Lmfao this girl has a crush on you. That’s what she’s saying. She wants you to make the first move. In fact she’s already made a move but by trying to say that you have a crush on her when in reality she has a crush on you, she’s making sure that she isn’t actually making the first room but leaving it open to you making a move if you feel like it. You’re just oblivious. Hahaha
I think you should find a new boyfriend or even go solo. Your partner sounds cruel and sadistic. You really deserve a supportive partner who won’t put you down.
There is no baby. She miscarried 6 years ago. We weren’t even together then. But she let me believe that I was the father alongside someone else as she’d narrowed it down to two dudes and didn’t bother with the further investigation until later down the line apparently.
Context: was there ever any infidelity in the relationship on either side? Is there potential that he had a different image of you when you first started dating?
If there were never any issues with cheating, tell him that you’ve always been faithful to your relationship with him since the start.
If there are past issues, you may want to get a support system in place in case things start to slide further downhill.
But it will though that's the point your missing rhe fact that most likely the husband will expect some level of help or expect an emotional bond between her and said child and if she still supports him and asks not to be involved with the child's life and not participate with parenting choices most likely what will happen is that she will look like the bad guy so yes it does directly impact her yes she can't change what has happened but she has every right to feel the way she does
Same. At some point, if they’re not doing it any longer, then their punishment for cheating should be having to hold the guilt and keep the secret well.
Have you never heard of an IP address? Good lord please tell me you’re not dumb enough to think it can’t be tracked just because you didn’t use your primary account. Whatever you used to sign up for the throw away can still be tracked to you, as can the account itself
I noticed it was missing on Friday night. I emailed the front desk about it and they told me I have to go in-person today to see all lost-and-found items. I’m praying it’s there.
A 21 year old woman should be able to go to a doctor on her own without pouting about it. This isn’t about a doctor’s visit, it sounds like she’s ready to get out and instead of being honest she’s chosen to pick a random event to make you look like the bad guy to relieve her guilt. You wish her well and focus on your internship and your own future.
That may be, but for the reasons I have said above, it's not a good idea. It leaves her in a very precarious state. If it works for you then great, but it's clearly not working for her.
I mean, aren’t all relationships “transactional” to a point? No need to treat it like a dirty word. It’s called give and take, or a division of labour.
He works and pays the bills (that is his transaction) and she agrees to keep the house clean instead of going out to work and paying the bills. If he quit his job and stopped paying the rent and bills, OP would have every right to feel aggrieved…so why doesn’t he?
Let’s be honest here, if you’re not working and don’t have kids then being a stay at home partner is definitely the better end of the deal. You could clean for just one or two hours of the day and your home would be more than clean enough…so I’m not in favour of letting OP off the hook quite so easily here. Keeping the house clean is literally the job she committed to doing.
Completely agree about the terrible communication, though. These are two people in their early 20s still trying to figure out how to talk to each other like adults.
Exactly what I was thinking. All his other friends brought their SO’s and only her fiancé and one other guy went without someone. And the other guy is hooking up- is OP really stupid enough to think her fiancé is just sitting by and not finding his own hook-ups? There’s no way this guy, who is acting all shady already, is really just “waiting around outside the door” while his friend gets laid.
Trust me. You'd rather be single than trapping yourself in a sinking ship. One of these will result in temporary sadness folloeed by healing. The other is permanent sadness, that is if it lasts in the first place. That's too much resentment for a person to handle.
You wont get that. Ever. As someone who got cheated on myself: please remember what cheating tells you about someones character. He ist egoistic bordering narcissistic, has no empathy, will only prioritize himself, has no morals. So see it from his perspective: what would it bring him to tell you the truth. Nothing. Now you still stay and he doesnt see himself as guilty and never will. He sees himself as a victim of his feelings and possibilities.. You need to protect yourself. Make the right decision for you and divorce
What do you mean you don’t know why she amass a divorce? She doesn’t want to raise your exes child. This is perfectly reasonable of her. She’s not trying to stop you seeing your son. She’s being reasonable about that part of it. Personally I’d not have put myself on that situation either. Looks like your ex reached out to you because of money and it will be a messy situation. Your wife likely feels she’ll be better off out of the drama, as will the children you share with her.
As for all the other stuff you need to speak to an attorney.
well, for starters it helps if you talk to your fiends and family, which if they are like virtually everyone on the planet, they will tell you to leave also. They are also in the best position to help get you away from this person..It isn't nude. You aren the one fucking hookers bb and then banging your GF after. You are the one who is just too 'whatever' to leave. Tell your friends and family and then just leave, block the dude and start a new life without a lowlife in it.
