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It sounds like he's an asshole and you would be better off with someone else
Thanks. So he got a bio degree at around 21-22. He’s now 25. What’s he been doing?
He ask me on his own we never had a discussion on wether or not he should or shouldn’t ask me. Sometimes in the past he would just hangout with her and not tell me and sometimes he would just to make sure I feel okay with it. I do the same too. Sometimes I ask if he feels okay with me hanging out with my friends and sometimes I don’t. This situation I didn’t because I don’t get to see my friend anymore
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As I said, this applies to “the majority”. It’s a spectrum – some boys and young men are incredibly mature from a young age, others still aren’t as adults. Same with girls and women. But overall, like it or not, boys and young men mature at a slower rate. Blame society for doing it, don’t shoot the messenger for saying it.
A person can have the reading age of a 15 year old at the biological age of 8. A person can have the intellectual age of a 3 year old and be 21 years biologically. Both of those are real world examples.
Equally, a person can have the sexual maturity of a 10 year old at the biological age of 13. It’s not complicated.
His intent matters less than his impact on you. You've already been clear about your needs and wants. He's not confused anymore. He just wants to do what he wants to do and he doesn't care how it's impacting you.
and each time he says he just needs more time to save up and plan
So you're 2 years behind what you expected to happen. How much saving and plan is required? Has he ever gone into depth on that, I'd expect after 3 1/2 years you'd both be able to discuss the entire ins and outs of the saving and planning.
Do you think he's serious? Is it possible he just sees you as a port of call when he travels for business? Maybe he is serious, but I'd expect that the amount of saving, and the amount of planning is a two way open and transparent discussion.
“I know I'll never meet another man like him”
There's plenty of indecisive people out there, you could totally find another the same. That's tongue in cheek but even if he's one in a million, that just means there's 8,000 other people out there just like him. Either way it's fundamentally never true, you may meet better, or just simply different. Nobody's romantic happiness needs to be tied to someone who fundamentally isn't making them happy.
LOL, wow, she's got some issues. What an odd thing.
HAHA ? I’m a terrible person? Yeah okay
That is common for women/girls having that mindset. It takes a lot of long term, conscious effort shift that.
Deleted after you got your ass handed to you huh? Hopefully you were trolling. If not, you’re a coward. ?
What game is this dude playing tho ??
Im kinda hoping he cheats on me so I can just get it over with haha, after these comments Im just looking for a good reason to break up lol
Based on your comments, it would appear that your family may have reasons to not like Charlie. However, that doesn't give them the right to be disrespectful of your relationship. I grew up in a very Christian household, but was never taught to see people differently. My parents always taught us to treat everyone respectfully, but at the same time it was understood that we weren't to date or marry out of our religion. In my 20's I started to date a Muslim girl and my siblings were bugging me to invite her for Christmas. I sat my mom down ahead of time and explained to her that I don't expect you to like her, be happy for my relationship or even be supportive about it. What I do however expect is for you to be respectful because remember your son is also trying to be accepted by her family, and I'm sure you would hope her family treats me respectfully.
However, prior to the conversation, I already came to the conclusion that I like this girl, and I'm going to see where this relationship goes. This means if the conversation with my mom didn't go well, I knew I would have to choose and my choice was going to be my girlfriend. I wasn't going to be the person who make a choice by making no choice.
At some point, you're going to have choose what's more important. You can't please both sides in this situation, and in trying to please both sides you will be hurting someone eventually. If you plan on having a serious relationship with Charlie you're going to have to sit this one out and spend the holidays with his family. Anything else means you are choosing your family over Charlie. You've already made a note that his mother has made comments meaning his family is fully aware of the tension. You uninviting or not inviting Charlie just tells his family where your priorities are, and they will treat you the same way, you and your family are treating him.
This could also chip away at Charlie's patience as he understands where in the totem pole he stands. It's a tough choice, but you have to make that choice of what is going to make you happy in the long run. Anything else is just you wasting your time because you will just be putting a timer on when your relationship with Charlie or your family explodes. I don't care if he is or isn't a good boyfriend because he makes you happy. That's all your family should be focused on. You're a 30-year-old adult, that is fully capable of making her own choices.
