that. It is not abnormal for friends to care about each other's well-being. What's really inappropriate here IMO is that OP has never heard of Jackie before, hasn't met her, isn't part of any of these conversations and says her partner got defensive about it. That's the difference – I was in the background in most of those calls my partner had with his friend and occasionally also helped by cooking meals to bring over. My partner knows my friend and sometimes reads along when we text. It's the hiding that makes this sus, not the content per se.
No this dude deserves more than someone who would lie by omission for so long.
what does she say when you talk to her about it
Yeah. Some people will put up with toxic shit in order to be “trendy”.