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so it sounds like he actually has met this woman and she exists? oof, that's going to make it more difficult, especially since he's probably fallen head over heels after meeting her in person.
if you can, try to ask Chris for more details about Jessica. any photos, any identifying information, anything that could maybe help track down her real identity or reveal more about who she is. ask to see the marriage papers. hopefully he can put the pieces together enough to figure out there's something fishy, but he probably won't take it well if you directly tell him that you think she's a scammer.
this is a really difficult situation, I'm sorry. I think it's reasonable to do anything you can to pull him out of this, but unfortunately he's a grown man and his mistakes are his own to make. if you need to make up some reason to get him to fly home, I think that's fine, but it might end up hurting your relationship more in the long run.
ultimately, all you can do is let him know you'll always be here for him when shit inevitably hits the fan.
So in your comments you mentioned you talked and she basically lied and said it was joking.
You only in relationship for 7 months and she is doing this crap.
Send her one final message that if she has any stuff she needs to get it and then go no contact. Feel free to tell her lying to you about how it was joke just showed how little she respects you.
The move on. Sorry this happened… but find out now than later
Ace that interview and get that job. From what you mention in your post, for her to be able to bring that stuff up she has been thinking about it for a while and the potential job change makes a convenient scapegoat.
Since he is rich, she need to consult with several top divorce lawyers in her region. He can afford the best, but a really good divorce lawyer for OP will likely overcome that.
He doesn't believe in trickle down economics…he calls it voodoo economics. His economic platform is much more focused on reducing debt in California for instance. He is constantly talking about teacher's pensions, and how currently we've deferred more than 1.2 Trillion dollars in California, which just means every year California has less money to spend on its people.
He believes in a dutch-style healthcare system and so many other things which I can fill a whole page with.
“Works for them” isn't this couple.
He clearly didn't agree to not talk to anyone of the opposite gender, and OP posts this question every few days.
That’s a pretty low bar tbh.
You’re the one that called the break so HEY You reap what you sow
Her.
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well he got his dog from a puppy mill, so i’m assuming he doesn’t know as much as he thinks he does….
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so it sounds like he actually has met this woman and she exists? oof, that's going to make it more difficult, especially since he's probably fallen head over heels after meeting her in person.
if you can, try to ask Chris for more details about Jessica. any photos, any identifying information, anything that could maybe help track down her real identity or reveal more about who she is. ask to see the marriage papers. hopefully he can put the pieces together enough to figure out there's something fishy, but he probably won't take it well if you directly tell him that you think she's a scammer.
this is a really difficult situation, I'm sorry. I think it's reasonable to do anything you can to pull him out of this, but unfortunately he's a grown man and his mistakes are his own to make. if you need to make up some reason to get him to fly home, I think that's fine, but it might end up hurting your relationship more in the long run.
ultimately, all you can do is let him know you'll always be here for him when shit inevitably hits the fan.
So in your comments you mentioned you talked and she basically lied and said it was joking.
You only in relationship for 7 months and she is doing this crap.
Send her one final message that if she has any stuff she needs to get it and then go no contact. Feel free to tell her lying to you about how it was joke just showed how little she respects you.
The move on. Sorry this happened… but find out now than later
Exactly. This 100%
Do you want relationship advice or do you want to hear something specific?
OK, I'll give you a break.
She went on a date. That’s not the behavior of someone in a committed relationship. Not okay.
Your future at that program should be your biggest priority.
He sounds like another child that you have to take care of tbh.
Alt boys generally like alt girls and vice versa. I'm sure this is true of most subcultures, why is this confusing you
I did. She doesn't like confrontation so she doesn't do anything about it.
I just find it weird that her bro would bring up someone she used to sleep with…is that not weird on his part.
Ace that interview and get that job. From what you mention in your post, for her to be able to bring that stuff up she has been thinking about it for a while and the potential job change makes a convenient scapegoat.
Since he is rich, she need to consult with several top divorce lawyers in her region. He can afford the best, but a really good divorce lawyer for OP will likely overcome that.
I hope you think you're funny. I would delete your comment and stop pretending you have dated a woman.
Get a restraining order, a lawyer and sue his ass.
You will be amazed at what a real healthy relationship will make you feel.
You should work on you and your needs. You deserve it
He doesn't believe in trickle down economics…he calls it voodoo economics. His economic platform is much more focused on reducing debt in California for instance. He is constantly talking about teacher's pensions, and how currently we've deferred more than 1.2 Trillion dollars in California, which just means every year California has less money to spend on its people.
He believes in a dutch-style healthcare system and so many other things which I can fill a whole page with.
We did date in highschool.
I love your ex-girlfriend. She gave your nonsense exactly the response it deserved.
Misogyny?
Okay, what does she like to do? What are her hobbies? What makes her happy?