Let's say you leave Charlie, and they have a problem with the next guy too, then what? Let's say the next guy is a saint, and they still don't approve of him, then what? I'm not ruling out what many in the comment section is suggesting, that Charlie might be a crappy partner. However, you get to choose who you want to be with. This is about your family trying to be disrespectful of your decision. They jumped to a conclusion about your boyfriend being abusive and then smeared his reputation with the rest of the family.
Charlie may have been late and a bit disrespectful when he was over but it wasn't out of malice. Maybe he's a dummy, maybe he wasn't taught social etiquettes, maybe he has ADHD. Whatever it is, there is no proof of malice and purposeful intent to be disrespectful. The same can't be said about your parents. They accused him of a very serious crime and then spread it to the rest of the family. Even after you told them that wasn't true, they didn't care. This is a purposeful act of malice. Whatever Charlie may be, he has to be a saint for not holding that over their head because I would be done with you and your family. That's the type of accusation that could get a person in serious trouble and could affect their personal and work life.
I would argue that in choosing to please both, you have actually played along in the act of hurting your boyfriend. In trying to keep the family happy and yourself happy, you supported the people that set out to destroy your boyfriend's life by making serious claims to damage his reputation. This makes you an unsafe partner, but that's just how I view it. Bottom line, it's time you to choose who you want. Sitting on the fence is you making a choice of agreeing with and supporting your family over Charlie. Something you've been doing this entire time.
I feel you. It is rough. Especially coming out of a terrible marriage.
I'm your age and started thinking about dating a few years ago. Dipped my toes in the water sometime later and freaked the heck out. Just creeps and weirdos matching me and shitting in my inbox, basically. No, I don't want to be your secret hotel hookup. No, my idea of “having fun” isn't just sex. No, I'm not interested in pictures of your weiner. No, I don't think it's cute that you asked me a get-to-know-you question and then told me my answer was stupid. Fuuuuuck that shit.
I almost gave up and was thinking being single really was just fine with me when I happened to match with someone who seemed promising. I was very skittish but we started talking, things clicked, we met up, and ended up falling ridiculously in love. He's a fantastic and wonderful person and totally worth slogging through the mucky pond kicking away mud suckers until I found him. I am glad I stuck it out just a bit longer so I could meet him.
Since you're already thinking it might not be so bad to stay single, my advice is to be REALLY picky about who you match with and even pickier about who you meet. Be forthright and blunt about what you want and what you expect from dating. Be upfront that you're not interested in hookups and that you will not be having sex until you're good and ready. A lot of the people not worth your time will self select out of the pool and save you a lot of time. And those you do connect with, be ready to disconnect the very first time they disrespect the boundaries you've set. When you make something very clear and someone bulldozes right over the line, take that as an indication of their character and don't bother with second chances.
Just keep saying no until someone comes along who is really worth saying yes to. They're out there.
Maybe if he helped carry the load, she might feel more like getting intimate with him.
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Putting aside the legalities/logistics for a moment, can you move out? Can you move in with a friend? Find a smaller/cheaper place?
If yes, then go to the landlord and explain the situation and see if/when you can move out. You may be stuck until June but it's worth a try.
If not, you'll have to cover the rent somehow. Get extra work hours, whatever you need. If I understand, it's another 6 months, so you'll have to make it work.
I don't think you can salvage the relationship, to be honest. He may be a nice guy but he's extremely irresponsible and not someone that you want to share a house or financial responsibilities with.
Learn from this. Don't rent a place that you can't afford on your own (I learned that one the very hot way). Don't rent an apartment with someone who is financially irresponsible
It’s the WAY that she does it that is controlling. It’s not a clear boundary. There IS no clear boundary. I am talking along, being as careful as I know how to be, and then I am rudely shushed. I don’t have issues being aware. In fact I AM being aware. And I didn’t take it as an invitation to continue talking. Instead she weirdly pressed me to talk DETAILS about what had transpired, which imo was not necessarily age appropriate, but, again, her kid, her choice. So I found myself trying to use age-appropriate ways to describe how will smith announced that Chris Rick should keep his wife’s name out of his mouth. SUPER weird. I was seriously just going to, while talking to my friend and NOT he kid, say that Will Smith had exhibited abusive behaviors and leave it at that.
I don’t have a problem following set boundaries, the issue is that there are no clear boundaries and in the middle of discussion, that I am being VERY mindful of, I am shushed.
And immediately following this the kid launched into a story about demons devouring people in haunted houses. So I am suspicious that the kid is not as sensitive as she thinks.