I agree with others burn the letter. I glad you when no contact with your mom again. She chose your cheating BFF and BF over you, her own daughter. That is the worst kind of betrayal.
It's just a kink. You must have shared other kinks in your previous sexting, as it seems strange he has suddenly gone full on kink mode. Should he have checked you were OK with this new kink beforehand? Yes. Is he a pedo? No
An enormous number of women call their partners “Daddy”. Do you think they might be paedophiles as well? Obviously not. What about couples that have rough sex. Is one of them a rapist? Or what about lesbians that use a strap on. Are they men? NO! This list is endless and I cannot see how most of the current responses to your OP cannot see this.
Speak to your bf, tell him you don't like this scenario and that you don't want to do it again.
Who told you that you were being insecure about this? Him? Cause you’re definitely not! Babe you deserve so much better and not someone that constantly triggers you and doesn’t care about it. I would have been left him after he told me I was controlling!
Cardi B drugged and robbed people. But that's OK, I guess…
Shes a bit of a narcissist and enjoys the go kibbles.
Far warning, they arent someone to pin any hopes of a long term stable relationship with.
Narcs always cross the line and are very good as gaslighting and very good at downplaying.
By allowing him to continue the way he is, she is an active participant. She'd cut your balls off if you allowed that with another woman.
Thats just a friendly heads up. She believes you to be a doormat.
Sounds good
Take her from behind to pound town and see if she comments any differently then.
Lol
Between 1 hour and 1 week
You should have talked to the husband first. This was a thoughtless move.
Lmfao this girl has a crush on you. That’s what she’s saying. She wants you to make the first move. In fact she’s already made a move but by trying to say that you have a crush on her when in reality she has a crush on you, she’s making sure that she isn’t actually making the first room but leaving it open to you making a move if you feel like it. You’re just oblivious. Hahaha
You put in the work to cook a nice meal, you get to bask in the praise. Fishing for compliments my ass.
Cooking for people is a really nice thing to do, it would be a shame if your BF got you to stop. Idk what his problem is
I think you should find a new boyfriend or even go solo. Your partner sounds cruel and sadistic. You really deserve a supportive partner who won’t put you down.
So you’re attracted to douchebags? Oof, I wouldn’t want you to be my girlfriend.
There is no baby. She miscarried 6 years ago. We weren’t even together then. But she let me believe that I was the father alongside someone else as she’d narrowed it down to two dudes and didn’t bother with the further investigation until later down the line apparently.
I get what you're saying but honestly I didn't get the creepy vibe from her. She's not a bad person, she's a frustrated person.
She and I aren't meant to be but I want the best for her. I hope she's more honest with people in the future because she's got a lot to offer.
Context: was there ever any infidelity in the relationship on either side? Is there potential that he had a different image of you when you first started dating?
If there were never any issues with cheating, tell him that you’ve always been faithful to your relationship with him since the start.
If there are past issues, you may want to get a support system in place in case things start to slide further downhill.
Oops, missed the NB part. Sorry. But the sentiment stands — OP needs to get over herself.
But it will though that's the point your missing rhe fact that most likely the husband will expect some level of help or expect an emotional bond between her and said child and if she still supports him and asks not to be involved with the child's life and not participate with parenting choices most likely what will happen is that she will look like the bad guy so yes it does directly impact her yes she can't change what has happened but she has every right to feel the way she does
Sounds like he has a “dark” sense of humor
Are you fucking kidding me right now
In other words, college graduate dating highschool girl. sound creepy now?
Same. At some point, if they’re not doing it any longer, then their punishment for cheating should be having to hold the guilt and keep the secret well.
“It's LeviOsa, not LeviosA. ?”
she works at an event, her boss said its okay if i want to come in. They even let me trough the back
It's sad but sometimes we need a wake up call that kinda shake things up.
Whatever you guys end up deciding can make you stronger and more mature, together or not.
Have you never heard of an IP address? Good lord please tell me you’re not dumb enough to think it can’t be tracked just because you didn’t use your primary account. Whatever you used to sign up for the throw away can still be tracked to you, as can the account itself
I noticed it was missing on Friday night. I emailed the front desk about it and they told me I have to go in-person today to see all lost-and-found items. I’m praying it’s there.
Doesn't seem strange at all if you take 2 seconds to look at context.
If he would have said “hey that's my space, I'd prefer not to do that in the future”, it's a totally different story
That's a huge obstacle.
