I was in this spot. At several points it ended in her crying in public after a nice weekend, because I wanted to go back to my home, and then out to play DND with my friends. It lasted another year and a half of MISERY. The best thing you can do is enforce a boundary that she can stick to. It is not a negotiation. If you are leaving, leave. If she does not let you STOP GOING OVER TO HER HOME. this is not your fault, and her feelings are not your responsibility.
What, exactly, is the point of this post? Doesn’t sound like you actually need advice, just that you want to let us know that monogamy is the right choice for you.
I was in this spot. At several points it ended in her crying in public after a nice weekend, because I wanted to go back to my home, and then out to play DND with my friends. It lasted another year and a half of MISERY. The best thing you can do is enforce a boundary that she can stick to. It is not a negotiation. If you are leaving, leave. If she does not let you STOP GOING OVER TO HER HOME. this is not your fault, and her feelings are not your responsibility.
What, exactly, is the point of this post? Doesn’t sound like you actually need advice, just that you want to let us know that monogamy is the right choice for you.