Again, it’s not the boundaries, it’s the lack of clear boundaries and aggressively cutting me off when, as far as I can tell, there is no ACTUAL reason and her response is more fear-based than anything. If that makes sense.
That is a nice way to view it but to me it was rather hurtful.
It OK to be engaged, but don't make wedding plans for a couple of years.
I would go back to the guy who at least pretended he wasn’t cheating on me before I even farted in this dude’s direction.
Your am asshole I'm sorry but WTF
You'd hurt because she won't tell you something which I'm assuming her girlfriend most likely asked her not to tell anyone and she actually didn't out of respect
You just made this about yourself
Nobody owes you anything if she didn't want to expose her girlfriend she had the right to keep it a secret regardless of how close the two of yiu where now brcaude of you
You no longer have a relationship with your sister and essentially once again because of your action you've alienated your parents from your sister
Overall this didn't need to happen if you didn't just keep quiet
I think you are right.
I doubt she's been through undergrad.
Yes!
Sounds like insecurity to me. There's nothing wrong about a good economy. If you can contribute more to the household then that should always be a plus.
Fig 1: The reason we should have some kind of cognitive test before posting on Reddit.
So, what is your take on her telling you to go have sex with someone else?
You said you were “worried for a bit”. Why? What specifically made you worried? Why do you now believe she is not cheating or contemplating cheating, because I have to tell you, if my partner said those things to me, I'd lose any amount of respect for them. Why is this ok for you? If she's ok with you sleeping with another woman, why not find one that feels about you the way you feel about her?
Yeah this is an odd post. I have been through some serious trauma and I noticed a few of my potential partners would start to act different if I told them too soon.
I learned to keep it to myself until at least 2+ years.
After reading your post and many of your responses, my thought is if I were him, I would need to see you waaaay less glued to your parents than you currently are. I know you love them, but think about what kind of malevolence it takes to destroy a daughter’s marriage, and a grandchild’s entire world. They aren’t good people. Get the hell away. Become an adult. Move a thousand miles away at least. Then you might be mature enough to consider a relationship. Only then would anyone with any self respect give a relationship consideration.
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Why are you chasing a 20 year old anyways?
Dump him. If he condones that behavior, what’s to say he wouldn’t eventually do that to you? Does he not care for the fact that his friend cheated on your friend? His friend is an asshole. You shouldn’t associate with assholes.
He did overreact for sure, but it's also not okay to eat someone's stuff without asking first. Especially in a fairly new relationship where neither of you really knows how these things work for the other person. I would've not flipped out like that but my current wife has never just taken random things from my fridge back when were dating for like 3 months…sounds like such a weird thing to do.
I think I’m more annoyed at the fact that he’s making it such a big deal? Okay I apologize but it’s not enough… this whole ordeal is making feel as though I’m stepping out when I’m really not
You having zero idea of whether any of that is anything but fiction and trying to get knocked up is idiotic. You not seeing the red flags and being so desperate to make a whole human being that you're not even trying to ensure their life will be stable has massive potential to end up being child abuse, yes.
Pull your head out of your ass. This isn't a game. If you want to be responsible for a whole other human being, start by showing the vaguest skerrick of responsibility for yourself.
Op, as a woman, I can tell you that the only reason I would consider those strips would be if I wanted to get pregnant. So be weary.
But let's give her the benefit of the doubt and have a conversation about the future with her, talk about those things, see if she opens up. If she doesn't even open up or give you any explanation, she isn't worth it. Don't be with someone who compromises your future without your consent.
I think in most cases it's not so much phobic as it is projection. They think gay guys must act the same way towards men as they act towards women….
That's awesome to hear! I think the therapy will help you to kinda sort through all these thoughts and emotions. One recommendation with therapy, go in with goals for yourself. And don't be afraid to look for a different therapist if the first one doesn't mesh right… It can take a bit of work sometimes to find a good one.
Honestly, he sounds like a good dude. Does he know exactly what you are dissatisfied with? Is there something you could have communicated or done sooner to have avoided feeling this way now?
I think the best route forward is to dig deep, examine your feelings, and communicate with him your appreciation for his support, talk up his good qualities for you, but that you are unsure this will work out and that therapy is going to help you process what you are going through and you can't guarantee that y'all will be together afterwards.
It's a difficult talk, but a respectful one. It lets him know where you are at, why you want to fight for the relationship, but allows him the opportunity to walk if this is not the parth he wants to take with you.