A 21 year old woman should be able to go to a doctor on her own without pouting about it. This isn’t about a doctor’s visit, it sounds like she’s ready to get out and instead of being honest she’s chosen to pick a random event to make you look like the bad guy to relieve her guilt. You wish her well and focus on your internship and your own future.
That may be, but for the reasons I have said above, it's not a good idea. It leaves her in a very precarious state. If it works for you then great, but it's clearly not working for her.
I mean, aren’t all relationships “transactional” to a point? No need to treat it like a dirty word. It’s called give and take, or a division of labour.
He works and pays the bills (that is his transaction) and she agrees to keep the house clean instead of going out to work and paying the bills. If he quit his job and stopped paying the rent and bills, OP would have every right to feel aggrieved…so why doesn’t he?
Let’s be honest here, if you’re not working and don’t have kids then being a stay at home partner is definitely the better end of the deal. You could clean for just one or two hours of the day and your home would be more than clean enough…so I’m not in favour of letting OP off the hook quite so easily here. Keeping the house clean is literally the job she committed to doing.
Completely agree about the terrible communication, though. These are two people in their early 20s still trying to figure out how to talk to each other like adults.
Exactly what I was thinking. All his other friends brought their SO’s and only her fiancé and one other guy went without someone. And the other guy is hooking up- is OP really stupid enough to think her fiancé is just sitting by and not finding his own hook-ups? There’s no way this guy, who is acting all shady already, is really just “waiting around outside the door” while his friend gets laid.
YTA
for telling her to STFU
You could have done it in a much better way
He pulled a Schitts Creek
Even if is for another thing, is still ungrateful. Is what is on her mind.
Oh babe, do you really want to sign up to a life of him never going down on you?
Trust me. You'd rather be single than trapping yourself in a sinking ship. One of these will result in temporary sadness folloeed by healing. The other is permanent sadness, that is if it lasts in the first place. That's too much resentment for a person to handle.
And this, class, is what we call projecting.
He’s cheating
You wont get that. Ever. As someone who got cheated on myself: please remember what cheating tells you about someones character. He ist egoistic bordering narcissistic, has no empathy, will only prioritize himself, has no morals. So see it from his perspective: what would it bring him to tell you the truth. Nothing. Now you still stay and he doesnt see himself as guilty and never will. He sees himself as a victim of his feelings and possibilities.. You need to protect yourself. Make the right decision for you and divorce
Its absolutly his responsiblity. You shouls just be able to chuck it in the machine. You arnt his care taker! Dont do his washing if he cant help.
People will call another insecure while simultaneously causing the insecurity and this is a perfect example.
What do you mean you don’t know why she amass a divorce? She doesn’t want to raise your exes child. This is perfectly reasonable of her. She’s not trying to stop you seeing your son. She’s being reasonable about that part of it. Personally I’d not have put myself on that situation either. Looks like your ex reached out to you because of money and it will be a messy situation. Your wife likely feels she’ll be better off out of the drama, as will the children you share with her.
As for all the other stuff you need to speak to an attorney.
she needs professional help. She may be psychotic or something.
Firstly a large high five for going back to school to change your career, it’s not easy and I have a lot of respect for people who do.
Sorry but he either doesn’t ever want to get married, or there is something else stopping him.
So you need to have a conversation with him and lay out your expectations, and ask him his, and then see if they match.
well, for starters it helps if you talk to your fiends and family, which if they are like virtually everyone on the planet, they will tell you to leave also. They are also in the best position to help get you away from this person..It isn't nude. You aren the one fucking hookers bb and then banging your GF after. You are the one who is just too 'whatever' to leave. Tell your friends and family and then just leave, block the dude and start a new life without a lowlife in it.
I agree with others burn the letter. I glad you when no contact with your mom again. She chose your cheating BFF and BF over you, her own daughter. That is the worst kind of betrayal.
It's just a kink. You must have shared other kinks in your previous sexting, as it seems strange he has suddenly gone full on kink mode. Should he have checked you were OK with this new kink beforehand? Yes. Is he a pedo? No
An enormous number of women call their partners “Daddy”. Do you think they might be paedophiles as well? Obviously not. What about couples that have rough sex. Is one of them a rapist? Or what about lesbians that use a strap on. Are they men? NO! This list is endless and I cannot see how most of the current responses to your OP cannot see this.
Speak to your bf, tell him you don't like this scenario and that you don't want to do it again.
Girl. LEAVE.
This here ⬆️
Who told you that you were being insecure about this? Him? Cause you’re definitely not! Babe you deserve so much better and not someone that constantly triggers you and doesn’t care about it. I would have been left him after he told me I was controlling!
The guilt of lying to her in her final days will gnaw at op forever