Your marriage is supposed to be your priority, not your parents. You left them behind when you got married her and made a family of your own. They have hurt her before, can you blame her for hesitating? Regardless of what happened or the reasoning, she was hurt. That should be enough for you to stand by her. Your children especially need to see you prioritize your marriage and their mother, it teaches them where their priorities should lie when THEY leave your house. As far as your parents, if they can’t respect your wife then they’re also not respecting YOU. Are people who disrespect your wife, marriage, YOU, worth all of the strife it’s caused? No. It shouldn’t be.
Sounds like he's made up his mind then, and there's not a whole lot you can do to convince him otherwise. If it's out of insecurities, then that's something he needs to work on.
I have to ask now. You only asked for ways to convince him that you didn't cheat instead of saying you didn't cheat. Did you cheat?
let's try another question – why would you want to be with someone who when jealous stretches to call you a pedophile?
i really don't know if you noticed the sister's but, BUT she is 16 and you are 20. I just feel like pedophile means something entirely different from that.
Men and women can be platonic friends. You having this opinion that they cannot is wrong and toxic. Maybe you are unable to be friends with a woman without a goal. If you keep this mentality you won’t have many friends growing up.
You do sound controlling.
Maybe suggest meeting him, having lunch together etc.
But if she has known him her whole life, she will and should pick that friendship over your barely new relationship, assuming you cause issues for their friendship.
Your marriage is supposed to be your priority, not your parents. You left them behind when you got married her and made a family of your own. They have hurt her before, can you blame her for hesitating? Regardless of what happened or the reasoning, she was hurt. That should be enough for you to stand by her. Your children especially need to see you prioritize your marriage and their mother, it teaches them where their priorities should lie when THEY leave your house. As far as your parents, if they can’t respect your wife then they’re also not respecting YOU. Are people who disrespect your wife, marriage, YOU, worth all of the strife it’s caused? No. It shouldn’t be.
Sounds like he's made up his mind then, and there's not a whole lot you can do to convince him otherwise. If it's out of insecurities, then that's something he needs to work on.
I have to ask now. You only asked for ways to convince him that you didn't cheat instead of saying you didn't cheat. Did you cheat?
I sometimes feel that’s the case but I’m don’t want to assume negative things about her
let's try another question – why would you want to be with someone who when jealous stretches to call you a pedophile?
i really don't know if you noticed the sister's but, BUT she is 16 and you are 20. I just feel like pedophile means something entirely different from that.
Men and women can be platonic friends. You having this opinion that they cannot is wrong and toxic. Maybe you are unable to be friends with a woman without a goal. If you keep this mentality you won’t have many friends growing up.
You do sound controlling.
Maybe suggest meeting him, having lunch together etc.
But if she has known him her whole life, she will and should pick that friendship over your barely new relationship, assuming you cause issues for their friendship.
What is there to value?