Your focus is going to have to be on yourself for awhile, and that can be very hot for a partner to go through.
Hopefully this has helped a little!
Idk but I feel like its very hot to bond with people nowadays. If youre different and don't follow the trend/what everyone else is doing then you will be excluded. Its harder to make friends. It was the same for me during university, most kids used social media all the time whereas I didnt use it much, they went to parties/clubs but I didnt enjoy it, they drank alcohol, smoke weed or other drugs but I dont enjoy that. I didn't have much in common with people so I understand why I couldn't make any friends. Only people I could befriend were weirdos and gays because they are more “open minded” so it was easier to hang out with them and just talk about anything. Its just my experience though.
Its possible that your bf is awkward or other men just dont consider him “man enough” to hang out with him.
As a rule of thumb: If you pressure your partner into cutting ties with old flames and friends you are the bad guy in that relationship. And the only outcome it will have is what you experience right now. Your behaviour is controlling.
You won't prevent your partner from having contact with an ex ever. Learn to deal with your insecurities or find someone that obeys your demands and will resent you in silence for it.
Yeah, I just feel bad about his situation. Thats all. I will move on tho.
So he needs to learn that chores are not one-and-done?
Will this chore chart have a frequency of chores? Kitchen counters and floors are a daily chore. Vacuuming is twice weekly. Emptying the garbage is twice weekly or more if needed. Taking out the recycling is weekly. Etc.
She wants a free dinner without him being interested. Yes, if only men could be so generous and invite random girls just to make them happy…
She's happy to use his desire to get into her pants at her advantage while criticizing him to do so. Talk about logic.
Damn, they really are. Now I’m feeling insecure about my body. ?
Just FYI, any article that uses “as many as X” is about as reliable as “the rhythm method”
Thank you
So you say horrible things when you are drunk and angry? Also both of you know that your relationship isn’t good when alcohol gets involved, yet you both regularly drink? What’s happening here? How are you going to promise change, even if she grants you forgiveness, if you haven’t looked at why and how what happened, could happen.
Fundamentally, you need to discuss your issues when not drunk. You feel she disrespected you with her actions. She apologised, but keeps doing it…so she clearly doesn’t agree with your assessment, that she is being disrespectful, yet for some reason can’t say that, when you guys talk about it. How’s your communication in general? Do you feel she is honest and open? Are you talking effectively about issues and do you invite her opinion or do you just get heated and shout horrible things at her?
So you say horrible things when you are drunk and angry? Also both of you know that your relationship isn’t good when alcohol gets involved, yet you both regularly drink? What’s happening here? How are you going to promise change, even if she grants you forgiveness, if you haven’t looked at why and how what happened, could happen.
Fundamentally, you need to discuss your issues when not drunk. You feel she disrespected you with her actions. She apologised, but keeps doing it…so she clearly doesn’t agree with your assessment, that she is being disrespectful, yet for some reason can’t say that, when you guys talk about it. How’s your communication in general? Do you feel she is honest and open? Are you talking effectively about issues and do you invite her opinion or do you just get heated and shout horrible things at her?
So you say horrible things when you are drunk and angry? Also both of you know that your relationship isn’t good when alcohol gets involved, yet you both regularly drink? What’s happening here? How are you going to promise change, even if she grants you forgiveness, if you haven’t looked at why and how what happened, could happen.
Fundamentally, you need to discuss your issues when not drunk. You feel she disrespected you with her actions. She apologised, but keeps doing it…so she clearly doesn’t agree with your assessment, that she is being disrespectful, yet for some reason can’t say that, when you guys talk about it. How’s your communication in general? Do you feel she is honest and open? Are you talking effectively about issues and do you invite her opinion or do you just get heated and shout horrible things at her?
Don’t date a guy who treats you badly. The end.
Completely agree with this.
Men should really also learn that shit like this from women as a woman isn't okay. I would never ever speak to my husband this way. Its hella disrespectful..
You aren't doing that kid any favors by staying and showing them it's okay to accept behavior like this.
Tell him it was the first time you had done that and you'd like to “practice”.
Seems like he probably got scared away by a not good sexual experience but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
How fun. Not. What I would do now is say “Ok its on you. The cost of the site is x amount, we have it on x day, x day x day. Its all up to you because I won't do anything from here on out.” And follow through with it.